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stef -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 6:54:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: brightspot Aloe Vera Plants have many medicinal purposes, including healing burns, itching, facials, tattoo and scar healing, haven't tried it yet, but perhaps lubrication? What do you think Stef? I think you should try it as a lube and get back to us [;)] ~stef

IronBear -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 7:23:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirButchTX This Amuses me. Iron Bear, could you please explain the Gorean outlook on putting the spare on your car on the side of the road when you get a flat...oops...I forgot, they don't have cars on gor...so....how about making flight reservations at the last second for a conference of councellors...oh yeah...no planes either.mmmmmmI guess credit cards and banks are pretty much outta the question too. OK...I understand now. SirButchTX Were we on Gor, you’d find an innovative form of transport called carts. Cards are drawn by beasties called Borsk (for the most part). Now these carts have (shudder( wooden wheels so flat tyres are unheard of. However axels do break and when this happens said axel is repaired on the side of the road…Flight reservations would be easy provided you had been taught how to ride a tarn and didn’t let if rip you to pieces for a snack.. However tarns do not like flying over water except for short flights, so anything like crossing the Pacific Duck-pond, you’d need to book passage on a ship. Banks were not uncommon but were more like coin exchanges and notes of credit were not unknown either. Counsellors have no direct reference on Gor but would fit under the High Cast of Physicians….. Really old chap, you’d be better reading the Gorean Lifestyles Forum and look for any of the well-written posts by Leonidas. His dissertations on what the Gorean Lifestyle is and what it entails will enlighten you somewhat I imagine.

happypervert -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 8:08:08 AM)
quote: Just because you have a lustless, sexless, affectionless relationship based entirely on service does not mean everyone else does not have a legitimate relationship or power exchange. In fact, for many people, these are critical components and without them the relationship would be soulless Until I saw this I was as confused as others by the OP caliming nobody was talking about real life. Now I see that it is a semantic problem where the OP misdescribes a kink for a service relationship as "real life". thanks for clearing that up, Akasha!

veronicaofML -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 10:03:47 AM)
veronica, If by 24/7 you are referring to 24/7 sex, or whipping and beating, you're correct. To my knowledge, no one living 24/7 would argue that their entire day and sleep revolved around physical activity. Merc n beth ============= thank You for being the ONLY one that understands...........or seems to care......."I".......AM talking about separating the physical s/m garbage from the real world where we all have lives to live..... at least YOU 2 can grasp it. and it would SEEM there are so many that their lives are so bad, they have-to-have fantasy to keep going. it never ceases to amaze me. "I" have not ever had fantasies since i was 10 years old..living in full daylight reality. i guess "I" am the only one that finds it to be a sad view of the-people. i yearn for the days when i was growing up, people led actual lives and didn't have fantasy lives. take care Merc n beth....... i am done with this.........i TRY like a mutha to do some good.............bringing up a topic of reality...of everyday life...............but no one has that capacity anymore. i tried desperately. thank YOU......... i'm off THIS posting...... i know when i am not welcome or wanted by SOME around here........that think of themselves as LORD GOD just coz they call themselves a domme.

AAkasha -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 10:18:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: veronicaofML veronica, If by 24/7 you are referring to 24/7 sex, or whipping and beating, you're correct. To my knowledge, no one living 24/7 would argue that their entire day and sleep revolved around physical activity. Merc n beth ============= thank You for being the ONLY one that understands...........or seems to care......."I".......AM talking about separating the physical s/m garbage from the real world where we all have lives to live..... at least YOU 2 can grasp it. and it would SEEM there are so many that their lives are so bad, they have-to-have fantasy to keep going. it never ceases to amaze me. "I" have not ever had fantasies since i was 10 years old..living in full daylight reality. i guess "I" am the only one that finds it to be a sad view of the-people. i yearn for the days when i was growing up, people led actual lives and didn't have fantasy lives. take care Merc n beth....... i am done with this.........i TRY like a mutha to do some good.............bringing up a topic of reality...of everyday life...............but no one has that capacity anymore. i tried desperately. thank YOU......... i'm off THIS posting...... i know when i am not welcome or wanted by SOME around here........that think of themselves as LORD GOD just coz they call themselves a domme. How can you presume that "s/m garbage" isn't real, or fulfulling? Just because you do not have sex, have no sex life, have no intimacy, no affection, no love and no lust with your partner does not mean that those that do are "living in a fantasy." You seem so bitter that people can actually have a loving relationship with BDSM as a part of it, or that people can have a casual relationship with mutual affection. You need to stop thriving on bitterness, anger, resentment. People are having rich, fulfilling sex lives and loving it -- and just because they aren't talking about doing the dishes, cooking, or doing yardwork, that doesn't mean they live in a fantasy world. Could it be that a sexual romp, a hot night of bondage and forced feminization, some nasty teasing and denial are more exciting than your sexless, loveless relationship that you admit can disappear at any moment and you don't even care? Akasha

luvdragonx -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 10:38:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: veronicaofML As someone mentioned before, the Off Topic section is rife with Real Life aka non BDSM discussions. Check it out. < Message edited by luvdragonx -- 11/22/2005 1:13:10 AM > ------------ yo'kay fine. didnt know it mattered. and no one ever mentioned it to ME so i have NO idea. but i JUST started 'a' thread to ask 'a' question and it just kept going....... i am sorry if i upset YOUR whole day..... i wasn't aware i was GOING to. take care Upset my day? With all that I have to do at home? Nah. If I'd paid closer attention and realized who you were (I recognized your writing style but didn't make the connection) I probably would have responded a little differently. With that said, I'll agree with AAkasha. Your reality is different from most others reality, just as mine is. How I live and am expected to go through my day isn't like yours, or Osidegirls, or perversangelics (just throwing out names here). If your daily reality is that of service and nothing more, I'm pretty sure you could get more appropriate feedback if you made your OP specific to people in 'Service only' relationships. As far as talking about that aspect of life, I've done it at least a few times. For example: in one post I made reference to the pain of cleaning gum out of a washer and dryer,and how it related to my D/s relationship. Mostly I don't bring it up because I figure nobody here wants to hear about my homeschooling challenges - I joined a different group for that - or how I plan meals and activities. Or get the most cleaning done in a day and still have time to spend quality time with the family. Or how I'm debating going back to school, or trying to revive the plants in my living room, or my plans for building more furniture or replacing the flooring in my upstairs bathroom. Seriously though, if you wanna swap ideas on how to provide the best service - cleaning, cooking, etc. - start a thread about that. I'd be more than happy to chime in.

perverseangelic -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 10:44:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: veronicaofML thank You for being the ONLY one that understands...........or seems to care......."I".......AM talking about separating the physical s/m garbage from the real world where we all have lives to live..... at least YOU 2 can grasp it. and it would SEEM there are so many that their lives are so bad, they have-to-have fantasy to keep going. it never ceases to amaze me. "I" have not ever had fantasies since i was 10 years old..living in full daylight reality. i guess "I" am the only one that finds it to be a sad view of the-people. i yearn for the days when i was growing up, people led actual lives and didn't have fantasy lives. take care Merc n beth....... i am done with this.........i TRY like a mutha to do some good.............bringing up a topic of reality...of everyday life...............but no one has that capacity anymore. i tried desperately. thank YOU......... i'm off THIS posting...... i know when i am not welcome or wanted by SOME around here........that think of themselves as LORD GOD just coz they call themselves a domme. I was sorta with you untill you wrote this. I understand your relationship dynamic. Youv'e discussed it repetedly. It's certainly an interesting dynamic that obviously works for you and fufills you. Why persist is saying that others with different dynamics are simply "fantasizing" or engaging in "s&m garbage?" For some of us, those two elements blend. Don't get the dishes done on time? Get beaten. Forget to pick up the mail? Spend an hour in bondage. Of course we have other lives. Of course we don't play all the time. But it seems like you're missing the fact that for many of us the play and the life are seemlessly connected. Or, well, not so seemelelys (look at my relationship for that matter.) I think you're both lucky and unlucky that you hvaen't fantasized about controll for that long. You're lucky because you never had to go through the agony of thinking you were totally alone in these desires, or through the horrible waiting to get old enough to pursue your desires. You're unlucky int hat it must have been hard to come to who you are adn what you want late. I am glad I was able to discover what I wanted so young. While it was hard, very hard, at times, I've been able to seek the kinds of relationships that make me happy from the time I began having relationships, even if I wasnt' seeking them activly. Why is it sad to have fantasized about this? I would put pretty good money on the fact that many/most young people fantaize about sexual/nonsexual interpersonal relationships. Why is it bad to fantasize about a different kind? People have AlWAYS had fantasy lives. Hell, what do you call the 1950's ideal of the family? There have been many, many scholarly works written on that subject and how that family modle was, in itself, a huge fantasy life. (If you like I can cite, but blah.) That's a weird example, but even beyond that, as long as people have been capable of fantasy we've had fantasy lives. I'm confused as to your extreme anger over this thread. it seems as though you've started an interesting discussion. Many people have commented and many have said that yes, they have "vanilla' lives, but that often they are intereconected with the bdsm parts of their lives, that they do not compartmentalize the two. You've responded to this by insulting their choices. Why?

IronBear -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 10:46:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: veronicaofML thank You for being the ONLY one that understands...........or seems to care......."I".......AM talking about separating the physical s/m garbage from the real world where we all have lives to live..... at least YOU 2 can grasp it. and it would SEEM there are so many that their lives are so bad, they have-to-have fantasy to keep going. it never ceases to amaze me. "I" have not ever had fantasies since i was 10 years old..living in full daylight reality. i guess "I" am the only one that finds it to be a sad view of the-people. i yearn for the days when i was growing up, people led actual lives and didn't have fantasy lives. take care Merc n beth....... i am done with this.........i TRY like a mutha to do some good.............bringing up a topic of reality...of everyday life...............but no one has that capacity anymore. i tried desperately. thank YOU......... i'm off THIS posting...... i know when i am not welcome or wanted by SOME around here........that think of themselves as LORD GOD just coz they call themselves a domme. It's pathetic really, a sad, miserable, hopeless posting from a sad, miserable, hopeless person. I'm not sure if this is the alternative to a screaming tantrum to gain attention, or just some one who has given up on live and finds no joy in it and apparently resents that we all dont have such a miserable existance.. Okkkkk well y'all know the saying; Heaven for the climate, hell for the company..... Think I'll pop back down to hell for a blast, a booze and a bonk.....

slavejali -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 10:54:36 AM)
i just spent two days at a catering function, i have a blister on one heel and both my feet are killing me..cie la vie lol

LadyHibiscus -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 11:47:05 AM)
Catering! Truly, a hell on earth! :)Francine

FelinePersuasion -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 11:50:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rover "24/7" is (by my own definition) a relationship dynamic that remains constant throughout. I don't see anything particularly mystical or difficult about that (either in the understanding of it, or its implementation). Just being helpful. John I agree that 24/7 is a mindset, I am not in a bdsm relationshipw ith my bf, but any given day of the week any given hour I AM his gf, that does not change from monday to wednesday so We are a 24/7 couple. 24/7 as a mind set is possible and it is done. The awareness for me that he is my mate any given day month or moment is my 24/7. and another thought A person doesn't stop being owned by someone or loved by someone or even belong to someone, just cause they're not doing bdsm activities at any minute

SirSix72 -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 1:25:01 PM)
Greetings, Everything I post is about real life issues and solutions. I have no need to live in a fantasy world that dosent incorporate real life stiuations. I know that maybe for some that the internet has given the opportunity to live in fantasy at the stroke of a keyboard. I think that maybe you should read more posts here n COm and look at the real life issues that develop and are solved or even argued about. Master six

IronBear -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 2:12:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Catering! Truly, a hell on earth! :)Francine Amen to that......... My hat's off to caterers

veronicaofML -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 2:23:05 PM)
Hell, what do you call the 1950's ideal of the family? ---------- certainly NOT fantasy... "I" was TOLD growing up it is supposed to be an american FACT. as to your "why?"... there is no why TO it. you just SEE IT that way. i am merely SAYING........and HAVE said..... i am trained and taught there is more to this than fantasy. there is REAL life service and i couldn't get but a few to talk. all it seemed i got...including one domme here that thinks she is IT....that everyone HAS TO live in fantasy coz that's why they come to these boards........ i didnt and don't understand that. nor do i understand stuff like old men sitting in a grocery deli giving the teen girls a bad time...what's up with THIS? what is WITH fantasy? i know "I" was taught by my elders AND my 1st domme fantasy is WRONG.........so i ASK............. now i wish to hell i didnt.

veronicaofML -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 2:26:41 PM)
that they do not compartmentalize the two. ============= well "I" DO. my head has compartments for everything. i separate everything in my life. just like SHE has 2 names for me and "I" only know the one i was given on my birth papers. i have-to...separate my entire life...into compartments. i thought EVERYONE did?

AAkasha -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 2:45:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: veronicaofML Hell, what do you call the 1950's ideal of the family? ---------- certainly NOT fantasy... "I" was TOLD growing up it is supposed to be an american FACT. as to your "why?"... there is no why TO it. you just SEE IT that way. i am merely SAYING........and HAVE said..... i am trained and taught there is more to this than fantasy. there is REAL life service and i couldn't get but a few to talk. all it seemed i got...including one domme here that thinks she is IT....that everyone HAS TO live in fantasy coz that's why they come to these boards........ i didnt and don't understand that. nor do i understand stuff like old men sitting in a grocery deli giving the teen girls a bad time...what's up with THIS? what is WITH fantasy? i know "I" was taught by my elders AND my 1st domme fantasy is WRONG.........so i ASK............. now i wish to hell i didnt. There is no "fantasy" in your life because you don't have it and don't want it. You think we are talking about "fantasy" when we talk of relationships that include sexual intercourse, bondage, pain play, face sitting, blowjobs, mischevious affection, sweet surprises, adoration, spankings, and things like staying in bed all day having sex on a weekend. Guess what -- people do live this 'fantasy' and the dishes still get done and the floors are washed. Just because it isn't your reality doesn't mean it does not exist. And you shouldn't resent those people who have what you don't have. Akasha

justatoy2 -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 2:48:33 PM)
to the OP..your way works for you...but thats not to say it works for everyone. Not everyone embraces "service", but we all do live in the real world. We work, clean, take care of things...i don't think anyone lives as a 24/7 sex slave..if they do..well sign me up. I don't understand why this has you so upset. What other people do or don't do shouldn't affect your life one way or the other. We all have different ways of living. Now if you'll excuse me i finished the toliets and have to get started cleaning the floors...ahh the life of a slut...fun ain't it?

stef -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 2:58:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: veronicaofML i am trained and taught there is more to this than fantasy. there is REAL life service and i couldn't get but a few to talk. all it seemed i got...including one domme here that thinks she is IT....that everyone HAS TO live in fantasy coz that's why they come to these boards........ If that's all you saw, they you are being very selective in your reading. quote: nor do i understand stuff like old men sitting in a grocery deli giving the teen girls a bad time...what's up with THIS? What?? quote: what is WITH fantasy? i know "I" was taught by my elders AND my 1st domme fantasy is WRONG......... Is this the domme that rooked you out of $50k? Perhaps you shouldn't take everything she says as gospel. Even if she isn't that person, you shouldn't take everything they told you as gospel. They taught you what they expected of you. It doesn't make it the One True Way that all people should be dealt with. Can you even try to understand that simple point? ~stef

MasterHyde -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 3:01:17 PM)
quote: just the everyday things that go on outside of this tube and keyboard. sweeping..mopping...dishes... i just never see anyone post about what they figure slaves and subs SHOULD be doing.......vs the fantasy i see posted on here........all the so called sex stuff and s/m goings on........how about some of the REAL life things? Well, I'm slaveless at the moment, so real life means I have to do those things for myself. I don't see much point in talking about it here, because it's boring, and it has nothing to do with relationships (unless you want to count the very tenuous connection all of this has to my NOT being in a relationship right now. But in the gold ole days, real life included my slave doing the sweeping, the mopping, and yes, the dishes. It was a real "Leave It To Beaver" setup. Again, this has little to do with relationships, except that each couple will find their own way of handling "work distribution." I have seen a few threads here and there where a submissive or slave type talks about the service that's expected of her, and how she manages to meet those expectations. Or, she might post a question or a request for advice because she's having difficulty. Yep, that's real life, too. Since you seem rather annoyed to hear more posts about relationships that include sex, love, and intimacy, how about I tell you I once had a relationship with a women that included none of those things? She swept the floor, cleaned the bathroom, and I never once gave her a kiss, took her to bed, or tied her up. I told her what to do, and she did it. She served me joyfully, and never expected anything like intimacy, sex, or love. You know what I called her? The maid.

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: real life posts? (11/22/2005 3:04:41 PM)
I actually was puzzled at first, and then as the thread moved on I realized you were referring to something completely different. I should have realized it right away, as I do know you and I understand your relationship as you consistently describe it. Here are the guidelines for this particular forum: quote: As the description for this section states, this is a forum for the open discussion of topics pertaining to BDSM and related subjects. All members are welcome to join in the conversation here regardless of experience or interest. Subjects which are unacceptable regardless of circumstance include, but are not limited to - minors, **, *, necrophilia, snuff and criminal activities. Any other questions of acceptability will be determined based on the content of the given essay. Keep the discussions civil and mature, and do not insult the kinks, preferences, lifestyles, etc. of others. There is an Off Topic Discussion category elsewhere on this board if you wish to bring up subjects other than those intended here <snipped> This is an alternative lifestyle site, and this is the forum earmarked for discussion of particular BDSM practices. That said, I have read many threads in various forums that do not always obsess on the kink. In fact, many times, the emphasis on the kink is tempered by responses that remind submissives that there is much more to the dynamic than "do me, do me". It does seem that no matter what topic is being discussed, your posts come through as confused and way too insistant that you do not have anything to do with that "stuff". Since you don't, you seem to be completely closed off to the fact that other do, and may wish to discuss something pertinent concerning limits or kink. Trust Me, we are all very aware of your self-celibacy and your lack of even a minimally loving relationship. I have often wondered if you are seeking some sort of validation, or support in your choice. But I also realize that you insist that there is no other way. So I think that you resent others who openly discuss the intimacy in a relationship. It has no meaning for you, therefore, it must be inappropriate, or wrong, or a fantasy. You receive a lot of support from the posters here, Veronica. I wish you could open up your mind and happily accept the choices you have made, rather than challenge everyone else. There is lots being written that is not just "all about the kink" even in this forum whch is supposed to ber about "General BDSM Discussion". But you do need to open up your eyes and see it. On topic...W...I just pulled an all nighter working on a client's web design, I still have to make it to the post office, and the dog is sick. I am cold and I have a headache today, probably because I haven't slept. I need to do some laundry, and I didn't get the bathroom floor swept. Where is My boy? Whines and stamps feet* Oh, that's right...I don't have one right now.

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