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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/18/2006 2:33:22 PM

MistressMaxine

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I have always considered myself a BBW, and have never had any complaints or problems finding a partner- male/female, vanilla or D/s.
I think beauty, truly is in the eye of the beholder.
I prefer men to have meet on them...much more to play with and enjoy...and I would think the same for a woman. A "fit" women is attractive, but honestly- I enjoy having a shapely ass, big breasts and supple thighs....but thats just me!

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/20/2006 12:24:54 AM

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MistressMaxine,
Having seen your pic, I'd have to agree with you. YOU have FULL right to your other b. Lady, you are beautiful. (Don't let anyone tell ya different) ;)

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/20/2006 8:00:39 AM

stacyandjohn

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There are some men who like skinny mistress other wants BBW domme .....
and believe me i prefer BBW domme than normal domme ....

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/20/2006 6:11:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: CodenameV

One other thing I find interesting is this....why do the larger women 'need' to use made up terms like BBW? I mean, if that's their thing, fine. But to me it just seems easier to say 'fat.' And I don't mean that as a slam, as I have said, even some of my larger friends say fat as opposed to BBW. BBW is a qualifier. It's like saying "I'm pretty....pretty big" I mean, even medical definitions say that the girl is fat. Why hide from that unless you're ashamed? And by that token, if you're happy the way you are.....why be ashamed? It's like the lady I worked with.....she sounded so proud when she said she was fat. It honestly didn't phase her a bit.

That always surpised and kind of stuck with me.

The weird thing about our (American) society is our need to hide from the truth. If you're fat, and you're happy.....then be it. And be honest about it. I have what I think is a large nose and chin......my chin looks like freakin' Jay Leno and my nose almost looks like I"m wearing one of those pairs of those novelty glasses (slight exageration, maybe). But I don't hide them (how could I?) I just accept them. It's me....you take it or leave it because I have no money nor inclination to get plastic surgery.

Why does anyone care whether BBW is used? Why do you feel people "hide" behind "BBW"? What makes you think that people who use BBW are misrepresenting themselves? If they think they are beautiful and you don't, agree to disagree and move on.

In the grand scheme of things there are many more serious things to worry about in this world...

Be well,
Julie

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/20/2006 7:50:36 PM

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If they can't go beyond outer appearance and see the heart, then they're not really worth looking at, as Dom or sub. I've had a BBW sub, and loved it - cuddliness is great! Focus on confidence in yourself - what makes you feel beautiful and strong as a Domme is what you should be going for. Keep looking - the perfect sub is out there for you!

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/20/2006 10:41:45 PM

apb

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Where to begin? I agree with many comments posted here ... most notably the "if they can't see beyond external appearance .... " I have had tall, short, skinny and not skinny lovers. I typically don't like blondes but that is based on two bad relationships with blondes ... and doesn't mean I will turn away a cute blonde ...

I can say that I have been obsessed with my own weight most of my teenage and adult life. I have been as close to anorexic as you can get without actually being anorexic and I am sure I have IBS thanks to my ridiculous eating habits over the years.

So, would I rather be with a skinny person who is obsessed with their looks or someone who is content with themselves and the way they look? I will take a content person anyday - and I am much more about the person inside than the one outside. I have been with the gorgeous svelte model types more than once (and been ABSOLUTELY miserable).

My lover brings to me everything I need and want. She is a Domme, she knows what she likes and what she wants, she loves me, nurtures me, feeds me, takes care of me when I am sick, has given me the family I have craved, and is a wonderful lover. Did I mention she is a BBW too?

So to all those sub/slave/men out there who don't like BBW's ... THANKS!!! You wouldn't know what to do with all that lovin' anyway!!!

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/21/2006 10:07:53 AM

sexxykitten

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maybe its just me, and all, but i think all of mankinds creations are beautiful. i am more drawn to women, seeing i'm a girl myself, but i'm bi, so i like both. i dont mind if someone is pregnant, or not. i look at the intelligence of the person. after all You can fix anything about someone in the looks dept. i know this, cause i want so much different for myself, even, but You cant fix stupid. looks are a facad, and hate that most judge someone on that. i'm a sub, and it seems, i have to look better to be wanted. what ever happened to obedience being a key factor?

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/21/2006 10:28:22 AM

MissyRane

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I'm sorry

but what on earth is BBW?

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/21/2006 10:32:47 AM

Lordandmaster

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Stands for "big beautiful woman." A deliberately inoffensive way of saying "fat."

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/21/2006 10:36:05 AM

MissyRane

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ok ty =)

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/21/2006 10:37:16 AM

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Women are great period!!! As long as a woman has a great personality and a wonderful smile I'm hooked. People are too judgemental, the majority of them anyway. You take a chance to get to know someone and love them for who they are not what they look like. As for Sexxykitten, I would own you in a heart beat, you don't have to improve anything!!

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/21/2006 11:52:55 AM

slavekal

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The funny thing is, many fat women want a guy who is in great shape. I read the review for the movie Phat Girlz. The very obese main character is attracted to very fit guys exclusively.
Some guys like overweight women. Most overweight women do NOT deserve the second B. Most people period are not beautiful. A few are, some are ugly, many are just average. A few overweight women deserve the second B, though.

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/21/2006 11:59:47 AM

MadamSadist

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All of Gods creatures are Beautiful. If not to you then to someone else. As far as BBW beinga nice way to say FAT ok so what. I am Fat, Was Fat and will forever more be FAT. I still love me, my kids, my family and even a few subs I have met along the way. I fully believe they feel the same about me.

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/21/2006 1:34:29 PM

Chsnutmare

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quote:

ORIGINAL: acctonthelook
Ps. When I find the right Dom for me I will find this tread and ask for help in the way I overreacted! Why does rudeness set me off so much?? Why, Why, Why?
Poor Dom has a lot of work, whoever that may be? LOL

Because its socially acceptable to make fun of "groups" of people out of the "norm".
I often get angry at TV or movies when they do such things. The USA is much less accepting of different "groups" of people, other countries put us to shame. Why is it, we as a whole feel we have to make fun of others, why do we feel we need to hurt another person?

I have battled my weight since my pregancy at 16. I dont list my weight on my profile not because i am hiding it, but simply that i have tons of muscle and weigh alot more than i look like i weigh, and i would recieve much more " I hate fat people, you all should just eat yourselves to death and make the world a better place" emails, when i have told someone in an email, yes my picture is recent, but i am NOT a barbie doll.

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ORIGINAL: slavekal

The funny thing is, many fat women want a guy who is in great shape. I read the review for the movie Phat Girlz. The very obese main character is attracted to very fit guys exclusively.
Some guys like overweight women. Most overweight women do NOT deserve the second B. Most people period are not beautiful. A few are, some are ugly, many are just average. A few overweight women deserve the second B, though.

Why shouldnt BBWs be able to require a man to be "fit", overweight men have been doing it to women for years.

Humbly
chsnutmare

PS. LOL *waits for all those claiming intrest in me in emails to start backtracking now*

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/21/2006 1:46:30 PM

LadyJulieAnn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavekal

The funny thing is, many fat women want a guy who is in great shape. I read the review for the movie Phat Girlz. The very obese main character is attracted to very fit guys exclusively.
Some guys like overweight women. Most overweight women do NOT deserve the second B. Most people period are not beautiful. A few are, some are ugly, many are just average. A few overweight women deserve the second B, though.

Wow. Phat Girlz. That is quite a statistical reference...

Be well,
Julie

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/21/2006 5:18:21 PM

slavekal

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It was not meant to be a statistical reference. I have seen this phenomenon in real life, and I was just pointing it out in a fictional setting as well.

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/23/2006 2:54:26 PM

apb

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavekal

The funny thing is, many fat women want a guy who is in great shape. I read the review for the movie Phat Girlz. The very obese main character is attracted to very fit guys exclusively.
Some guys like overweight women. Most overweight women do NOT deserve the second B. Most people period are not beautiful. A few are, some are ugly, many are just average. A few overweight women deserve the second B, though.

Apparently you've never heard sayings such as "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and "opposites attract". In my opinion, you can have the most beautiful face and body but yet a hideous personality .... beauty truly is NOT skin deep.

Oh, and some of the ugliest people I know are SKINNY. Ever notice how gracefully skinny people age (NOT).

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/23/2006 3:20:44 PM

pantyslave101

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i love bbw's as much as thin women, dominance knows no shape and does not favor one over the other

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/23/2006 3:39:39 PM

colosubseeking

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It's just like any other relationship: if there isn't mutual physical attraction, or chemistry, or whatever, then it is much harder to get the relationship off the ground. There are a lot of submissives who like, and even prefer, BBW Dommes though.

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/24/2006 4:30:57 PM

fantasyxyz

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Well I must say that I have enjoyed reading the replies. Not only am I a bbw but I am a bbbw! Men seem to like that very much and if they don't I just move on.

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