sexisubi
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to be honest, i love chores if it means spending time together, getting held after, being praised, maybe even going out to dinner if i did a huge job or did something above my chores. i think its kind of the whole wanted to be an ivy league mom thing i have in my dreaming fantasies! (to be a wife with a degree that chooses to stay home with the kids.) However, if you find one that loves to do those things just dont overwelm them. there were many a times where i just wanted to break down in tears because i was doing double the work plus my homework it was like i had no time to reflect it was just work work work and it seemed like the apprication started to dwendal away... it almost broke my heart until i felt like i was doing the chores with an empty heart. So i sat down and W/we talked it over and things of course got better(i was lucky to have someone open to discuss it, and that i am verbal enough to discuss it.) So here is my advice, 1. always have open communication. 2. appricate it, expecially if you're not living together, think of new ways to do it, know that you dont have to apricate it all the time just most of the time (its ok to use the same idea twice) 3. One can tell when they are wearing, be subseptive and tell them to stop doing it and let them do something else instead, whatever it is. 4. Attention is fun and wanted, if they are cleaning your floor on there hands and knees maybe turn it into a sexual thing, or just spend time with them or help fold the cloths, anything to take a bit of the work out of work. they might say oh i can't hang out cause i was doing my laundry, i just got done cleaning your house, and i still havent done my assignment but i would love to see you tomorrow.'i know you saw it sometimes its easier to see then hear! or the conversation might go... 'hey how are you feeling?' 'fine... im just tired it's been a busy week.' my Master had a girl say, before he met me, when He asked her to come over 'I am not in the mood for cleaning though sir, is that ok?' All of these tell tale signs (some more blunt then others) means she needs a week to gather and relax... shes starting to hate it.
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