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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 7:09:55 AM

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Given that this is a forum where people are meant to make inquiries as to the opinions and ideas of Mistresses...

Not really, no. Usage over an extended period of time has shown that this is a forum where people or any sort discuss female domination.

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... it is my opinion that we men here should ONLY answer a question if we have something intelligent and potentially useful to add.

That's the case for any forum, no?

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I also think that it is vital that we men remember that while we may, in fact, have something intellignt and articulate to add to the various discussions, that most people here are soliciting the responses of female Dommes, not of us.

I dispute that `most people' are looking for that.

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So while offering our opinions, perhaps we should not expect to be taken as seriously as a woman answering, since the questions were not directed at us.

Ew. I'm a submissive, not an inferior, thank you very much. I expect to be taken seriously or not based on what I say here and how I say it, not based on prejudice about my genitalia or the role I take in relationships.

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 7:15:28 AM

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FloridaMistresse wrote: I specifically ask "To a Mistress from a Mistress" in My original post for personal reasons. I was looking for My own personal introspection, and wanted and needed a Female Dominant POV. I felt they would understand My journey and needs and POV better than a male or a submissives.

Fair enough. I think it would have been better to mention in your post that you were `most interested in responses from other Dommes', rather than being seen to try to exclude people.

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 7:18:56 AM

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Absolutely, only Mistresses should respond here. So I am inappropriately responding just to say I should not be responding.

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 7:25:50 AM

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Op This entire thread is academic because it can't be policed effectively anyway in terms of who is responding. No one is forced to read the replies of anyone else, you can be selective as to which ones you read. Just look at the name and or profile before embarking on reading a so called long post by a male. In an ideal world each reply could be filtered by any criteria you want. I've noticed though the avatars of females in most cases seem to be fairies, models, lips, etc. Also the names make it pretty obvious in most cases and you can ignore the asexual names and you'll still get enough answers to your question if you are that way inclined.

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 7:29:05 AM

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I've always assumed that the title of any forum is pretty much self explanitory.

That's not a good assumption. The title of a forum often respects the initial intent of the forum's founders but that might not correspond much to its current use. It might also be that the name was badly chosen. As far as I can see, this forum would have been much better called `Female domination' or something like that. I'm not sure it's ever been used only to ask questions of Mistresses.

It's a bit like American football. The name sounds self-explanatory but it's misleading: the game involves handling the ball much more than kicking it. But the game evolved from games where kicking the ball was much more significant and the name reflects that original intent.

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And all of that is good and acceptable, as long as respect for others is maintained.

Hear, hear!

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 7:31:22 AM

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SL4V3M4YB3 wrote: This entire thread is academic because it can't be policed effectively anyway in terms of who is responding.

As a point of information, it could be policed by the moderators. But doing so would eviscerate the discussion here.

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 7:36:29 AM

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I'm not a moderator but I think it would be hard for any moderator to establish 100% the body parts at the other end of an electronic cable.

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 7:44:12 AM

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SL4V3M4YB3 wrote: I'm not a moderator but I think it would be hard for any moderator to establish 100% the body parts at the other end of an electronic cable.

Yeah, good point. But they could, in principle, delete all posts that aren't asking questions but from people who don't at least claim to be dominant women.

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 7:49:26 AM

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My opinion, however, remains the same. I think if a Board has a heading then those responding should respect that, albeit whatever the heading is.

In theory, yours is a reasonable expectation that I would be happy to abide by if it were honored across the board - i.e. no female dominants responding in the "Ask A Master" forum, et cetera. I don't read or post in this forum often so it would probably be a moot point for me. I don't see it the same 'clear expectation' you do - only a reasonable one. In my opinion it appears that the intent is to provide a forum where a question might more easily grab the attention of female dominants and not necessarily to exclude all others. If it is intended to exclude all others then the forum rules should specifically state that.

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 9:57:54 AM

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-fast reply-
I know that in many forums here although it is free speech many don't like when you step into the place such as Gorean Lifestyles...etc. So I feel that if a question is directed to female dominants. Why on earth would a man answer it? That to me does not make any sense. I would not go into Ask a Master and answer their questions. I think it is a matter of respect.

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 10:12:26 AM

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If I feel I've got a related matter to talk about, I'd feel disrespected if I were told I couldn't address it because I was of the "wrong" gender or orientation. I'd feel a even more disrespected if I felt I had a very useful comment to add as an answer, but were again to be told that I was not of the right gender or orientation.

It does, actually, feel quite insulting to be told that. Respect must cut both ways.

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 10:20:26 AM

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To me it doesn't make sense to direct questions to any demographic, unless you're asking questions about a group you're not part of. If someone asks a question about transgender issues then, having never done any formal studies on the topic, I wouldn't respond...as I simply wouldn't have anything to add. If someone asks about femdom relationship issues, then I would feel perfectly qualified to respond as that is the style of relationship I live by. Respect has nothing to do with it, and valuable insights have everything to do with it.

As PeonForHer said, it feels extremely disrespectful to say that because I have a penis my experiences and thoughts on femdom relationships are not of value.

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 10:21:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: Divyacheri

-fast reply-
I know that in many forums here although it is free speech many don't like when you step into the place such as Gorean Lifestyles...etc. So I feel that if a question is directed to female dominants. Why on earth would a man answer it? That to me does not make any sense. I would not go into Ask a Master and answer their questions. I think it is a matter of respect.

If there is a question concerning a certain activity that is not specifically male or female, I see no problem with that, I would think a board is there to share knowledge?

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 11:31:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: Divyacheri

-fast reply-
I know that in many forums here although it is free speech many don't like when you step into the place such as Gorean Lifestyles...etc. So I feel that if a question is directed to female dominants. Why on earth would a man answer it? That to me does not make any sense. I would not go into Ask a Master and answer their questions. I think it is a matter of respect.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2125073/mpage_2/key_/tm.htm#2136908

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 11:36:25 AM

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Ah. Good link.

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 12:09:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: SirDominic
Absolutely, only Mistresses should respond here. So I am inappropriately responding just to say I should not be responding.

LOL, good one. M

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 5:09:38 PM

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I think it all depends on if the contribution is not a-" where can i find a Mistress /Domme " I have been on this site for 2 weeks and not gotten a Mistress " type posts , the whole troll for attentions gets old in all forums .People of all roles and genders can and should share prospective s and insights as well as questions .The more sources you use for your development ,learning and growth ,the better .

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 5:28:06 PM

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LOL!

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I would not go into Ask a Master and answer their questions. I think it is a matter of respect.

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 6:31:22 PM

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OMG! I accidentally posted a reply in the "Ask a Master" section on Spanking Bottoms. I just saw the topic in the latest post listing and thought it sounded like an interesting topic. I didn't ask permission to post there. Whatever shall I do?

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RE: Should men be responding to Ask a Mistress? - 11/16/2008 7:07:00 PM

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ineedotk wrote:
I've always assumed that the title of any forum is pretty much self explanitory.

That's not a good assumption. The title of a forum often respects the initial intent of the forum's founders but that might not correspond much to its current use. It might also be that the name was badly chosen. As far as I can see, this forum would have been much better called `Female domination' or something like that. I'm not sure it's ever been used only to ask questions of Mistresses.

It's a bit like American football. The name sounds self-explanatory but it's misleading: the game involves handling the ball much more than kicking it. But the game evolved from games where kicking the ball was much more significant and the name reflects that original intent.

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And all of that is good and acceptable, as long as respect for others is maintained.

Hear, hear!

beeble

It's true that some people will use a forum for something other than what the title of the forum implies. Also, I haven't checked all the forum titles here on CM, but I would guess that some threads could be placed in several different forums at one time. In other words, some threads may be general enough to where they could overlap across several different forums.

And concerning American football, yes, it's true that there is more to American football than the name implies. The "real" footballs are ruby and soccer (futbal). American football is foot & hand ball. But what would one call it other than football?