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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/24/2006 4:51:00 PM

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I see plenty of men that put they are looking for bbws in their profiles.

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/24/2006 5:05:02 PM

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Look at it thiws way. The jerk saved you from investing a lot of time.
Bad manners are just that so just move-on to the next and the next and the next.....

I hope you're not relying solely on the internet to find subs. Google on

munches <your state> to find real time face to face people.

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/24/2006 5:43:57 PM

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i really hate this. people are just people. EVERYONE is different, and everyone has different ideas of what is attractive to them. i am extremely large, 5'6", 450 lbs. and have not had any problems with finding someone.

the problem i do have is with persons here (male and female) who email me with rude and sometimes obscene messages, telling me that i am ugly, fat or just obnoxious. WHY?? what are they getting out of insulting me?? i know other large females have gone through this too, but i truely would like to know what someone gets out of it??

thanks for letting me rant !!!!

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/24/2006 5:49:17 PM

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Pay no attention to then! They're just jerks! You should see some of the crap I get in my mailbox. Hit the delete key and don't give it a second thought.

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/24/2006 10:43:50 PM

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Can't really say that I have any problems in that department. My profile reads...BBW Domme and I have a pic up as well. All can see me, if they don't like what they see, move on....believe me....I have no shortage of replies from subs seeking this Mistress......

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/24/2006 11:28:39 PM

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It's a two way street. There are many Domme profiles that are looking for fit or athletic men. They don't really mean either--they mean thin. I doubt most of the subs they call "fit" would be able to ride the 100+ miles/week on a bike that I ride or bench press 200+ lbs like I do. But they are considered athletic, and I am not. And it is worse for us subs, because there are nine bazillion of us for each Domme.

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/25/2006 12:23:05 AM

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I doubt most of the subs they call "fit" would be able to ride the 100+ miles/week on a bike that I ride or bench press 200+ lbs like I do. But they are considered athletic, and I am not. And it is worse for us subs, because there are nine bazillion of us for each Domme.

Warning: thread hijacker incoming. Counter-measures launched.

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/25/2006 7:30:15 PM

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somebody please help me! Please tell me what BBW stands for. there is no way of knowing if no one says it. Please, i am so curious.
Thank You all

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/25/2006 7:33:55 PM

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somebody please help me! Please tell me what BBW stands for. there is no way of knowing if no one says it. Please, i am so curious.
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BBW stands for Big Beautiful Woman ...

and there wrong ... Many love Us -=wink=-

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/25/2006 7:35:07 PM

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I really would perfer a BBW Domme and a mature Domme even more Ma'am

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/25/2006 7:41:27 PM

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Interesting how perceptions are. I'm thinking that there aren't enough Dom's out there. Well, that like BBW... and it's bizarre, how when i find a Dom that can see what's underneath the wrapping and values what's inside... the wrapping starts to melt away. Totally weird. Not enough Dommes, not enough Doms... Perhaps i should start to explore my switch side more... *ponders that a moment* uh, well... ummm... No.

I am NOT vanilla... who put that cone on my nick... *grumbles*

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/25/2006 7:49:56 PM

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Men don't like BBW Dommes? Really? Since when? Please don't anyone tell My subs!!!!!!!!

Well, maybe I'm not so concerned about it. There's no shortage of mail in my box, nor do I have any shortage of play partners and admirers in person either.

You see beauty comes from the inside. The most hideous and grotesque of people can look like beauty queens and the most beautiful can be as plain as a paperbag. It's the sparkle in the eye and the mischief behind the smile that makes a person glow.

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/25/2006 8:08:49 PM

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If someone sees the letters BBW and disappears, then it says a good bit about them. Don't let it bug you.

I'm a BBW Domme (with pics on my profile to show I'm not a little girl), and I really have not run up against any difficulty finding men who want my attention (subs and even a few that classify as Doms that want to experience the sub side) including body builder types and personal trainers who have impeccable bodies. I think it boils down to confidence, personality, and being comfortable in your own skin more than being a 'size' issue. If you don't have the confidence in yourself, then why should a sub?

Of course, there will always be someone out there that perfers something different, and some that only want the barbie doll that looks great in rubber. Don't let it get to you.

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/25/2006 8:37:56 PM

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I know, you've all been waiting for my opinion. So, to break the suspense, here you go.

I hate the term BBW. Why? It's another useless label. What does it mean? You're beautiful. Good. You're a woman. Good. You're big. WHO GIVES A FUCK??????

What bothers me about it is that it polarizes women, where there should not be a divide. It's a gradient. When is a woman a BBW???? Are there specific categories? I have now noticed a few posts saying people who don't like BBWs should go find a barbie. But if someone doesn't like 100 pound women, we don't immediately say "Fine, then just go find some fat woman!"(said in a way, in my opinion, that is similarily derogatory to BBWs as barbie is to thin women, and in no way reflects my view)

Also, if someone doesn't like a BBW, that does not mean they are barbie obsessed. It may simply mean they like the "stage" below BBW. It also does not make them more superficial than men who want only BBWs. It is simply different taste.

I will now hide in my corner, put on my flame suit, turn on the sprinkler, locate the fire exit, and call 911. I know I'll need it.

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/25/2006 10:13:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: CodenameV

One other thing I find interesting is this....why do the larger women 'need' to use made up terms like BBW? I mean, if that's their thing, fine. But to me it just seems easier to say 'fat.' And I don't mean that as a slam, as I have said, even some of my larger friends say fat as opposed to BBW. BBW is a qualifier. It's like saying "I'm pretty....pretty big" I mean, even medical definitions say that the girl is fat.

CodenameV,

I never use the term BBW referring to Myself.

For your information, The term 'BBW' was coined during the 70's as a counter-cultural marketing campaign that was targeting all of the women who are larger than a size 8.

Fashion Designers wanted to showcase their clothing using models who could appeal to a broader customer base than the anorexic Twiggy look alikes that pervaded the fashion scene at the time.

It was a Fashion Acronym, coined to launch a new line of runway models with 'real' bodies that were not size zero through size 4.

At the time, clothiers at finer ladies wear boutiques just didn't carry sizes in designer clothes above size 8, sometime never above a size 6.

BBW launched a new fashion concept: that women beyond size 6/8 could wear designer clothes that were cut to fit taller/larger women. Once the models were successful, a new magazine was launched that called itself "BBW", and the rest, as they say, is history.

Sorry, CodenameV, it's much more than your vague conceptualizaion of a 'made up' euphamism for 'fat'.

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/25/2006 11:16:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji
I know, you've all been waiting for my opinion. So, to break the suspense, here you go.

I hate the term BBW. Why? It's another useless label. What does it mean? You're beautiful. Good. You're a woman. Good. You're big. WHO GIVES A FUCK??????

Some people give a fuck, so some of us put it there to remove the mistery, and allow them to choose with full disclosure.
I like the term BBW, and don't find it to be a useless label; than again, I tend to like labels for the general purpose of understanding some things.

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What bothers me about it is that it polarizes women, where there should not be a divide. It's a gradient. When is a woman a BBW???? Are there specific categories?

The term BBW shouldn't polarize women. Women are frequently polarized because of our own insecurities and needs as human beings, especially when we've been taught to submit to someone else's idea of beauty. Every woman should feel beautiful and treat herself as a beautiful human being, as a creation from God (or whatever your belief), no matter her size.

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Also, if someone doesn't like a BBW, that does not mean they are barbie obsessed. It may simply mean they like the "stage" below BBW. It also does not make them more superficial than men who want only BBWs. It is simply different taste

That's right Benji, you should be allowed as much shallowness as any of us, lol. Everyone has a preference, and they should not be stoned because of it; as long as a person's preference does not impinge on someone else's right to be and to choose, it's perfectly okay in my opinion.

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I will now hide in my corner, put on my flame suit, turn on the sprinkler, locate the fire exit, and call 911. I know I'll need it.
benji

No flame suit needed as far as I am concerned. M

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/26/2006 4:21:01 AM

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Could it be anything to do with the fact that they whine,and have a victim complex?

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/26/2006 1:41:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: Reasonable
Could it be anything to do with the fact that they whine,and have a victim complex?

What are you talking about and did you mean to reply to me?

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/26/2006 1:45:55 PM

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Just in general.

Why is it that people with esteem problems always couple it to a martrydom syndrome?

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RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? - 4/26/2006 10:38:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: Reasonable
Just in general.
Why is it that people with esteem problems always couple it to a martrydom syndrome?

If that is your professional opinion? If you've diagnosed it frequently enough to generalize like this you ought to ask your patients their reasons, or extrapolate their reasons based on your therapy and research, than write a book and share the results with us.
I don't believe that acknowledging hurt actions and hurt feelings in one instance and on one subject is indicative of one suffering from a "martyrdom syndrome," but you certainly seem to know, so please enlighten the rest of us. M

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