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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 2:41:17 PM

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I have been conservatively face-slapped on several occasions by a former Dom. I liked it as it was a part of the psychological play He was up to at the time and an assertion of His control and dominance. With my present Dom it is a hard limit for Him and it won't be done.

When I say i liked it...i was clear that it was a role-play part of scening. At the time He would do it, it was at a point when all it was going to take to get me to cry was something as pointed and intimate/personal and affronting as a slap to face.

Personally, with as seriously as I take myself and my emotions at times in my everyday life, i welcome being driven to tears in a scene, within limits that my Dom is well aware of. I let go of something as i cry, and i experience it as cathartic and cleansing. I have been fortunate that with my level of spiritual mastery, i can navigate the waters of psychological play and use it as a catharsis and a means to "own" things in and about myself that it would take a long time to get to in vanilla life.

But, I was never physically abused as a child as some posters have been. My dad was not one to administer corporal punishment except when it was an extraordinary offense as us kids got older. My mom did, but I was never demeaned by their punishment and it was always judicious. I was lucky. I don't recall ever being face-slapped as a child.

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 2:51:34 PM

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some believe that it can cause jaw problems and result in a concussion.

Um, we're talking about "slapping"; not boxing.

It is a good idea to hold the lower part of the face in the other hand while slapping and to slap so that the hand does not go over the ear. The holding will prevent the jaw from moving when hit from the other side and avoiding the ear will prevent compression injuries

I do this, rest the other palm against his other cheek and look at him deep in the eyes -- but then that fits with why we do face slapping.

Just stroking one cheek and looking directly at him is now enough of a signal that he swallows and removes his glasses and gets prepared emotionally and mentally.

Its so hot for me.....

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 3:21:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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some believe that it can cause jaw problems and result in a concussion.

Um, we're talking about "slapping"; not boxing.

You don't need a closed fist to cause jaw problems or a concussion. Both can be caused by slapping.

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 3:28:49 PM

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Much like what has been stated once already, I myself, had a very long conversation about anything done for humiliation purposes with the man who would become my Master.

This is not judgment, my question is for education and curiosity purposes only. Ive never considered face slapping as humiliation. I find it arousing and exciting with no negative connotations. Would most consider it humiliating?

PS. This question was in response to MT Slave's post. im sorry that your childhood was disturbing and somewhat degrading to say the least. My question is not to take lightly at all your feelings on the matter, but strictly education for me.

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 3:32:05 PM

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Would most consider it humiliating?

Alot of it depends on the situation. In my case, it was to let me know exactly where my place was. What I mean by this is; from the point of degradation and humilation...I am there for one reason and one reason only...his pleasure, in any way he saw fit. If that meant, coming in, knocking me around a bit, and then fucking me...so be it...degradation and humilation.

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 3:40:24 PM

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I guess I need to reply to this...

Everyone finds different things in different manners... thats just life. One may find something erotic while another finds the exact same thing a turn off... however.... the point I wanted to get across was indeed for educational purposes....

If there is any doubt or question, it is best to speak with the one(s) that would be inforcing any sort of face slap or anything of an agressive nature (please take that term with a grain of salt). You need to have communication about what is and what is not acceptable as far as slaps and hits about the head. Just as I said above... what one would consider a mere slap to the face another may consider vile and abusive. So everyone needs to be on the same "playing field"

Thats all... Please enjoy your day

MT's slave

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 3:42:03 PM

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For me, it's the contradiction. It is not humiliating. It sometimes happens during a soft, intimate moment...it is a nice shocking surprise.

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 3:45:54 PM

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...I am there for one reason and one reason only...his pleasure, in any way he saw fit. If that meant, coming in, knocking me around a bit, and then fucking me...so be it...

You know i love ya, Irish....and i've learned through recent post that you and i can lovingly debate..so why stop now...smile...

Remember this is for education purposes....

But can't one persons high be another person's humiliation? I guess I'm getting off topic because humiliation is hard for me to understand and i just cant see how face slapping relates ....It's great to understand how others think...

Master does tell me it's almost impossible to humiliate me, short of shaving my head...(That may do it).

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 3:48:25 PM

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what one would consider a mere slap to the face another may consider vile and abusive. So everyone needs to be on the same "playing field"

Thats all... Please enjoy your day

MT's slave

I agree with you totally! I'm just probing the minds of others out of curiosity...thank you.

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 3:52:55 PM

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slapping me across the face will only get me pist off. And if I don't jump up and knock the hell out of you, I will walk out the door. So I guess it's a hard limit of mine.

It has been told to me it comes from being beated around my head and face by a cement brick during a robbery. I also can't handle no one sneaking up behind me. It causes me to swing without warning. This is due to same reason.

This also makes it easy for me not to have to explain to anyone any marks that might be left on accident.

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 3:53:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: willing2serve
Would most consider it humiliating?

It definitely is a humiliating act for me.

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 3:55:43 PM

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But can't one persons high be another person's humiliation? I guess I'm getting off topic because humiliation is hard for me to understand and i just cant see how face slapping relates ....

Hmm, let me explain it from my own experience.

I was married, I was a wife, I am a mother...my husband loved me, I loved him...there is never any doubt about that...

But...he had an extremely dark side to him...a side that said...she is my slut, she is my whore, she is the one thing that I can take all my frustrations out on. He was a giver of pain...he was not content to just have me crying and begging for it to stop...he needed to have me at the point that I would do ANYTHING to have it stop. In addition to this, he needed me to understand that my place was there to serve him...in any way he saw fit. Snap his fingers, I would drop to my knees before him...I knew what he wanted...but, to be slapped away in disgust...that's humilating...then to be dragged back and told to do it better...that's degrading.....Anyway......that's how it relates to me lol.

Of course, it helps when the person being slapped around is getting off on it also :) Otherwise, I am not so sure it would not have broken me. /shrug

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 3:58:24 PM

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But can't one persons high be another person's humiliation? I guess I'm getting off topic because humiliation is hard for me to understand and i just cant see how face slapping relates

For people like me who get off on being humiliating, the humiliation IS the high.

And yes, what's humiliating to one person is just damn hot to another and just damn boring to yet another.

It's not the ACT that matters- it's how the person EXPERIENCES the act.

Wearing panties for me? Not a big deal. I enjoy showing off lingerie at parties and enjoy the warmth when wearing a skirt and feel like a diaper any other time.

Wearing panties for another? Possibly a huge humiliation.

There's lots of good threads specifically on humiliation and objectification which you should check out.

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 4:24:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: fastlane

I am much like KnightofMist, as I do it, but never to bruise, only as shock value.
Bring something unexpected into the scene. You have to slap just hard enough to have the sub think, WTF..was that?

greetings fastlane Sir..

i have to ask..as i've seen many others mention it as well..how does face slapping work for shock value? i'm assuming you know it's not something that is going to upset your submissive so how does it shock her? is it just the moment that it is chosen to be done?

for myself i've never found it to be a shocking experience for me. i definitely love face slapping and find that it sinks me deeper into the moment with my Master. he uses it not only in playful situations, but in serious situations and also to capture my attentions and bring me back to focusing on him. i've had a palm, a backhand, and even had him holding the other side of my head as he's done in. sometime he does it for me..knowing how much i love it..sometimes he does it for himself to remind me of his control over me.

i've never found it a humiliating aspect..i find it more a controlling aspect. it centers me back on my Master, draws my focus back to him through whatever activity is still going on. he's slapped me even outside of play if he thought i needed it..and i also get it as a prize for doing something that he's proud of. for myself..it's merely a tool to make me feel his ownership over me.

with an allowed voice..

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 4:40:17 PM

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Do you enjoy slapping your subs or bottoms in the face as a form of humiliation & pain? Subs & bottoms do you enjoy this activity or is it a hard limit for you?

Mmmm, I love with Sir slaps me in the face. There's something exquisitely intimate about it.

Lily

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 5:27:40 PM

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i have to ask..as i've seen many others mention it as well..how does face slapping work for shock value? i'm assuming you know it's not something that is going to upset your submissive so how does it shock her? is it just the moment that it is chosen to be done?

Your body still jumps when you've been all warmed and then a piece of ice gets shoved onto the skin.

You are still thrilled even after watching a roller coaster.

Usually when it's done for shock it's done with no preface, no warning and possibly in contrast to the feelings/experiences at the time.

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 5:43:31 PM

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Usually when it's done for shock it's done with no preface, no warning and possibly in contrast to the feelings/experiences at the time.

b i n g o

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 6:20:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

I do this, rest the other palm against his other cheek and look at him deep in the eyes -- but then that fits with why we do face slapping.

Just stroking one cheek and looking directly at him is now enough of a signal that he swallows and removes his glasses and gets prepared emotionally and mentally.

Its so hot for me.....

This also presents an exquisite moment wherein one does not know if she is about to be adored or despised, stroked or slapped, loved or reviled... (or both).

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 6:31:59 PM

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It's not the ACT that matters- it's how the person EXPERIENCES the act.

This plus coupled with Irish's real life day to day descriptive face slapping made my lightbulb come on...

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RE: Face slapping - 12/26/2005 6:46:03 PM

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I love face slapping but in the context of a scene..The shock value just drives me farther into all that is happening..As long as it isn't bruising me, of course..

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