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I'd like to share some serious thoughts on this subject. At times when I read certain posts on here, my rebelious reflex kicks in.
Such as what is or is not self mastery and to who's standards? For instance I enjoy playing practical jokes on people at times. There are times, when I myself engaging in my own forms or regressive age play. There are times when I do do some crazy things out in public. Mind you without the intention of causing anybody any harm.
Personally, I myself am a rather bit of a non-conformist type of guy. I honestly get and understand the positive concept of self mastery, I'm also aware the dangers involved in embracing stereotype images, and trying to fall rank in file into what other people believe is self-mastering.
There are some golden rules of conduct that I myself follow. Again, back to not causing anybody any true or real harm. Even that could be questionable through out periods of time in my life. Because it's within my nature to desire to harm others that cause true or real harm to others. Trust me, when I say my own personal Temperence has been the only thing that has held me in check at times. However, even my temperence has a limit or level. This is all from knowing myself and what I'm fully capable of doing.
Again just what is honestly Mastering oneself or another person? According to what standards?
In many regards, some people when they watch me play guitar, have this strange notion that I've fully mastered it. Personally, I know my playing level is up to professionalism. However, I still learn new things, new tricks, or new patterns and things to do. I can not honestly say that I've fully Mastered it. I've been playing guitar since I was kid. Many Many Many years of practice. I can say I've Mastered Vibrato techniques, I've Mastered finger tapping techniques. I've mastered string bendings. I've Mastered Barr and open chords. I've Mastered Chord inversions. I've mastered Emulating sounds like a number of guitarist. However, have I fully mastered playing guitar? Not really. Will I ever have fully Mastered it? Not really. Also, each and every guitar I own, has it's own sound, unique feel. The Harmonics, Sustain and feel of the neck are all different. I many senses, I have somewhat Mastered the differences between each guitar. I tap into these differences when ever I change guitars. This is the very reason why I change to different guitars when playing a show.
Still, I do not consider myself has having Mastered guitar. Has it stopped me from playing guitar? LOL.. From being a guitar player? Did it ever stop me from playing music out in front of people, regardless of how well I had or had not Mastered it? I practiced and worked like hell on various songs. Mastering the song, along the way. Still there was a big difference between the first time I played a song out in public compared to the 30th or 40th performance of the song live.
BDSM is well really the same. First time, I spanked somebody's ass and the 30th or 40th time doing such. Then finding the differences in my Partners. The unique qualities and strengths. Tapping into their natural talents and skills. Taking time to explore things about them. Getting inside their minds. At any point in time can I say, I've Mastered myself, them or BDSM. Not really. It's an on going learning and experience.
I honestly don't and can't precribe to the DOMGA concept of complete and fully Mastery of Anything. Be it of playing guitars, BDSM, of myself, other people, of computer programming, and many other things I do in day to day life.
Now, I'm going to admit to having something from time to time. Arrogance. However, I'm only arrogant when faced with dealing with so-called-know-it-all types, that are below my skill level. Trust me, Narcissistic and Arrogant people that get off on putting other people for the fun or hell of it, those people are that being all Cocky to cover up for their own short comings, fears or insecurities. I tend to become rather Arrogant around these type of people. Perhaps this is not all that of a Masterful thing to be, at times. It is however simply put, part of me and who I am or can be at times.
I am not that conservative, quiet, well manner, guy sitting in the corner. I'm very much extroverted, not so conventional, at times outspoken, and not so shy. Does these mean that I'm not in control of myself? Not really, I'm fully aware of what I'm doing. I'm also extremely aware of my surroundings too. Let's just say, I'll have eyed up and watched every single person around me. I tend to do this at all times. I'm all the time scoping out my surroundings. Trust me, I'm not blind to what's going on with the people around me. I also get the layout of the place(s) I'm at quickly down in my mind.
These same details apply, to people I'm involved in a relationship. I'm reading their body language, I notice and pick up on small details, tones of voices, postures. I ask questions. I assert myself if I see something that just does not feel or seem right. This also applies to BDSM play as well.
Anyways, just what honestly is Mastering anything? Some people thought they had the Stock Market mastered in the 80's, as I recall a few people ending up committing suicide even. Some people at Enron thought they had big business Mastered, making a shit load of crazy money, living high on the hog. Clearly these people obtained a standard of living well above most people on this message board. Crash and burn. People looking at Jail time, think somebody ended up pulling the Motel 6 checkout in life (suicide) as a result of it too.
Not everybody who thinks they have something Mastered means it Good or Bad thing. People that have somehow Mastered or appear to have Master the world, even fall flat on thier faces.
I knew a guy in Florida. He was into Real Estate Development. He made a shit load of money. Then one day, a joint business venture he was in, went bad. Turns out the other party was rather shady. He ended up loosing everything he had worked for for most of his life. One Deal Gone bad. At times, all it takes is getting hooked up with the wrong people to bring your ass down. He managed to work through a lot of bad things. However, he learned and grew from it as a person. Made his come back. His wife stuck by his side 100% in the process. It was not all about money, it was about their relationship.
This dude lost everything... she was the one that carried their ass money wise for awhile. He went into a state of deep depression for awhile.
At times people become finacially unstable. Acts of God can occur. Can loose money and wealth at a drop of time in a bad deal. Be it in the stock market, or Real Estate Development Deal. Some people think they have Mastered cheating the system, all the Loop holes and such. They get too over confident in their Game. This seems to a common thing in all the cases above. Being Over Confident.
I think the concept of Mastering anything at all is rather Subjective, a little Fuzzy, and well the very moment you think you have the world by the balls, is when the carpet might just pulled out from under you. At times, I enjoy being the carpet puller too, to make somebody see their own weakness. But I'm an Ethical Bastard, you might not like me if you are an UnEthical Bastard.
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