JohnWarren
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Joined: 3/18/2005 From: Delray Beach, FL Status: offline
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I'm a bit sensitive about the term "mentor" since back in the 80s and 90s before I "came out" under my own name, my scene name was "Mentor." (Like most good scene names, it was given to me rather than being chosen by me.) Anyone can call themselves a "mentor" these days, particularly online where reputation changes with one's screen name. In fact, given the time and other pressures on those who really want to help others, I'd be leery to anyone who advertised himself or herself as a mentor, particularly someone who wants to mentor his or her complement (male dom/female sub). It is much too easy for this to become exploitive. Usually, I advise people who want to learn not to limit themselves to one teacher, but seek out those who have skills or are in relationships they would like to emulate. Eventually, you'll find someone you click with and you'll find yourself a mentor. The old style of mentoring is/was an intense one-on-one relationship. It required committment on the part of both parties. I still think it is the best, but like all "bests," it's hard to bring to fruition, and like all relationships, it's often best happened upon rather than sought.
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