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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:47:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Strangers do not owe you a response or submission.

No response = no interest

See how easy this is?

I think that is a big part of it, also like somebody else stated, if we do respond to a dom and say we are not interested 9/10 times we end up with messages like 'fat pig, your an ugly cow anyway' because it seems a lot of dom's cant handle rejection and the word NO from a sub.

I may be submissive but i only submit to my master, nobody else.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:47:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: MasterChip2008

A sub/slave's 'duty' is first and foremost 'to serve', this includes, but is definitely not limited to, responding when a Master/Mistress say's something to them...even if the response is in the 'negative'. And yet...there are so very many who just never reply/respond or react in any way whatsoever.

Master Chip 2008

i dont think that people should respond to emails because it is there "duty" as a sub/slave. i think that it is called manners. it goes for all human beings. its not about which title you relate to. at the same time when someone does not take the time to actually read profiles that others have put time and effort into it shows in the messages that are sent. i for one will reply to all emails that i receive,unless it is a "form" letter. i consider that just like the spam i receive on my normal mail server and it gets treated as such.
just my two cents.........keep the change

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:48:08 AM

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*spews coffee*
God grief it is way too early for this

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:48:31 AM

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Oh yes Sir, Red Sir, how silly and unsubbly of me to have forgotten my place. *cough*
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Gosh. That doesn't sound very subbly. You need to be shipped off to submissive boot camp somewhere. Oh, wait.....

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:51:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: KnashsLiLwench
i dont think that people should respond to emails because it is there "duty" as a sub/slave. i think that it is called manners.

Bullshit. It is not "manners" to respond to emails from strangers, it's a bonus for the stranger. Not responding to an email from a friend, acquaintance, business associate, etc., is bad manners.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:51:57 AM

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I have a "duty", really?

To reply to every single person who decides to stick the lable "dominant" on their chest, even if they have no idea how to tie a knot, or cane a girl, and just picked up the lable this morning with a view to getting a quick cheap fuck?

To reply politely to every single abusive email telling me I'm "not really a submissive" and wouldn't get a dom/master/boyfriend for I am fat and ugly and carry a strong resemblance to a farm animal?

To reply politely to the memos telling me I'm arrogant, patronising, have a chip on my shoulder, and generally hurling abuse at me?

Really? I have a "duty" to reply politely to these emails?

How about... Masters/Mistresses have a DUTY to treat submissive/slaves/etc with respect at all times. Should value the service they offer, when they choose to offer it. Should not expect that service to be offered to them. Should view relationships as mutually fulfilling entities. Should respect each and every submissive/slave as an individual and not merely something to beat on/serve them.

See, I can reel of lists of duties, and shoulds, and musts too. Doesn't mean that they hold and weight.

And, FYI, you can get a British Passport in less than a day, you just have to go to the office and wait.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:52:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: MasterChip2008
Another matter, on a different subject is...there has been a huge outbreak of 'supposed' subs/slaves sending message's to Masters and Mistresses from out of the USA, from Ghana for example. They claim they want a 'owner', but then go on to 'demand' extreme funds for plane tickets, visa's, and passports, making claims that all can be had within 72 hours time, IF they have the money. I have, personally, checked this out....the shortest time anyone can get a passport/visa from Ghana, or most anywhere else is actually 6 months or more, and even then, some governments require that the person requesting thses documents have a large bank account balance and real property in they're country, there-by assureing thery're return. I have not found any country willing to grant visa's and passports within 72 hours, and normally there is a long and detailed process by which said items are gotten anyway.
My advise to all Masters and Mistresses, if you get a message from someone outside of your own country, simply do not reply, its most likely a 'con-game' to simply get your money. And for those who receive message's from those in your country, be sure that if you assist with transportation for these subs/slave's, you pre-pay for the ticket, so you can get a refund if the ticket is not used and it cannot be cashed in by anyone else...

Well I can't believe that you actually researched this. All of that time spent doing so could have been avoided if you had just taken a moment to read this page. The CollarMe staff put it here for a reason.
http://www.collarme.com/personals/scammers.htm

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:53:34 AM

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I'm sorry and I'm going to appear disrespectful here, but that is just plain BULL SHIT. In no way does any sub/slave have ANY duty to respond to you in any way shape or form unless you are their Master/Dom. My Dom has told me explicitly that I don't owe any Master/Dom anything unless I feel comfortable doing so. My are you egotistical.

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ORIGINAL: MasterChip2008
I am growing deeply concerned about the sub's and slave's that do not ever reply/respond to message's sent to them by Masters/Mistreess's, not even a polite 'Thanks, but no thanks' would be nice. However, increasingly, I find that its virtually impossible to receive a response from sub's and slave's when they are contacted thru here. A sub/slave's 'duty' is first and foremost 'to serve', this includes, but is definitely not limited to, responding when a Master/Mistress say's something to them...even if the response is in the 'negative'. And yet...there are so very many who just never reply/respond or react in any way whatsoever.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:54:02 AM

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Since I make it a personal email to respond to ALL mail (now that CM allows me to again), - and that means absolutely all first letters, thereafter, if it gets bad enough, i reserve the right to block or ignore -
Allow me to grant you some insight.
The same Doms who are incapable of translating:
No Response = NO interest
Are equally incapable of understanding that
'sorry, not interested' = Not interested.
If I write you to say, 'sorry, not interested', you will get all excited that someone actually Wrote you!
You will write back to say, 'Hey, I just wanna be friends!'
And, continueing to be polite, I will respond with the words from my own profile, 'Friends are good! Okay, of course you can write!'
Then you will say, 'Could we chat? do you have yahoo?'
This is so common that I have a cut and paste for it, which goes, 'yes, i do have yahoo, but i would prefer to corrospond with you here. Master can of course moniter my Yahoo, but it is easier for him to moniter here. So I would prefer to stay on CM, thank you.'
From this you will somehow glean that I am an unhappy, abused, maltreated sub. (only the adjective in the middle fits, and she LIKES that). You will write and offer to become my new Master.
Now, I know you are going to say that YOU would never do this, and i believe you.
But I am not the only woman on CM who has had this conversation DOZENS of times.
Last week one started off well - went predictably through the 'can we yahoo?' - but then discussed differences in weather/climate/culture - he was in Alaska. He mentioned having family near me, ect.
Then he asked if he could ask me questions, from a slave's perspective, to help him learn and grow as a Master.
Of course, always glad to be of service.
The question was, 'Does your Master micromanage you? Does he control every aspect of your day and your life? does he use and beat you daily? Because I do.'
Okay, see, those last three words just destroyed my suspension of disbelief that this was an actual conversation, as opposed to an advertisement for you and an attempt to poach.

Now do you see why women don't write you back?

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:56:42 AM

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Damn, it's my DUTY to respond to every sick fuck that emails me even if it's to say "thanks but no thanks"???? So that's what that page said, that got ripped out of my Twue Subby handbook. Dammit.

On a more serious note, I respond to ones that are at least halfway civil, the ones that are over the top I might respond to anyway. This will almost guarantee that I get one of those "you are an ugly cow wannabe" tirades. Which, I find great satisfaction in firing off a response such as "sux to be you, an ugly cow wannabe won't have anything to do with you".

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:59:40 AM

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I actually prefer a no response to a "thanks, but no thanks". Why? If they are truly not interested, then a no response saves me the time to open, read and delete their reply!!

I’ve never understood why guys are always complaining about subs/slaves that don’t respond to their unsolicited emails. I always ask them this:

Q: When you are at home, the phone rings and the caller ID says “National Opinion Research”, or “”COIT Carpet Cleaning” or some other tele-marketer, do you pick it up and say “thanks, but no thanks” or do you ignore it? If you ignore it, how is what these subs/slaves do any different or worse - NOBODY likes to waste their time on things that didn’t ask for and aren’t interested in!!!

The best advice I have for Dom’s sending out emails to potential subs/slaves is what I do:
EVERY TIME I send an initial email to a sub/slave here on collarme, I immediately delete it (not UNSEND, delete). You won’t know if they read it or not and therefore there is nothing to get upset about!

< Message edited by OneSickFck -- 10/12/2008 9:00:21 AM >

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:59:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: MasterChip2008

A sub/slave's 'duty' is first and foremost 'to serve', this includes, but is definitely not limited to, responding when a Master/Mistress say's something to them...even if the response is in the 'negative'. And yet...there are so very many who just never reply/respond or react in any way whatsoever.

oh that's what my first and foremost duty is to serve every Tom, Dick and Henrietta who is NOT my dominant? i didn't know my submission to Daddy include serving you too. damn no wonder i haven't earned my twue badge of submissiveness yet.

you see, Chip ...oh i cannot call you master - you haven't earned that title from me, it's a mantra around here - if you're not my master/dominant, i can do whatever i damn well please. so if i chose not to respond to you, that's a good enough response for you to move on.

thanks for bringing the whine of the month. now would you like some cheese with that vintage?

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:02:07 AM

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Oh you poor misguided Man. It's obvious that you are under the impression that people here are different then they are elsewhere.
I call you misguided cause you've forgotten that under all this labeling we are all people first. To simply take a label will never
reduce the human factor.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:07:23 AM

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Bravo :)

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterChip2008

A sub/slave's 'duty' is first and foremost 'to serve', this includes, but is definitely not limited to, responding when a Master/Mistress say's something to them...even if the response is in the 'negative'. And yet...there are so very many who just never reply/respond or react in any way whatsoever.

oh that's what my first and foremost duty is to serve every Tom, Dick and Henrietta who is NOT my dominant? i didn't know my submission to Daddy include serving you too. damn no wonder i haven't earned my twue badge of submissiveness yet.

you see, Chip ...oh i cannot call you master - you haven't earned that title from me, it's a mantra around here - if you're not my master/dominant, i can do whatever i damn well please. so if i chose not to respond to you, that's a good enough response for you to move on.

thanks for bringing the whine of the month. now would you like some cheese with that vintage?

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:08:56 AM

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Ahh, you have much to learn, grasshoppah.

It is my duty to be smart with myself. You have received some very polite and informative replies here. We've been through the ringer with the silly emails of self proclaimed dominant men and women (mostly men, for some reason). I do not have time to get into a sparring match with someone on the internet who doesn't have my best interest at heart, or who wants to send abusive messages in reply to a "no thank you."

For what it's worth, I do send no thank you's to people who have bothered to send a comprehensible message, or a message that says more than something like, "What's your Yahoo IM name?" Just yesterday I received an email that simply said, "Online." What am I supposed to do with that, other than just delete it? Why is that worth any amount of my time?

You see, when I am unowned, my "duty" is to serve and take care of myself. When I am owned, my "duty" is to serve my owner. Nowhere in my world is there a law that states my "duty" is to serve anyone who wants that service. Been there, done that, got the therapy receipts.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:09:27 AM

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Welcome to the wonderful world of online dating. Do yourself a favor and search the forums and you will find your complaint/whine is not the only one. It is a FREE site and life being what it is you will have people who will not respond and you will find many people who are trying to scam others. It is called LIFE and those type of folks can be found anywhere. You have only been online a couple of weeks according to your profile. Don't expect sub/slaves to bow down just because you contact them. One thing you will find is all of us want to be treated first with respect and finding a partner on this site is no different than other dating sites other than the 'kink' involved and power exchange that may or may not exist in other relationships.

Welcome and enjoy your journey.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:10:25 AM

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Whoo... 2 pages already! I love these threads!

As the others have said, not responding to people who don't interest me cuts down on the "fake sub ugly cow" vitriol, although those responses can be amusing.

As far as answering with "Thanks, but no thanks"; as I've said in other whiney threads... does it really do something for you to log in, see a crapload of mail, and then read rejection after rejection? Really? Wouldn't you rather log in and only see mail from submissives who are interested?

I don't get it.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:14:05 AM

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*smiles*

thanks - i have more for Chip if he should ever return to post after the severe beating he's getting now.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:14:59 AM

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OMG.... this is exactly what I experience!
*sniff whine*
You mean I am not unique?
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: tsatske
If I write you to say, 'sorry, not interested', you will get all excited that someone actually Wrote you!
You will write back to say, 'Hey, I just wanna be friends!'
And, continueing to be polite, I will respond with the words from my own profile, 'Friends are good! Okay, of course you can write!'
Then you will say, 'Could we chat? do you have yahoo?'
This is so common that I have a cut and paste for it, which goes, 'yes, i do have yahoo, but i would prefer to corrospond with you here.

But I am not the only woman on CM who has had this conversation DOZENS of times.
Last week one started off well -
he asked if he could ask me questions, from a slave's perspective, to help him learn and grow as a Master.
Of course, always glad to be of service.
The question was, 'Does your Master micromanage you? Does he control every aspect of your day and your life? does he use and beat you daily? Because I do.'
Now do you see why women don't write you back?

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:15:53 AM

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I've never not responded at least moderately politely to an email I've been sent. Even if it's "thanks but no thanks". I've then found blocking works equally well.

Just my tuppence worth.

Gloriana

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