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I have always made it a point to ONLY contribute to threads that I felt my contributions would offer some value.

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As I have mentioned on the boards before, my partner/submissive is M2F transsexual. I am a woman that had always considered herself to be heterosexual prior to this relationship.

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

Sometimes i see a profile and it's very appealing; then i get to the part where He discusses what He wants; and so often He wants a bisexual or "bicurious" woman; and i feel sad.

Are straight women just not exciting? Is monogamy just never enough? i have a clear vision of a life or peace and joy with my One; but apparently few men are interested in that vision.

Don't misunderstand; i get mail; but often when i actually IM with Him -- He asks "would you?' and the answer is "no f**king way"; and we come to an end. *Sigh*.

Am i suffering alone?

candystripper

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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ORIGINAL: Nendarye

Psst...

She likes whiskey

/nods

OOOO I just discovered the Hot Toddy this year! Talk about yummy.

LOL the only bad thing about Whiskey and I.....we don't mix very well, which is why I don't drink anymore lol. Ole JD and I...not so good memories there lol.

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Oh no, dear heart, thats the wrong kind of whiskey - that's "tennessee whiskey" which is really bourbon. You need a nice single malt irish whiskey and you'll be dancing a jig and feeling no pain as fast as you can say Ring of Kerry. :-)

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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Oh no, dear heart, thats the wrong kind of whiskey - that's "tennessee whiskey" which is really bourbon. You need a nice single malt irish whiskey and you'll be dancing a jig and feeling no pain as fast as you can say Ring of Kerry. :-)

LOL you should know....two beers and I am feeling no pain what-so-ever...I have a very low tolerance for alchohol of any kind...and whiskey...well, it makes me mean...no other way around it...and not just fight mean...but totally mean lol.

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OK then, it's back to the original recipe of Bombay Sapphire and hot fudge.

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ok i am confused.... If my perceptions is accurate... I thought you enjoy pain... So the idea of having two beers would be a very scary thing for you... oh my the idea that a masocist wouldn't feel pain...

Can see it now.... as punishment Master says "slave go have two beers, NOW!, No pain for you" And then he grabs the flogger and beats the hell out of her *G

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ORIGINAL: justheather

OK then, it's back to the original recipe of Bombay Sapphire and hot fudge.

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ORIGINAL: fyreredsub

aftershock is very goodleaves me slappin da bottom of da bottle for the goodies there

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ORIGINAL: justheather

OK then, it's back to the original recipe of Bombay Sapphire and hot fudge.

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ORIGINAL: Sensualips

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Both actions bespeak a rage, and i need to review and try to ascertain what might have fueled that rage.

I would suspect that rage is a bit of an overstatement. From reading every post on both threads (wow, I am a masochist after all!) it it glaringly obvious to me some people object to what is perceived as a pattern of behavior. The fact that you do not recognize this behavior does not evoke rage, but just a feeling of exasperation. What is the point? It appears that for some the challenges of interacting with you outweigh the pleasure derived from it and thus ending those interaction is a logical choice.

If you are happy with your self, secure and unapologetic in your beliefs, and -- this really should not be a big issue. Other will be more compatible with you for budding online friendships.

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i cannot insult LA gratutiously but i will say i think your Master has given you some strange advice in advising you to emulate her. For example, LA has in the past touted the practice of playing/having sex with people she just met.

It seems you CAN insult her after all. See the pattern? Now you will say you did not insult her at all, you just feel that is an unsafe practice and have concern and it is her choice and not for you, and why do people pick apart your posts and not just respect you. But you already SAID it, the obvious connotations are there.

There are a few possibilities that explain this. The first is that you have strong opinions on what is right and wrong and those judgements creep out even as you struggle to take a I-just-mean-for-me stance. The second is that you serially and genuinely do not intend to give an impression that you give, but are just poor at expressing yourself accurately with the written word. The third possibility is that you are at some level well aware of what you are doing but enjoy the victim role, 13 page threads, and the opportunity to individually answer post after post in your oversized purple font as you sift through and determine who your "friends" are in relation to this site.

Perhaps there is another possibility. Perhaps collarme suffers from a mob mentality and everyone is ganging up on you because you are straight and monogamous and don't believe in casual sex. Perhaps you have done nothing wrong at all and people here just suck. Again. And again.

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I do think this speaks to the idea that attraction and love has more to do with a person than a gender.

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ORIGINAL: fyreredsub

aftershock is very goodleaves me slappin da bottom of da bottle for the goodies there

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ORIGINAL: justheather

OK then, it's back to the original recipe of Bombay Sapphire and hot fudge.

Well, the slapping of bottoms for goodies is usually a sign of a good_time_had_by_all.
Cheers!

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

ohhhhhhhhhh yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

I am not sure that I could do the swatting.....just don't have it in me.....but to be smacked.....mmmmmmmmmmm

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When I have looked to answer my own questions about orientation, the only answer I come up with is that it is the person I love & gender simply doesn't play a role in this.

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I have to second the book but not for the above reasons.

I think its a great example of how people can use the words of bondage, domination and submission and others to live in non-consensual relationships. I think there are good reasons when Ms. Johnson got out of those relationships and has continued in others. Having met and talked with her on a few occasions I know she would never want someone to have to go through what she did.

It can be a very scary book to read, it should scare you, but it is her truth and her history. I personally think reading it and talking to her made me much more appreciative of the ideas of consensuality and safety and having a community to turn to.

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ORIGINAL: sweetwhisper

gotta ask, at the risk of sounding like an ignoramous - what the hell isa bombay saphire? i hear bombay i think of a piece of furniture- this is a drink, i assume? and why the hot fudge??? enquiring minds want to know!

sweetwhispers