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Stunning -> Sick of the rude people on here. (11/14/2005 7:20:57 PM)

I got another email out of the blue. Some chick that lives in my city. I should have known when she kept asking about a picture that there would be trouble. So as soon as I sent her my picture she stops talking completely. I sent her an email on here, in case she lost her connection, but it's been read and unaswered.

I don't have any problem getting women, so I would not care if she was not attracted to me. In fact, I'm not even really looking as I have my hands full at the moment. She's the one who messaged me first. If she was not attracted, all she had to do was say so.

This happened once before. What is it with people who are so rude? I think it shows a weak mind.

The rules of the forum forbid giving names in a thread, but not in a private message. So I can't tell anyone who these people are in this thread, or believe me I would. I would love to spread the word about them.

What the hell is wrong with people?



KittenWithaTwist -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/14/2005 7:24:40 PM)

Some people feel that it is easier and more kind to not reply, as opposed to responding with, "I don't find you attractive."

The submissive in me would feel the same way, honestly. Even over a computer, I could never tell someone that I thought they were unattractive. It would make me feel like a bad person.



michaelMI -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/14/2005 7:40:02 PM)

imagine being nothing but polite in any email to others, only to be met by the BLOCK button. seems to me that some deal with things by ignoring others, others BLOCK.

Such is life on CM...my .02 worth



RealmOfSenses -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/14/2005 7:40:53 PM)

Something i have been guilty of at times is reading a msg whilst i'm working and not replying because i was in the middle of something then forgetting to go back and reply later, it doesn't mean i'm not interested or being rude i just have limited time during the day so replying immediately sometimes can be hard especially if your response needs to be long.



OscarHargraves -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/14/2005 7:56:14 PM)

My suggestion is to 'make like a duck' and let it wash off your back. Enjoy the good people on here and just accept the fact that there are jerks too, both male and female. The jerks kind of show you how nice the other people are though so I guess that's something.



IronBear -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/14/2005 7:58:54 PM)


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ORIGINAL: RealmOfSenses

Something i have been guilty of at times is reading a msg whilst i'm working and not replying because i was in the middle of something then forgetting to go back and reply later, it doesn't mean i'm not interested or being rude i just have limited time during the day so replying immediately sometimes can be hard especially if your response needs to be long.


Same here, I work from home so often find time to read messages, scan the forums and read what interests me and even some times I make enough time (coffee breaks y'know,) to post here. I do often forget to make a note to remind me to follow through with messages, although usually I catch up and reply a couple of days later.

Although it is not in my nature to tell some one that I'm not interested because they are but ugly (not necesseraly in the looks department), I will try to let them down gently in a positive manner if they have been pleasant. If they have been rude or crass my reply is more terse but never abrasive or abusive.


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ORIGINAL: Stunning


The rules of the forum forbid giving names in a thread, but not in a private message. So I can't tell anyone who these people are in this thread, or believe me I would. I would love to spread the word about them.



Stunning, I was sympethetic for you untill I came to the last paragraph. I can and do understand your frustration but those comments appear to me to come from a very immature person who lacks self control. Get smart and shut up and just do things advertise and everyone knows what you are doing. Just message your friends and give them the details if you want but remember you will be doing your self no favours if you do. In the long run you paint yourself very unattractive. If you are really smart, write this off as a dummy spit (we ALL do that here on CM) and get involved with the forums and what ever else that takes your fancy so others can have the chance to see how attrractive and what a great bloke you really are. [:D]



Stunning -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/14/2005 8:47:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RealmOfSenses
Something i have been guilty of...

It was not an email situation or I would have assumed the same thing.

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ORIGINAL: IronBear
Stunning, I was sympethetic for you untill I came to the last paragraph.

It's a situation where I trust someone with my personal information after she asked me to trust her and then she did what she did. I would like to let people know not to trust her, that's all. I wish someone had told me not to trust her. Wouldn't you want a heads up?



wipmebeetme100 -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/14/2005 8:47:56 PM)

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What the hell is wrong with people?



They are people, they are individuals....no two are alike.
Don't try and put everyone in that same box that you reside in...they won't all fit.
Where you may find it rude that another not respond....some one else may prefer that instead of a response like....."Hey dude, sorry but your nose is too big, and brush your hair..would ya?"
Don't expect more from the population here on CM than you would from the general population....we are one and the same.


cathy



IronBear -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/14/2005 9:06:27 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Stunning

It's a situation where I trust someone with my personal information after she asked me to trust her and then she did what she did. I would like to let people know not to trust her, that's all. I wish someone had told me not to trust her. Wouldn't you want a heads up?



Of course I would but not on the Net. If I'm going to meet some one I have been talking to them on the phone and only when i'm satisfied that they are on the up and up I'll give out some aditional information and even a couple of people they probably know to verify what I've told them. However I also gather my intel on tnhe phone or in person from my network of friends and associates. I'll know more abouit her than she can ever immagine. However that comes from experience in dealing with a varuiety of folks.

Look mate, if you are talking to a trik, and one of your friends has a quick word in your shell pink, this is excelent but you don't need to advertise it. just contact your group of friends to pass on any warnings WITHOUT and animosity as a friendly warning and let people see you gettig oin with your life. To make a huge production of it gives the perp power which she will use to her advantage and make you look a paranoid fool thus negating the warnings.



barefootprincess -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/14/2005 9:22:57 PM)

Hi,
Some people dont answer when they have a Master or such. Others insist that they answer , and keep writing and when the answer is not what they wanted, they get nasty.
But being polite doesnt hurt anyone by just answering though..*s*



JohnWarren -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/14/2005 9:33:07 PM)

Did you call her "a chick"? She might have resented that. People do, ya know.



SirKenin -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/14/2005 9:58:04 PM)

Why would you even care what someone on a message board thought of you to begin with? Just shrug it off and go on with your life. Surely it ca not be that important to you that you let it bother you to the point of making a big deal about it in the forum? Put her on block and move on if you feel that strongly. There could be a million reasons why she did not write back.



pandoravampire -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/14/2005 11:31:38 PM)

just brush it off.

im sure she did not respond, actions sometimes speak louder than words.
not responding to you does not to me at least, imply that she may not be trustworthy, just a submissive's 'asserting' her choice to stop communicating.

with regard to you wishing you could post her name so that other's will know that she is not trustworthy......
I would thank collarme for not allowing you to put yourself in such a bad light, even if you are not looking right now.

If the rudest thing she did, was to not reply, thank your lucky stars. Were you to receive some of the messages i do, you'd probably have a nervous breakdown. Being able to cope with being ignored is a skill worth learning. Learning how to ignore others too.

there are many friendly people on here, sufficient in fact for you to not give jack shit for those who arent.

Welcome to collarme and its foiboiles and bad spellers lol
pandoravampire



Aileen68 -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/15/2005 4:23:28 AM)

Her no reply was a reply. What do you think your honest reaction would have been had she sent back a message saying that you weren't her type or that she found you to be unattractive? Would you have said "Thank you, I respect your opinion. Have a nice day" Most likely human nature says most would have turned the tables and sent her back a message telling her that she was fat, ugly and worthless. Fill in the blanks with whatever words you chose. People get defensive when their attractiveness is questioned. She probably just wanted to avoid scenarios that she may have had to deal with in the past. She took the easy way out. Nothing wrong with that.

edited for spelling



imtempting -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/15/2005 4:34:33 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: RealmOfSenses

Something i have been guilty of at times is reading a msg whilst i'm working and not replying because i was in the middle of something then forgetting to go back and reply later, it doesn't mean i'm not interested or being rude i just have limited time during the day so replying immediately sometimes can be hard especially if your response needs to be long.


I agree totally. Or reading it and then something comes up that needs to be done asap.



UtopianRanger -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/15/2005 5:19:23 AM)

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This happened once before. What is it with people who are so rude? I think it shows a weak mind.


Not to sound inconsiderate, but I think a guy like you really needs to take messages like that with a grain of salt. I think you need to build scenarios like this one, into your perception whenever you participate in a venue such as this. Seriously....why sweat one lady if your hands are already full.


- The Ranger



girl4you2 -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/15/2005 6:01:25 AM)

try just staying on the random polls and other stupidity boards; you don't encounter anyone, it takes up your time, and it's all fluff instead of learning. you also won't get flamed, and you can post anywhere you like without anyone saying you're on the wrong board. yippieeeeeee.



Catillac -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/15/2005 9:13:12 AM)

Stop worrying about controlling another persons behavior and look after your own.

There's little else you can do.



Stunning -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/15/2005 3:27:23 PM)

I find it ironic that some of the responses find fault with me for posting at all, yet they replied to my post. I was just venting about a rude person.

And no, while I have never had a woman tell me she was not attracted, Iimagine I would not feel good about it, but I would not shoot back at her. What's the point there?



darkinshadows -> RE: Sick of the rude people on here. (11/15/2005 3:37:47 PM)

Maybe your letter left little to be desired.

Maybe she has moved forward elsewhere.

Numbers of factors... And posting on a message board and expecting support for complaining for something that is as irrelevant as 'she doesn't write' from a bunch of strangers is hardly constructive?
Gossiping about people who snub you is hardly going to attract you positive feedback. If You do not care how others estimate you - then why care what people have said here, or care that she didn't contact you back?

Peace and Rapture



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