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RE: Straight Woman Blues - 2/25/2006 10:05:07 AM

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Seeking out bisexual women simply means the man in question has some affinity for bisexual/omnisexual women. NOT that he is gonna require sex with other women. -that- depends on the individual. It seems that it'd be better to talk to the individual in question, before assuming that wanting bisexuals means wanting a poly relationship.

i never thought poly was as simple as night with a 3some; to me, it's an honorable bond between more than two people. Arrangements and limits vary, i have been taught.

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RE: Straight Woman Blues - 2/25/2006 10:11:46 AM

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Arrangements and limits vary, i have been taught.

Each item sold seperately. Sale ends on Sunday. Good while supplies last.

(gawd i've have too much caffeine)

Sorry, couldn't resist, just having some fun...

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RE: Straight Woman Blues - 2/25/2006 10:23:07 PM

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Seeking out bisexual women simply means the man in question has some affinity for bisexual/omnisexual women. NOT that he is gonna require sex with other women. -that- depends on the individual. It seems that it'd be better to talk to the individual in question, before assuming that wanting bisexuals means wanting a poly relationship.

i never thought poly was as simple as night with a 3some; to me, it's an honorable bond between more than two people. Arrangements and limits vary, i have been taught.

candystripper

I'm not sure why this is in response to what I said. I agree with what you said, and wasn't stating otherwise in that post.

Simply pointing out reasons an individual might prefer bisexuals for monogamy.

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RE: Straight Woman Blues - 2/25/2006 11:48:34 PM

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By it's nature, a relationship with a Dom or Master who desired a bisexual woman would not be monogamous...thus, i could not find peace, never mind flourish, in such a setting. Then there's the expectation that i'd be sexual with a woman.

While that may generally be true, I don't think it is always. For my part, I am looking for a bi-sexual woman to be my slave. However, there isn't necessarily an expectation of sex with another woman. My profile indicates that my wife having sex with my slave would be unlikely (well, it says 'minimal', but I mean 'unlikely', so maybe I should fix that...), so bi-sexuality is not a requirement. However, I would very much like to have discussions about sexual orientation with a bi-sexual woman, because I think I would have a lot to learn from it. I also think that someone who is bi-sexual (male OR female) tends to be more open-minded about other things (although I could be very wrong about that).

In short, I am hetero, but desire a poly relationship. I want a bi, but don't expect her to engage in anything other than a mono relationship. To me, it is not contradictory that her relationship with me is mono while my relationship with her is poly.

Don't confuse desiring a bi-sexual with expecting bi-sexual behavior. They aren't always related. 'Tis better to ask and be right, than assume and be wrong.

*Edited to insert a comment after reading more than half of the posts.*

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RE: Straight Woman Blues - 2/26/2006 12:31:57 AM

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Do not be discourage in finding what you desire for you will find what you seek and desire. I am interest in Bi women because I get along better with them than Straight women. I have had the most fun playing with two women that I want that kind of fun. I also enjoy multiple relations with more than one woman in my life. I been married twice and monogamist both times but I want the multiple relationship for right now. In time that might change but for right now this is what I am looking for. Not something for a one night stand but something that will grow and last.

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RE: Straight Woman Blues - 2/26/2006 12:45:14 AM

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Candy:

I am straight and monogamous, both being hard limits. However, I have accepted that there are few men < vanilla or BDSM > who do not at least fantasize about two or more women. The topic of " would you ever " will always come up < my experience>, but the topic and the actual expectation are two entirely different things. I have found that feeding the fantasy within my own boundaries/limits has done two things: made him feel that I was open to validating his fantasy, and significantly enhanced my pleasure.

A few non compromising ways I have done this:

Gone to a strip club with him and bought a lap dance... for me. Played along and acted psuedo sexual with the stripper. ie: let her touch me, kiss my neck, rubbed chest to chest, etc. And I will tell you this was not erotic or a turn on for me, but watching him watch us and his obvious reaction was pure pleasure.

Gone online, on our separate computers...created two person, myself and my female lover,< me playing both roles> had him join in our private chat room and played out any scene he liked. It was a huge turn on for him to see me describe myself intimately with another woman and himself.

There are more, but those are just ideas for you to consider. I am not saying anything will satisfy one looking for a bisexual female, it won't. But for some one who is willing to accept your limits in these areas or shares those limits, it can satisy that part of him that will always have the fantasy. A little creativity and willingness to bend a tad can only enhance things.

Besides it can be fun being that little bit naughty, playing a part that is opposite your true self.

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RE: Straight Woman Blues - 2/26/2006 10:48:39 AM

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In short, I am hetero, but desire a poly relationship. I want a bi, but don't expect her to engage in anything other than a mono relationship. To me, it is not contradictory that her relationship with me is mono while my relationship with her is poly.

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RE: Straight Woman Blues - 2/26/2006 10:51:31 AM

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Besides it can be fun being that little bit naughty, playing a part that is opposite your true self.

mbmbn

Me? Play at being naughty? ROFLMAO. TY for the great ideas, mbmn.

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RE: Straight Woman Blues - 2/26/2006 1:19:50 PM

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oh my your not alone i find it so hard to just get a so called normal email and by that i mean soomeone not asking for a bi anything, many of tthe men are bi and think it is ok to think as a domme i want this ins a patner no i do not want a bi male. i do not want to lead him in his search for the perfect timefor me TO MAKE HIM go for some male. and many of the males see this as a punishment and or me standing in mythigh high boots ready to teach him how lol i have no need for it, there is nothing wrongwith being ibsexual but do not think everyone is in to it too and wants to do it nope not for me and do not even want to watch

wish all well

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RE: Straight Woman Blues - 2/26/2006 3:00:45 PM

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i find it hard to examine a phrase from all angles, predicting all reactions. "Staright Woman Blues" was innocous to me; just another country heard from. To many, it was a lament, a whine, about the people who choose other relationships. This shocked me, and i tried to explain, but that generally does not work. i really don't know what lies beneath all the anger that was expressed, at the idea or at me. Some people may have felt i lacked compassion and mutual respect, which saddens me. There did seem to be more going on though.

For what it's worth, I found your posting to be completely innocuous.

It seems to me that some people go out of their way to be offended.

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RE: Straight Woman Blues - 2/26/2006 4:16:18 PM

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i have to admit, i didn't read much of the thread but if the naming of the thread was supposedly offensive, i didn't see it that way. You're a straight woman (not offensive) who has the blues (also not offensive - in fact there is an entire branch of music dedicated to the blues). i actually found the title to be rather clever.

Maybe i'm missing something.

Or maybe people were offended by something in the thread that i didn't see....

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RE: Straight Woman Blues - 2/26/2006 4:52:35 PM

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What's to be offended about?

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RE: Straight Woman Blues - 2/28/2006 11:27:18 AM

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