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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

In the end, like it or not, we are all responsible for our own actions.

Jeff

i'm not wanting to be contentious here but NO, by definition in law (at the end of the day) some folks are not deemed responsible for their own actions. Be it by some permanent state of mental disease, or temporary or permanent psychosis....and i am sure any legal persons here can conjer up more examples.....there are those who in law who are not held responsibile for their actions. It's how long they can get away with it wherein lays the damage. If built into the system there is a total lack of compassion, and in its place there is simply the pathology, i am pretty certain many get away with doing damage and serious damage for a very long time. Compartmentalised liars adept at saying exactly the perfect right thing to get what they want from each and every person they interact with. Triangulate them and call them on it and that's when they seriously fire up the embers of their own lack of responsibility.

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ORIGINAL: TysGalilah


 He didn't do anything illegal, according to the LAW  you talk about above.   But there is a different kind of law that exists ...and you speak of beleiving in the cosmos..karma...taoism...and so I know you are familiar with the kind of law that will eventually make us all accountable for our own integrity and character....or lack there of.
 
 
 

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: masterforRT
PS: I don't need to find submissives here-nor am I sure that I would even want to. I do quite well in RL, thank you....

Congratulations.  This means (1) your dick is bigger than mine, and (2) you have no further reason to complain, so I will not see you post about your frustrations again.

Also, about 9 out of 10 female submissive profiles are straight or bi.  Not 30 out of 50 the other direction.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Kiss my uppity lesbian ass!!

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

"Oh you do what I tell you, I think you're hot and you give good oral/blowjobs, now I want to collar you so you cannot get away! I want to stake my claim, so to speak" on the flip side the slave thinks "They treat me like property, they give good paddle/flogger/insert favourite method of play, we both like lots of the same things, he/she likes the way I do xxx, and now they are offering a collar! I can strut around feeling all cool, owned and safe in front of the other slaves, I am taking it!!"

That's entirely it. And part of the slave mindset is i believe an inability to get out once they are in (the collar so to speak). I've had private mail from slaves who are in the most abusive of relationships (according to my judgement at least0. Why would they write to me and ask me if wha they are being required to do is acceptable or not/ it's almost like becoming a member of a cult and not knowing how to get out.
Now if as a slave you don't feel you have a right, or know the protocol of how to get released, coupled with a Dom who believes literally that any demand, at any time, of any sort, is their right....then you have an equation for potential abuse.
that's what is so profound about staing one has no limits consensually and handing those limits over.
The collar might fall but the chaos left behind takes a great deal longer to clean up.
it's the same in vanilla marriages. I was once asked to write a testimony for a friend who wanted to be officially anulled...she is a catholic...an adult caticombmini...forgive spelling...she is a n adult catholic convert. My testimony to their abusive marriage took up 48 pages of A4 paper.
The decision 'went to Rome' as it is called and she was blissfully freed of a spiritual bond.
Does not a collar represent the same magnitude? Or could it ?

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ORIGINAL: AllietheKitten



I don't hold to a collar being like a marriage. Netizen wears a collar because it turns him on and because I like the look of it. But sometimes he wakes up not feeling like a Pet or we are going out and about and so it doesn't get worn, sometimes for days. Not a big deal to us-he's mine. No symbol in the world can encapsulate that or contain it. The collar itself is a cheap nylon thing I got at Petsmart for $4.99. It means nothing but what we both want it to mean...and when it ceases to mean that he (or I) will take it off.

I think people sometimes overthink or over-ritualize things.

And seriously, you don't need a Dom to "release" you from the collar. All you need is a pair of bolt cutters and some self-respect.