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Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/28/2005 3:39:23 AM

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I have read a lot of interesting ideas for public humiliation, and male slave humiliation.
I have been involved with D/s for over 20 years and still have a simple question -
What is it that a female submissive/slave seeks when they say they seek humiliation?

What I seek here is ideas from both submissives and dom's/domme's that can be used in
scenes that last a couple/few hours. Not really use them as furniture, make them dress
a certain way, etc....what else is there out there that female subs find humiliating and is what
they seek and can be applied in a scene that lasts a couple of hours...

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/28/2005 4:18:12 AM

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Going on the proviso that humiliation is truly a subjective emotion....... being asked to be a coffee table would just annoy me in its unimaginative obviousness. The headfark of humiliation is what trips me up and what i enjoy. But as a headfark is really only a one off event, ill be watching this thread closely.
Any practice that is new, but extinction occurs with usage. So face slapping worked at one point intensly, now less so. Or should i say it works but in a different way. Its first ever use, put me in a little girl space, that no longer occurs, it now just challenges my submission.
Being made to dress in a way that is not how i 'see' myself. ergo, being outside my own point of reference for who i believe myself to be and how im portayed to the world in the way i present myself.
Having my handbag gone through.
Having my dirty laundry inspected.
Having no privacy for personal hygiene or toileting needs, anything where i lose dignity.
Having my very old photo albums/video's viewed.

Generally speaking, i dont get a lot out of humiliation, except the one off shock factor. After that, its just abusive in my head. And thankfully, not something my partner is into either, just now and then.

but there are plenty of posters who are, hopefully they'll add to this for you
have fun
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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/28/2005 5:01:36 AM

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But as a headfark is really only a one off event, ill be watching this thread closely.

What makes you think that?

If done well, I think mind fucks can be done every day and still get the desired effect.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/28/2005 11:18:30 AM

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The only thing I can think of after a night here in the puter, is something that a sub I know likes in private and public (scenes), but doesn't last all that long but I've seen it incorpersted in a play session with her and her previous Dom. It's simply the Dom gets a load of water and drinks it and waits untill he needs a pee, then bends sub over and takes her up the kyber and urinates in her... Urine Enema I call it..... the sub goes red with humiliation but usually asks for more before the night is done...

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 11/28/2005 11:34:29 AM

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Good afternoon

I am a Fem Domme who plays with bio-fems,ts-girls and sub males. What I have found that humiliates some sub females is anything that incites a public orgasm. For example, using a remote control bullet in the vagina, vibrating anal plug and or vibrating nipple clamps and manipulating the devices at your leisure.

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Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/23/2006 7:18:47 PM

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Yes, that has been my experience with two dommes, who enjoyed causing me to orgasm in public venues (bars, movies, lectures.) I have had the vibrating dildo used on me a couple of times. Also fingering under the table.
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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/23/2006 7:57:52 PM

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I would consider having a sub act as furniture is more objectification than strictly humiliation.

On the pee theme, a dom could hav a sub drink a lot of water herself and then make the sub hold it till she can't hold it anymore.
Then there's the ever-popular going to a restaurant, having her go to the bathroom, and getting her to take her panties off and handing them to the dom. Mix/max plugs/vibrators as desired.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/23/2006 8:06:47 PM

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This is a topic that truly interests me as I can not think of something that would cause me humiliation in private. Public would be different however as I would be more embarassed, would that be considered humiliation? I really dont know.

I will read this thread with interest.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/23/2006 8:20:33 PM

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Being a female and raised in the 50's was humiliating enough!

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/24/2006 3:47:00 AM

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This is kind of hard for me too. I mean, I think we have different definitions of humiliation. A vibrator, butt plug, etc. in public...well, I don't find that humiliating. Being talked about as though I wasn't there. Yup. And, like pandoravampire, I don't get anything out of it. However, as I said, one woman's humiliation is another woman's pleasure (or something like that).

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/24/2006 4:35:10 AM

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Hmmmmm....humiliation to me would being married to a vanilla and having sex and not being able to give my desire to be submissive.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/24/2006 5:05:42 AM

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I get a stripping of pride from humilation scenes. I absolutely crave and hate being humilated.

Being "wallpaper" seen but never noticed, a common object that is functional but not thought off often.

Some humilation scene ideas that work for me, well the obvious one, seen but not heard, wearing a sign that declares for all the world that I am just property nothing more nothing less. Being on display, like a buffet center piece. Again my humilation comes from being seen and not heard or acknowledged.
Not enough tea this morn, so I can not think of anything else.

Blessed Be
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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/24/2006 5:28:56 AM

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When I was young, in my 20's, I was married to a wonderful woman. She loved to dance, and she loved being restrained. I was entranced by the female torso with a wasp waist. We would combine these elements so that when we arrived at what ever vanilla dance club we were going to spend the evening in, she would be in strict body bondage, with all access to her private parts denied. He dress would be of very light color, and she would be wearing the usual orgasm intensifiers. Both orgasmic and elimination relief would be denied to her under pain of strict training. She had neither acess nor permission. As the evening wore on, the combination of preparation with mild irritants, cayenne pepper, for example, and the increassed pressure of bodily fluids would increase the psychologic pressure, until she was no longer able to conform to instructions. Her fear and anticipation would grow delightfully. She would not only be reduced to a figety, nervous squirming child by the anticipation of humiliation caused by an obvous and growing darkness on her dress, but by the onset of an uncontrollable orgasm, (not the least of her worries was the attempt to supress the most amazing noises which she made during orgasm). Her humiliation would be accellerated by the indignity of beng forced to beg to be taken out of the place to some place more private where she could be less observed.

We had many delightful evenings this way. She was so beautiful, that she received many requests to dance. Of course, being the gentleman that I was, I always allowed her to dance with others. You can imagine their surprise when they discovered that she was tightly laced, and that her choker had no visible means of opening it.

The "Story of O" had just made a sensation in Time magazine, but still the idea of Masters and Slaves had not permeated to the average young couple.

When she was returned to the table by the unsuspecting vanilla, he always had a strange look on his face, as if he were trying to realize what he had just experienced. She would be exquisite, eyes sparkling with mischief, cheeks red with shame, and would bubble over the.thought train which might be going on in his head. She was so lovely it was incredible.

Years later there was a lame version of the book made into a movie. My partner and I went to see it at the local campus art flic joint. We were quite bored, but the vanilla youth were locked in to the screen. One kid whispered loudly into his young lady's ear, "That is what I am going to do with you from now on!" Wrong couple! She started giggling so loudly and uncontrolably, they got removed from the theater. I guess in that case the embarrassment sat on the other foot!

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/24/2006 11:49:37 AM

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I am going to add my two cents to this thread as I seem to have a strange view on Humiliation.

For me the word "Humiliation" relates to a feeling of shame, and, I've never really understood, I think the term Degredation more accurate.
The reason I think that is......If my Master asks me to do something, then it is because he want's me to do it, be that being his footstool, crawling around, licking his boots, whatever the act happens to be.
Now when I am doing these things, yes I feel degraded, objectified, but I feel no shame, I feel pride, pride that I am pleasing him, pride that my degredation is making him smile, pride that I am being asked to behave in this way for him and for his attentions.
So I guess my thought process is this, the word Humiliation signifys shame to me, and whatever i am doing, however low I get, even if my humanity is taken and I am nothing more than a squealing animla, if it is pleasing him to have me this way, how can It be shamefull? The only way i see myself as being trully humilated, like I was nothing, not worth it would be if i displeased him, then I would feel true shame.
I'm sorry if this makes no sense, maybe I am strange in the way my mind works.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene Diamond - 10/24/2006 12:18:49 PM

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Fabulous post Diamond. You are one. Truly

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene Diamond - 10/24/2006 12:31:17 PM

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Fabulous post Diamond. You are one. Truly

Well...thank you....you just made me blush *smile*

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/24/2006 1:07:42 PM

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An interesting idea i had a few days ago would be to have a Dom stand infront of the sub while they sit on the tolite needing to go pee. Then order the sub to preform oral on the Dom until they have an orgasm, then and only then is the sub allowed to relieve their need to pee. Of course it would really only work with someone who has some discomfort with bathroom functions. Or if the sub knew the Dom had a discomfort with it.

My Dom did a 'mini' verison of this and i know he's uncomfortable with such things, which made my humilation and discomfort much worse when i normally have no problems with having someone else in the room while i do my business. Was also veryyy proud of him for expanding his comfort zone!! YAY HIM!

I dont know if it would be able to last for a long time or not, depends how long the Dom decided to hold off. Or how quickly the sub lost control of their bladder. But then if they did loose control of their bladder they could always be punished for being a "bad girl" which might add to the humilation a lil more. Aslo not much of a 'public' humilation scene but still might be humilating none the less.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/24/2006 5:19:54 PM

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I think it's definitely a personal thing. For me, it was having my mouth duct taped shut at a party because i was being super shy and quiet which, as you may guess is not my normal mo. She wanted me to be my more usual chatty self, I was in a more quiet mood/place. I still haven't quite sorted out WHY it was so humiliating, but it was.

I also find inspections of my person to be humbling, perhaps not humiliating, but humbling.

Writing on the skin too can be humiliating (depending on the message).

Or if she's not an out going girl, taking her out to a social setting, and making her talk to a stranger (or even, a "stranger" to her but known to you).

Maybe it's a trip to the super market together to pick out the biggest cucumber, cans of whip cream, candles, things that are pretty obviously not meant to be "eaten" together. Then leave her alone at the checkout to pay for them.

Just some thoughts. I think you have to find out what the person fears or thinks is humiliating, or even how their normal personality is and play to the opposite.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/25/2006 5:58:21 AM

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One idea for humiliation is to have her pose for pics and then post them on a site online ,such as watchersweb,where the viewers of the pics submit comments and suggestions of all sorts in reaction to the pics.The comments range from glowing compliments and "What I would do with you" to some pretty cruel crticisms.This would be quite a humiliation for especially the non-exhibitionist type!Just be sure to be compliant with the site's age requirements should you decide to pursue this course of action.

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RE: Female Humiliation - in the scene - 10/25/2006 6:52:49 AM

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Hmm 20 years in the lifestyle and cant come up with any good ideas for humiliation play eh.. Well heres one for the books, make your girl put on one of those cow or pig masks, naked on all fours, stuff a long dildo or buttplug up er ass and use it as a ring-toss .. better yet invite your friends over for a contest while everyone calls her names.

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