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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:22:14 AM   
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i respond to most, mind you im nrmally a sarcy bitch because to be honest if they cant be arsed to read even the first few lines of my profile why should i be polite, nice or even respond, the only thing I owe at the moment is £100 to my bank, overdrafts are badddd

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:28:54 AM   
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Um, you look okay to me!


sp2 looks DAMNED okay to me.  Unfortunately, the silly girl chose not to live close to me, and she also neglected to tell me of her deep love for me whilst I was still single.  Too late now...


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:30:46 AM   
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I use to respond to all messages sent and if not interested, I stated so.  Was a thank you but not interested. And then I would get back a response to that telling me because I am a slave that I must obey to whomever decided that I was suppose to submit to.  Well, I as a slave do have a choice who I will submit to. It is not the "masters" choice. A slave does hold more power then many realize.  It is my choice who I give my submission to, who I respond to, etc. It got to the point I started what I call a SROTW list.  Stupid response of the week.  LOL that seems to have cut way down on those that think I owe them something just because I am a slave.
So now I have a tendancy to just delete a message instead of responding. Got tired of being cut down because I just wasn't interested. Nor for the fact that there are many that just look at the pic and write to you without reading a full profile. So basically whether you are a dom/master or a sub/slave and you write to someone and don't get  a response, well that right there says there is no interest. Get over it and move on.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:32:24 AM   
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quote:

A slave does hold more power then many realize.


Dominants realize it.  They just don't like to admit to it.


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:33:36 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

A slave does hold more power then many realize.


Dominants realize it.  They just don't like to admit to it.



absolute power corrupts absolutely...... is that what cap kirk said???


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:37:05 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterChip2008

I am growing deeply concerned about the sub's and slave's that do not ever reply/respond to message's sent to them by Masters/Mistreess's, not even a polite 'Thanks, but no thanks' would be nice. However, increasingly, I find that its virtually impossible to receive a response from sub's and slave's when they are contacted thru here. A sub/slave's 'duty' is first and foremost 'to serve', this includes, but is definitely not limited to, responding when a Master/Mistress say's something to them...even if the response is in the 'negative'. And yet...there are so very many who just never reply/respond or react in any way whatsoever.



A submissives duty is to her Master and is defined by him and by her. What service includes and is not limited to is decided by me and my Master.  No one except someone you are in a relationship with and have an agreement, contract or understanding with is required to acknowledge you.
You have absolutely no right to think that every sub on this web site has a duty or obligation to respond to  you.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:39:01 AM   
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Damn, all of you took all the best answers. That what I get for sleeping in today.

I'll add that so many "D" types ignore the wants and needs in a "s' types profile and email anyway. So,if you've taken it upon yourself to think you're the exception, you deserve no answer.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:40:31 AM   
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I believe the quote originated with John Dalberg-Acton (Lord Acton):

"I cannot accept your canon that we are to judge Pope and King unlike other men with a favourable presumption that they did no wrong. If there is any presumption, it is the other way, against the holders of power, increasing as the power increases. Historic responsibility has to make up for the want of legal responsibility. Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Great men are almost always bad men, even when they exercise influence and not authority: still more when you superadd the tendency or certainty of corruption by authority. There is no worse heresy than that the office sanctifies the holder of it“.

I have always loved that quote!


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:43:12 AM   
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yes but there is a star trek episode where kirk says it...i think this is where the guy and the girl have weird look in their eyes and become god like creatures.
its like one of the first episodes.


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:45:14 AM   
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Hillarious stuff!  Amazing how few people on here understand a simple concenpt like this:  Just because one is submissive, that does not mean she/he should be submissive to you!

...but I do feel sorry for Women on these sites, trully I do. :(

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:45:40 AM   
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The truth is, as much as I didn't like the question you are asking.... the replies to you are even worse IMHO. So let me answer you honestly...

The problem as I see it, is you have a predefined notion of what a sub/slave is to you. This is not a bad thing at all, but rather a good one. The thing you have to understand is, not everyone uses your definitions. That's why you are getting so many responses telling you that the problem is your thoughts on the subject. Thats why you keep hearing "as a sub I owe you, a stranger, nothing".

The fact is, you should take the lack of response to mean exactly what it does mean - that by your definition the person not replying is not a real sub or slave. Thats fine... move on.

Keep sending out your emails exactly as you do, because when you do find someone who agrees with your definition, that person is CERTAINLY going to reply!


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:45:52 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: simpleplan2

And when you do respond, most "masters" tell you that you're ugly and fat and worthless, etc. What's the point?


And this is all TRUE..... Further you will ALL submit to me and do my bidding.... Get down on your knees and serve me - Show me the respect that I naturally deserve as a Dom. Strip off your clothes and come over to my house right now for your punishment.

(sponge bob laugh here) Oh Yeah - Today's Opposite Day

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:46:07 AM   
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Please take a moment and ask yourself this, how many emails can you humanly respond to in a day?  10, 20, 30, 100 or even 200+

Some sub/slaves recieve literally 100+ and upwards to 400+ emails within a 24/48 hour period.    It all depends upon the profile, picture, how attractive they appear and the content of their profile.

Most people have jobs and other aspects to living.   Many sub/slaves literally would have to become slaves to their inbox to respond to everybody that write to them. 

They will skim read through a few profiles and respond to a few.   If a sub/slave account/profile is fairly new, they are being swamped with email messages.  They are simply Fresh meat.  

Look for those profiles/accounts that have been around for awhile to respond to.  There is a bit of feeding frenzy that occurs with a new sub/slave profile.   Literally some of them get 400+ plus email in their inbox within 24 hours, and they spend the next two weeks or longer going through it.   In fact some will find prospective DOMs in the screening of 100 emails and simply bulk delete the rest.   

There's only so much time one can humanly dedicate to responding.

You might want to attempt responding to an profile say Three times at most.  Be civil and polite about it, without giving them a hard time about why they have not responded to you.   You are expressing and interest and being patient and polite.  Space these three emails say a week a part from one another.

If after three attempts at responding to their profile you don't get their attention chances are they are not.   Here's another tip for you, be certain to full their full profile periodically, you will show up on the list of people recently viewing their profile.  Also, after you write to somebody add them to your favorites, you will show up on their admirer list.  

Basically, if you write them, are checking them out frequently and have added them as somebody you are interested in, this increases your odds as well. 

Also, make certain your own profile is has pictures and you express what you are looking for as well.  

Using the Message board and being active in the online communitity here increases your odds of getting noticed as well.   However, keep this in mind.  If you express a lot of negativitity in your posts to the message boards, it will work against you just as well.

You need to put yourself in the shoes and see things from the sub/slave perspectives here.   First and foremost, they are complete strangers, they have not submitted to you, also.. they are not trying to be submissive to everybody and anybody on here.  

Many Doms or people that write to them actually don't deserve a response from anybody.   These people tend to wear on the sub/slaves nerves.  There is a high volume of clueless asses that respond to sub/slave profiles.

I'm just expressing the reality of things, and some of the issues.  Your expectations of behavior are really not all that realistic and that's what I'm trying to express to you in a polite like manner here.

Good luck with your search, and try to kick back and don't try to place to much emphasis on D/s behavior or patterns to occur from complete strangers. 

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:47:14 AM   
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 Riker says it to an alien being-a ghostlike guardian-on a planet where he meets up with Ferengi on a very early episode (Riker doesn't have his facial hair, but the Ferengi do have some interesting electric whips...).  I watch WAYYYY too much TV...

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:48:41 AM   
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  " deeply concerned " , eh ?    Isn't life fraught with enough very real challenges ?   If you choose to create such drama for yourself , by expecting perfect strangers to behave according to your particular preconceived ideas - you're not gonna have much fun here at all .   And good grief - scams of all sorts have been around since humans first began to communicating - why should we be left out on this site !? 
 
    I'll make a friendly suggestion - that you make an attempt to get over yourself .  

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:55:52 AM   
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You are indeed correct!  Not being a Star Trek fan I had to Google it.  The episode is in fact the first episode filmed with Kirk as Captain ("Where No Man Has Gone Before") but the fourth episode shown on TV. 

As for the quote itself, I agree that absolute power corrupts absolutely.  My only question is, why does everyone think that is such a bad thing?!!

Oops, I meant my reply for "faerytattoodgirl".  I obviously still haven't fully figured out these message boards and how to direct a reply to a specific user post!

< Message edited by OneSickFck -- 10/12/2008 10:01:04 AM >

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 10:02:06 AM   
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In terms of the Out of Country Scammers they are on any and nearly every dating site there is on the internet.   It's just not here on the kinky BDSM sites.

You have no idea to the full extent that this problem or issue is.   There is nothing you can do personally to fix it.  

First and foremost, educate yourself upon the common rip off scams.  CM has went to length to post notices to inform people to not send money to other people.  There's a reason why. 

When responding to people on this site, you might have noticed the bold red letter message regarding this.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 10:06:05 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShatteredSoul123

The fact is, you should take the lack of response to mean exactly what it does mean - that by your definition the person not replying is not a real sub or slave. Thats fine... move on.


please universally define what a real submissive/slave is for us then so we might follow your "wise" teachings. 

also it's his predefined notion that will never land him that special submissive/slave he so desires.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 10:15:03 AM   
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I agree.  Well stated.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 10:16:16 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShatteredSoul123


The fact is, you should take the lack of response to mean exactly what it does mean - that by your definition the person not replying is not a real sub or slave. Thats fine... move on.



I can assure you that I am a real sub but I do not respond to any messages I am sent. My profile clearly says I am owned and yet I still get messages from so called Doms or Masters either ignoring what is said on the profile or thinking they can do better! I certainly OWE them nothing at all.


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