FlamingRedhead
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Joined: 3/4/2007 From: Georgia Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: zakkan Do you decide what you hard limits are after you experienced them, or you list certain things as hard limits simply because you are apprehensive? I have not experienced any of my hard limits nor do I wish to which is why they're hard limits instead of soft limits. Not all of my limits are due to "simply" being apprehensive, although electroplay is out because I have an intense fear of being shocked. Some of them are for health reasons, like sounds. I get frequent urinary tract infections. I don't need anyone putting anything in my urethra that doesn't belong there and causing irritation or inflammation. Some are due to the ick factor involved, like scat. I couldn't change my own son's diapers without retching. quote:
ORIGINAL: zakkan For example, someone who has never experienced knife play before lists it as a hard limit. He does not know anything about knife play, but the word "knife" just scares him off. One day someone ties him down and forces him to experience it, and he finds out that its quite fun. Or....someone ties him down and forces him to expeience it, and someone winds up a bloody mess because he totally freaks out. If I say don't ever do it and someone goes and does it anyway, especially while I'm helpless to do anything about it, that's the end of everything for me (the end of the scene, the end of the trust and respect, and the end of the relationship), otherwise known as a deal breaker. quote:
ORIGINAL: zakkan If your dom/sub suggests that you try out something you listed as a hard limit, but have little or no prior knowledge of, will you let him/her? First, he'll probably get "the look." Then, I might consider it for a minute before saying no. Actually, I'll probably be considering my choice of words. I would prefer not to be pressured into doing something that I've already stated I don't ever want to do. I think it's disrespectful to disregard my feelings about something as well as an insult to my intelligence. I don't always have to try something to know I won't like it. Believe me, if I ever change my mind, he'll be the first to know!
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I'm so addicted to All the things you do When you're going down on me In between the sheets Or the sound you make With every breath you take It's unlike anything When you're loving me
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