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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/25/2007 3:38:30 PM

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/25/2007 5:43:45 PM

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Personally a dom twice my age would be 96. And while it might be interesting, Im betting there'd be some moments that would give me pause. Like as in him needing help to get to the bathroom right in the middle of it. Or calling it quits by 8 pm when bedtime rolls around. Then theres the miscommunication part when the hearing aid isnt up high enough. Thats always a little tricky. lol The good news is, I'd be looking really good in his eyes. And I always like it when Im prettier than my man.

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/25/2007 5:46:13 PM

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Well, at least he can always carry his cane around and no one will look at him any differently.

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/25/2007 5:47:44 PM

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Breath play would only consist of you steping on his oxygen line.

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/25/2007 7:59:19 PM

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This is a question that particularly interests me, since I'm an older Dom who would like to find a younger sub. Not "half my age" younger, just "two-thirds my age" or thereabouts. However I haven't really seen anyone mention my own particular reason for this, though I do admit not having read every single entry. For me, I would like to find someone who's young enough that we could start a family a few years down the road.

Granted, women my own age (42) are still very capable of having kids but the risks associated with pregnancy at that age are quite high and grow higher as age increases. Also, it would be nice to meet someone and be able to spend a few years getting to know them and being able to have a fulfilling D/s life as well before curtailling activities to raise children. (I also know sperm degrades as males age, but the rates of degradation are slower for men as well as occurring later. My father was 49 when I was conceived and born and 51 when my sister was born.)

As to the other aspects of an older Dom being a better choice for a sub, I agree but that's just personal bias. I probably would have been disagreeing 20+ years ago when I started doing wiitwd.

I make no apologies for my choices, since they are mine alone. Everyone's choices and opinions are right for themselves only. Plus, I'm weird.

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/25/2007 8:03:38 PM

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Um...It sounds like the primary reason you want a younger sub is because you want a breeder. That's not very flattering.

Have you considered an adoption, perhaps?

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/25/2007 9:33:44 PM

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Um...It sounds like the primary reason you want a younger sub is because you want a breeder. That's not very flattering.

Have you considered an adoption, perhaps?

Note that I said "COULD start a family" (emphasis added). I don't want a breeder, I want a partner who also happens to be very kinky. I look upon WIITWD as a total lifestyle and, as such, more than JUST kinky sex. I want a partner who is interested in many things and the possibility of a family is one of those things.

The reason I specifically mentioned my situation is only because I hadn't seen it covered. If this were a thread about gags, I would have happily gone on and on about my love for them. But that wouldn't mean that I wanted a mute sub.

I have indeed considered adoption and it remains a possibility but that decision would hopefully be made with my slave.

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/25/2007 9:40:22 PM

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This is a question that particularly interests me, since I'm an older Dom who would like to find a younger sub. Not "half my age" younger, just "two-thirds my age" or thereabouts. However I haven't really seen anyone mention my own particular reason for this, though I do admit not having read every single entry. For me, I would like to find someone who's young enough that we could start a family a few years down the road.

While you want other things from your sub, the reason that is implied, by this statement, that you want a sub that is younger is because of the breeding thing. Unless I am mistaken and reading this the wrong way, which, I will admit, I quite often do.

Through you may want more from her, her age being a factor for a reason like this may scare off people.

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/25/2007 11:08:28 PM

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This is a question that particularly interests me, since I'm an older Dom who would like to find a younger sub. Not "half my age" younger, just "two-thirds my age" or thereabouts. However I haven't really seen anyone mention my own particular reason for this, though I do admit not having read every single entry. For me, I would like to find someone who's young enough that we could start a family a few years down the road.

While you want other things from your sub, the reason that is implied, by this statement, that you want a sub that is younger is because of the breeding thing. Unless I am mistaken and reading this the wrong way, which, I will admit, I quite often do.

Through you may want more from her, her age being a factor for a reason like this may scare off people.

I didn't delve into the many reasons I look for a younger girl, you are correct. I have a very young outlook on life and certainly don't feel my age, at least mentally. Physically, it's a little different story, but that's a tale for another time. I've worked at a large university for many years which has helped me maintain that youthful view. Working with twenty-somethings tends to keep one fresh and relatively in-touch with youth. Additionally, I'm working on a graduate degree so I'm also in classes with younger people. Of all my friends, only a few are more than a year or so older than me and the vast majority are five to seven (or more) years younger. This includes male as well as female.

So I grant you that I may not have worded things as accurately as they were laid out in my head but I do assure you that my view of life is that of someone much younger than I, which would make it optimal for my partner to be the same.

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/26/2007 6:56:45 AM

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sophia is having a ugly man one of your hard limits?

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/26/2007 7:40:39 AM

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i walked into a room once with people under thirty I felt very out of place. I felt i had no connection with them on any. Nothing in common . So when the age gap is too large and your chasing someone twice your age I think it is more of a selfish want then a realistic expectation. Maybe you need some help or therapy. When fantasy runs amuk

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/26/2007 8:49:33 AM

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As it is with many things - people generally become more experienced with age, and through age also comes maturity. As an older DOM (54) we often enjoy women from 19-40, who already have had some form of experimental training from partners of their own age group.

The general complaint we have heard was that their partners fumbled through the experience, often not paying attention to their needs. We even had a woman reflect to us that her "Dom" put her in handcuffs - than later remembered that he had left the keys in his car, fully ruining her experience with him. We were amused to hear that story!

Generally speaking ( we are not speaking for everyone), we more mature Dom's have become through time more knowledgeable in many fields. We instinctively know how the placement of some bondage, or gag will
Influence a slaves blood flow, ability to breathe, her pain tolerance, or physical abilities. Although younger Dom's may acquire these traits in time, many lack the physical experience. Many subs/slaves look to us mature Dom's for other reasons including safety. We should further state that age itself does not make a great DOM/Master. There are plenty inexperienced older people who by the act of putting on a leather vest/chaps/skirt, profess themselves as a Dom/me! These people are often the basis for discontentment by their sub/slaves.

Most of us older Dom's have heard horror stories of women abused, even raped during scenes. We have heard of safe words and signals being ignored during the heat of the moment. Personally we know of at least one sub, who was caned far beyond her safety zone by a Domme her own age. Thankfully these undesired occurrences are few and far in between. However, they do impede a young sub/slaves ability to remain trusting!

We are certain in our opinion that younger Dom's generally tend to be more intrusive in their nature due to their youth, which may explain why they may experience an undesirable outcome in their play.

We advocate - Safe- Sane- & Consensual Play!
Our advice to all new and younger or new Dom's is; "Listen to your subs/slaves desires/needs. Respect her limits. Control your emotions during play. Watch for distress! Always have available spare keys, scissors, cutters, and emergency gear. Invest in quality equipment, and be careful not to overstate your experience.
Personally we wish you the best in your future endeavors and remember - "one day too you shall be where we are today"! ENJOY!

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/26/2007 9:29:21 AM

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what is it with girls having masters double their age? it really sucks for young doms like me trying to find a sub/slave when all of them want a dom who is practically old enough to be their father or grandfather. can someone answer me that

I don’t have the time to read through five pages of responses so I’ll just respond to the OP’s topic heading.

In many cultures, younger women traditionally are drawn to older men for a variety of reasons:

Firstly, it is believed that age usually equates with wisdom, something venerated in both eastern and oriental cultures. The view of beer bellies not being attractive is only so in a few cultures. In the Orient, the large belly is a sign of spiritual power. Ever see a Buddah with a six pack instrad of a large belly?

Secondly, it is also believed that older men are usually more financially established and thus are ready to provide a home for a new bride or concubine.

Thirdly, older men usually have settled down and understand who and what they are in comparison to the young bucks who spend more time in pissing contests and tend to be filled with piss and wind and bad manners. Besides which many women will say that an older man is a far better lover because he has both experience and knowledge to fall back on and has got past the belief that all a woman wants is a walking hard on to ram up her when ever the walking hard on wants……

Read this and weep young'uns.. read it and weep. He nailed it.

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/26/2007 12:22:52 PM

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Hmmmmmm...Tis a Friday and I am just perusing...I find it interesting that this thread is still going. Has the OP been back or did he ...........move...away?

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/27/2007 6:36:24 PM

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Hmmmmmm...Tis a Friday and I am just perusing...I find it interesting that this thread is still going. Has the OP been back or did he ...........move...away?

So far as I've seen he hasn't made any replies beyond the first one, though it seems he did change his profile somewhat. Some of the things that subsequent posters mentioned regarding his comment on beer-bellied Doms don't seem to be there now.

It could be that he learned something here. Or not.

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/27/2007 6:45:52 PM

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Well, I hope he learned that unless he can trot out a stable of well-adjusted, mature, good looking doms that are somehow more attractive then the older gents, women will continue to be with the older fellows. Takes more then simple yelling to change someone's mind about who to be with.

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 10/28/2007 1:02:31 AM

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I believe that submissives are attracted to power. Often, that is something that comes with age.

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 11/2/2007 5:59:46 AM

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oh it all depends upon the ages in question. When i was 20-something i was attracted to men older than me. now that i've become ageless, it doesn't matter as much and in fact my Master is 9 years my junior. i could not imagine being with a Master twice my age cuz that would make Him 108 and would seem kinda creepy.

"Now that I've become ageless": pricelsess!

And, let's see, I'm pretty good with algebra, so if 2x = 108... (don't worry eo, I won't divulge x)...

...and InkedMaster is x-9... ...then IM is 45. Heck, I was 45 until...TODAAY!
(yup, it's ma burtday)

So, again with the math...if I can get a sub half my age, I now no longer qualify for the 22.5 year olds.

DAMN! (liked the "kinda creepy" line, too)

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 11/2/2007 6:11:13 AM

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Hey are there any 32 going on 33 years old subs out there? I dont mind sticking to subs half my age. Grins

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RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 11/2/2007 6:35:09 AM

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Well, Ive been with men age 22 to 60. I found out that I was best suited for older men.
Im 42 and my Dom just turned 60. Im glad He's that age. He's very resourceful because He has lots of experience in life and is secure in Himself. I find that extremely sexy!
Hmmm...not necessarily "powerful" but there's just something freeing about being with a Man that knows how to be relaxed in His skin. It come across easily and well, to be honest....women can sense it from the first moment she eyes Him.
Picture it: a young gorgeous male struts across the room almost barking His demands (because He is THE man) loudly makes His presence known...or...an older Man (even those supposedly "less" gorgeous by media standards) quietly assessing the room takes possession and leans into the chair.
Which would I prefer? *smiles...Now for me, younger men havent quite learned the battle is won before it happens or least the ones Ive met havent figured it out.

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