AAkasha
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus I'm really interested to see the answers that the men are giving. I saw Akasha's OP as a kind of meet and greet in person, like a match.com thing. It's often the case at bdsm events that single males pay more for entry than single females, so why that is such an issue, I am not sure. I have to admit that I am amazed that someone wouldn't cough up essentially the cost of a date to defray the cost of meeting a pool of women who had similar interests. As a (FORMER!) event organizer, I have learned the hard way that when it comes to paying anything, folks get all cranky. What am I getting for this? they demand to know. The safe play space, beverages, food, equipment, somehow seems to become less desirable when it isn't free... I am not sure why this is, but it's an attitude that has held back many a group. Would the men at this event be guaranteed play? I would like to think so, though I know that I wouldn't be happy to have to dish it out~ I have been the Utility Dom for long enough, honestly. Still, it seems reasonable that they would be able to get a scene out of the deal... I guess this lets us know that a bdsm matching service would have a hard row to hoe! I guess what has been most interesting about this thread is the number of men who say they won't spend money without getting anything in return, yet the quality of the men (don't let this go to your head, boys) in this discussion is clearly higher than the general sub population. In other words, the men that post here are generally more well rounded, intelligent about their submission and power exchange and have a good head on their shoulders because they mostly "get" the difference between BDSM porn and BDSM reality. If anything, I would think that most subs here would be much more likely to be in the top 10% and "make the cut," and I also would expect that level of confidence about it. Instead, it's "well, if I can't be guaranteed, I don't want to pay" -- what happened to, "Of course I know I'd make the cut." People pay application fees with many things, not a promise to get into whatever it is. Whenever I have had to pay a fee to do something, or enroll in something, my goal is always to be in the accepted part - otherwise, why bother? I don't go into it thinking, "Well if I am not going to get it for sure, I refuse to pay the money." What if they were to pay an application fee and be eliminated based on test scores, physical tests, romance tests, aptitude tests. Why not just go into it with a lot of study and prep? LOL.... Akasha
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