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Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 2:59:04 PM

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If this was your Dom/Master what would you do?

~Comes home, talks to you online and then barely talks to you the rest of the night.
~Hasn''t called in a month.
~Claims that calls to your cell aren't going through when he tries to call.
~Claims he is not getting your texts and when you panic he goes off on you.
~Gets upset when he asks you to do something and you can't at that point in time.
~Tells you first that he plans on collaring you, but when and where is up to him, and then tells you that if someone else shows interest, not to say no because of him.
~Tells you that you can only call him Master when you used to call him things like Sir and other pet names and he said it was okay because they all ment the same thing no matter what was said.
~Tells you you can text him at work and then down the line asks you not too because you make him feel guilty that he is working and you are not.

RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 3:01:32 PM

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I'd move along.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 3:05:39 PM

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What GT said. In looking at your profile you have not been on this site for very long. Is this long distance or local? Really there is lots of unanswered questions.
Communication is the key and if you can't ask him or he won't tell WHY things have changed then I would say moving on is the answer.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 3:05:54 PM

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Yeah .. I'd move on and take Greedy with me.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 3:10:01 PM

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Relationships are just like supermarket trolleys - they move in one direction. It may not always be the direction you want or are expecting, but they move in one direction.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 3:10:11 PM

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wanna be dom's are fun....but not wanted.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 3:15:31 PM

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quote:

~Tells you first that he plans on collaring you, but when and where is up to him, and then tells you that if someone else shows interest, not to say no because of him.

This is the only one in here that bothered me of its own. (although i am a bit confused why he feels 'guilty' for working...)

What bothers me more, and please hear this the way i mean it, is that you posted this at all.

It is possible that you are posting everything annoying or questionable about him, and nothing else, and that makes him look bad.

But, i doubt it. If you are feeling fulfilled, sustianed, cared for, you don't make posts like this - or ask questions like this, rather of your mom or your best friend or the stranger on the bus.

You knew the answer when you started typing.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 3:19:15 PM

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It started out as having the intent first and then going to real time. We had talked a couple of times about meeting, but there were no promises as when and where would depend on his job. We had talked about making a serious desicion on the relationship after the meeting, but there has been no talk of that since.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 3:25:53 PM

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Let's make an anolaogy of this to pre-internet days.
Your best friend says she knows this GREAT guy from work, she wants to hook you up. You say sure.
She gives him your number. He calls you.
You talk on the phone a lot, for a while. You plan to meet, but it's the busy season at work, so you'll have to work out when.
He encourages you to call him at work. says it is not a problem.
He says you are the perfect woman, and that he doesn't want to rush things, but he can see himself marrying you.
Then, suddenly, it gets longer and longer... seems the busy season would be over ... still can't find time to meet you.
He starts telling you that he was out of the office when you called... that his secretary didn't give him the message.
He doesn't call when he says he will.
When you express honest concern over him, he gets angry.
He tells you more and more clearly that he will no doubt marry you some day - but he now finish that sentence with - if someone else asks you out, don't say no because of me.

Have I about got that?

Let's be clear - it seemed like a good hook up for a while, seemed to have a lot of potential, but then, it fell flat.

You never really met him.

Sounds close to a lot of promising first dates that just don't become the one. (except, of course, they usually got a blowjob....)

Move on. don't sweat it. It's not worth any heartache. Honest.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 3:26:32 PM

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So, you've not actually met this guy?

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 3:27:39 PM

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I think I would say something like...look's like you've made the decision to work on the relationship with your wife.
Give her my best wishes. Be gone.

It sounds like he is tired of you and cannot bear to tell you that. Or his wife caught on. The question is do you think you are worth more than the way he is treating you? If so, you know what you need to do.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 3:30:10 PM

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Nope I haven't.

And yes, when we first started talking he'd call once a week, talk to me via chat every time he saw me on, would comment on my journal entries and he would even talk about the future.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 3:39:46 PM

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I would respond in like to his actions and see what happens. If he doesn't text you; you don't text him, etc
But I don't have a ton of patience, so I would probably move on.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 3:55:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: SoulPiercer

Yeah .. I'd move on and take Greedy with me.

I'd move on and take GT and SP with me... but I'm a pervert that way.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 3:58:33 PM

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If you haven't picked up a copy of the book, "He's Just Not That Into You", now would be a good time.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 4:00:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: wichchilde

Nope I haven't.

And yes, when we first started talking he'd call once a week, talk to me via chat every time he saw me on, would comment on my journal entries and he would even talk about the future.

There will be others who will do this as well, but only if you leave the door open for them to do so.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 4:25:31 PM

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I'd be gone. Who has time for that crap? Not me.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 4:29:49 PM

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quote:

If this was your Dom/Master what would you do?

beg for release.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 4:31:39 PM

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It is possible that you are posting everything annoying or questionable about him, and nothing else, and that makes him look bad.

Bingo.

While I generally agree with the responses given, the intent behind the OP smells of begging the question by dangling half of the story.

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RE: Your Thoughts - 10/12/2008 4:38:03 PM

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I would've walked a long time ago..a month without a word?

Yeah..move on.

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