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Many years on... - 9/9/2008 10:13:57 AM

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Perhaps I'm still not old enough to ask this, but what will happen to your D/s relationship when you're like, 70 years old?

Most people here seem to be in their 30s and 40s, and many have happy and fufilling relationships. Barring any incidents, accidents, break-ups, and so on, how do you think your relationship will develop 20, 30 years later? Or is there a certain age where both parties will decide to end it? No matter what, it probably won't be as intense as it is right now.

This has been on my mind for a while, and I will appreciate comments.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 10:21:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: zakkan

Perhaps I'm still not old enough to ask this, but what will happen to your D/s relationship when you're like, 70 years old?

Most people here seem to be in their 30s and 40s, and many have happy and fufilling relationships. Barring any incidents, accidents, break-ups, and so on, how do you think your relationship will develop 20, 30 years later? Or is there a certain age where both parties will decide to end it? No matter what, it probably won't be as intense as it is right now.

This has been on my mind for a while, and I will appreciate comments.

I am in my 60's and find bdsm as exciting as it was when I first discovered it at 15,a relationship of any kind is what you make it,I hope to live a long fullfilling bdsm lifestyle, die in the arms of a loving woman where its Diane or one of my slaves,just like in a long vanilla relationship the newness may wear off but a long warm loving relationship is still there, hope this make sense ,after all this is just the views of a very ol' master smile..

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 10:23:22 AM

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I keep getting older but the "slut boy slaves" I am attracted to stay the same age. Go figure!

I will keep my body and mind in the best possible shape until I am so old I have to get a hot little slave girl or femdom prodigy to "dominate" sexy men while I watch with my vibrator, of course!

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 10:23:58 AM

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It would made no difference what our ages are... Firm is still the dominant and I am still the submissive.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 10:24:49 AM

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BDSM is a part of the life we have created together. If, for whatever reason, it is no longer a part of our relationship we would still be together for the many other reasons...

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 10:26:02 AM

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If I am committed to a dominant man when in my 70's, I imagine I'll be just as doting and submissive and dedicated as I am today. My bones might creak a bit more and maybe I won't be able to partake in some of the physical stuff I do now, but I can't imagine my love and submission being less intense. Physicality is only one aspect of D/s for me.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 10:31:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

If I am committed to a dominant man when in my 70's, I imagine I'll be just as doting and submissive and dedicated as I am today. My bones might creak a bit more and maybe I won't be able to partake in some of the physical stuff I do now, but I can't imagine my love and submission being less intense. Physicality is only one aspect of D/s for me.

i agree wholeheartedly, D/s and SM are separate entities. imho.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 11:01:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: zakkan

Perhaps I'm still not old enough to ask this, but what will happen to your D/s relationship when you're like, 70 years old?

Most people here seem to be in their 30s and 40s, and many have happy and fufilling relationships. Barring any incidents, accidents, break-ups, and so on, how do you think your relationship will develop 20, 30 years later? Or is there a certain age where both parties will decide to end it? No matter what, it probably won't be as intense as it is right now.

This has been on my mind for a while, and I will appreciate comments.

We all of us have a equal chance of knowing what is going to happen in the future....the rest is just ageism.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 11:48:53 AM

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Physically, you heal a lot slower. Skin is thinner and breaks easier. Arthritis in joints will prevent long sessions, the top's arm won't be able to go for hours and the bottom will require changing position much more frequently.

But barring strokes or other health problems that can cause personality changes, we'll still be who we are.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 11:56:21 AM

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I'm actually contemplating a BDSM Retirement Home...think about it...TNGers would be there to take care of the Seniors!

I can picture Dominants in their wheelchairs...being sponge bathed by the hot young submissives. I see a whole new vision of caning in the hallways! Think about exercise time...boundless amounts of activities that can get the heart rates up!

I have no worries about the older I get and my continued bdsm journey...there is always a group of TNGers in all the major cities!

Plotting and planning for acres of desert land...great investment...and great fun to say the least!

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 12:03:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: zakkan

Perhaps I'm still not old enough to ask this, but what will happen to your D/s relationship when you're like, 70 years old?

Most people here seem to be in their 30s and 40s, and many have happy and fufilling relationships. Barring any incidents, accidents, break-ups, and so on, how do you think your relationship will develop 20, 30 years later? Or is there a certain age where both parties will decide to end it? No matter what, it probably won't be as intense as it is right now.

This has been on my mind for a while, and I will appreciate comments.

I am 53 years old. I enjoy wielding a flogger and a belt and a paddle as much as I did when I started 10 years ago. I can still dry a straight or a curved line with a pinwheel and I can still wax pretty pictures with the candles. There are so many aspects of BDSM that will stay long after some of the more intense, physical things can no longer be done by myself...at least not without some recovery time. But the D/s? The mental and emotional aspects of control and domination over the one who serves me at that time? Hopefully, I will have interwoven that along with the loving relationship I want to have so that the D/s never gets in the way of the love and the love never gets in the way of the D/s, they just each fill their place in the way that they should. I hope I retain those skills but there again, I hope to retain most, if not all, of my mental and emotional and spiritual faculties. I would hope that, as time goes on, that the love I share with my sweet one will be so interwoven with the D/s that one never gets in the way of the other but instead, lifts each other up.

I would hope that if I die in the next two years or when I am 90, that the dominance I have given that has been good will be retained within a warm memory and the bad will be, if not forgotten, set aside. Just as the love I have given that has been good will be retained and the love that was distorted by bad things I did, they did, we all did will be set aside.

We can't know all that life will bring us but we do know it will bring us this...an end to life as we know it. But I know and I believe that the love I have been lucky enough to have shared in will build my heart when loved ones depart and I hope they know that it will strengthen me rather than take away just because they are gone.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 12:04:12 PM

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I'd say there would be no change in the feelings you have for eachother, but like everything else at that age, the physical aspects might slow down a bit.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 12:29:02 PM

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I turn 46 tomorrow. I've been directly involved in the D/s, M/s, BDSM community for over a decade, and been providing pastoral care for almost a quarter century. Because of my own health issues, there are some things I can't do anymore... I can't wield a flogger as long, work on my knees, or maintain one position for ever and ever... and I'm a little slower than I used to be -- but I've discovered new ways of getting the same results. When I couldn't wield a bladed flogger any more, I started learning to cut. I learned to pierce. I learned the joys of fire and came to really -appreciate- our domestic servants in a way that one can only appreciate such things when they are truly a blessing and not strictly a bonus.

My body may change, and I'll probably be more careful about some things than I used to be. I may slow down a little bit, but the biggest parts of my interaction with these communities won't change just because I'm getting older... and think of the plethora of experiences!

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 12:30:05 PM

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51 years young and still having fun with my mistress

geez wonder when we are both 70 if she will still be fucking my ass with that 10 in strapon and fisting me too

gosh i hope so

been doing it now for almost 3 years and that first time she enters my body with her fist still takes my breath away ...love the feeling

my mistress knows my ass and prostate well i must say and i hope she never gets tired of me

have fun mal

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 12:50:18 PM

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~ Fast Reply ~

I think it will be GREAT!

I'll get to walk around 24/7 with a cane, beth will be in diapers; and nobody will look at us as strange as they would if we were to do so today.

We have plans on attending the Folsom Street Fair even when we're forced to attend riding on scooters. Of course beth will still be in thigh high boots.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 1:06:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

I think it will be GREAT!

I'll get to walk around 24/7 with a cane, beth will be in diapers; and nobody will look at us as strange as they would if we were to do so today.

We have plans on attending the Folsom Street Fair even when we're forced to attend riding on scooters. Of course beth will still be in thigh high boots.

Nothing wrong with having a little rope bondage to keep the bodacious ta-tas off of our laps too! Best orthopedic bra around...I bet someone will make orthopedic thigh high boots too!

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 1:14:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: zakkan

I am 53 years old. I enjoy wielding a flogger and a belt and a paddle as much as I did when I started 10 years ago. I can still dry a straight or a curved line with a pinwheel and I can still wax pretty pictures with the candles. There are so many aspects of BDSM that will stay long after some of the more intense, physical things can no longer be done by myself...at least not without some recovery time. But the D/s? The mental and emotional aspects of control and domination over the one who serves me at that time? Hopefully, I will have interwoven that along with the loving relationship I want to have so that the D/s never gets in the way of the love and the love never gets in the way of the D/s, they just each fill their place in the way that they should. I hope I retain those skills but there again, I hope to retain most, if not all, of my mental and emotional and spiritual faculties. I would hope that, as time goes on, that the love I share with my sweet one will be so interwoven with the D/s that one never gets in the way of the other but instead, lifts each other up.

I would hope that if I die in the next two years or when I am 90, that the dominance I have given that has been good will be retained within a warm memory and the bad will be, if not forgotten, set aside. Just as the love I have given that has been good will be retained and the love that was distorted by bad things I did, they did, we all did will be set aside.

We can't know all that life will bring us but we do know it will bring us this...an end to life as we know it. But I know and I believe that the love I have been lucky enough to have shared in will build my heart when loved ones depart and I hope they know that it will strengthen me rather than take away just because they are gone.

This, right here is why i follow you on the boards...well said.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 1:26:17 PM

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One of my first "real" subs was well into her 60s and she was as much as people half her age :)

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 1:35:54 PM

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~ Fast Reply ~
I think it will be GREAT!

I'll get to walk around 24/7 with a cane, beth will be in diapers; and nobody will look at us as strange as they would if we were to do so today.

We have plans on attending the Folsom Street Fair even when we're forced to attend riding on scooters. Of course beth will still be in thigh high boots.

That was just so much fun imagining the pictures.
i'm simply looking forward to enjoying full prostration for longer and longer....really nice to have a good long lay down....probably snoring even if He's standing on my hair.

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RE: Many years on... - 9/9/2008 1:40:47 PM

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Nothing wrong with having a little rope bondage to keep the bodacious ta-tas off of our laps too! Best orthopedic bra around...I bet someone will make orthopedic thigh high boots too!

i'm begging for a good posture collar to help with worn out disks in my neck......

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