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What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/4/2008 8:45:01 PM

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Title says it all. Also why is it you're favorite?

Any info for the noob is appreciated !

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/4/2008 9:06:45 PM

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We must have a different conception of "punishment." I don't enjoy punishing.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/4/2008 9:10:11 PM

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If I am punishing that means Fox has done something wrong. I dont enjoy doing that, andcertainly dont have a favorite method.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/4/2008 9:29:06 PM

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Yeah it's likely the OP means "funishment"

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/4/2008 9:29:10 PM

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Ok maybe I should rephrase...

What is the most common method of discipline you use on you're slave when she misbehaves?

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/4/2008 9:29:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CapnCut

Title says it all. Also why is it you're favorite?

Any info for the noob is appreciated !

I would have to agree with what has already been said....there is nothing fun about being punished.

Perhaps you should define what YOU mean by punishment first and then ask the question

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/4/2008 9:53:17 PM

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What is the most common method of discipline you use on you're slave when she misbehaves?

The most COMMON? Ignoring.

Other COMMON ones- standing in the corner, spanking, kneeling on rice...generally things which have nothing to do with actually promoting discipline or creating new and positive behavior patterns related to the actual behavior issue or with the source problem of disconnection of expectations. In fact they usually just push the problem into a ditch, cover it over, shame the sub into not bringing it up again, until a bigger fault line erupts later.

The common ones which WORK well in the long term- an explanation and discussion period to understand the source problem and exact misbehavior, a new system to reinforce the positive behavior pattern you would like to increase, a revision of communication and delegation methods to better suit everyone's current levels of cognitive processing and progress to the next.

So yeah, spank a bitch for not ironing all of your shirts exactly like you want them, that's easy and quick.

You actually want happily done laundry without fuss for the rest of your life? Takes a bit more understanding.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/4/2008 9:54:01 PM

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He talks to me and explains what he really meant and I talk to him and explain what I understood. We fix the communication.

If he tells you to change the oil in the car and you don't know how to do it, then no amount of beatings, essays on what a bad slave you are, etc will help. What will help is being taught how to do it.

Punishment means we've both failed. We much prefer to fix things so we succeed. I recommend this approach enormously.

However if you are being willfully disobedient, then you have bigger problems with your relationship than a cane or paddle will ever cure.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/4/2008 9:57:27 PM

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The common ones which WORK well in the long term- an explanation and discussion period to understand the source problem and exact misbehavior, a new system to reinforce the positive behavior pattern you would like to increase, a revision of communication and delegation methods to better suit everyone's current levels of cognitive processing and progress to the next.

So yeah, spank a bitch for not ironing all of your shirts exactly like you want them, that's easy and quick.

You actually want happily done laundry without fuss for the rest of your life? Takes a bit more understanding.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/4/2008 10:14:45 PM

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Fix what you spoiled. Apologize to who you offended. Live with my unhappiness for a while.

There may be more real-world consequences of this. If you make a fool of us in public, I won't take you out there again. If you have to do the cleaning over because it wasn't done properly, then we won't have time to play before bedtime. Those are the natural consequences of your actions.

But as I tell both of my guys, all you have to do to get your ass beaten is ask.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/4/2008 10:30:25 PM

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Everything is relative to the infraction.

And, as others have echoed, the concept of a "favorite" runs contrary to how I view punishment in the first place.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/4/2008 11:08:02 PM

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Usually lashings without the subspace and/or isolation. There was a pretty severe time a long while back that I made her belly crawl across the carpet for about an hour, then take a hot shower and a alchohol rub. Standing with arms outstretched holding heavy books in each hand until she collapses in tears.

My property does not misbehave very often anymore, as my punishments tend to be swift and severe.

Now play time is a different story.

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ORIGINAL: CapnCut

Ok maybe I should rephrase...

What is the most common method of discipline you use on you're slave when she misbehaves?

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/4/2008 11:43:13 PM

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No offense or anything, but why would I enjoy punishing? It means that something is wrong somewhere. A behavior that I haven't corrected or some kind of miscommunication in My expectations. Why would anybody want that kind of thing? Wouldn't you rather play be for it's own sake and not because something is wrong?

If I actually get to the point of punishing, I can promise you that it is not a good experience. It's not enjoyable for the boy, nor is it for Me. Ask Me instead about how much I enjoy sadist activities for fun. Then, we'll have something to talk about.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/4/2008 11:52:33 PM

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If I am having to punish enough to have a favorite form, there is something seriously wrong. As to play, well, that is a whole different story. I enjoy a wide & varied array of sadistic activities, especially, when I am being begged to perform them by a willing subject, who is clearly asking just because they know what pleases me. It really depends on my mood.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/5/2008 12:25:44 PM

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I really didn't mean it how I wrote it out in the title. I rephrased to better get what I was asking across. I am curious to learn the types of sadistic activities taken place from different parties. I agree I asked the question foolishly I realize. Thanks for all the replies regardless.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/5/2008 1:37:23 PM

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Well sadistic activities is easy- check any bdsm checklist or even the list of kinks on your profile here and you'll get tons of examples.

A punishment/discipline dynamic is something involving a Ds authority transfer form of relationship, not really related to sadism at all except possibly occasionally looking similar to an outside observer.

The people who use "punishment" as a synonym for "kinky play" tend to be labeled as casual players who don't really understand the orientation or workings of a Ds authority dynamic. Usually in a pejorative sense.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/5/2008 1:38:12 PM

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Giving him a research assignment that requires a three page essay reply. All typed, grammar and spelling checked of course. He hates it, he'd much rather be beaten but then, that would not be punishment for him.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/5/2008 2:58:36 PM

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I detest punishing my slave... to the point where the last time it happened, I almost decided all the advantages of owning a girl weren't worth it to me. My favorite kind is none at all. After that, it all goes down hill sharply.

Edited to answer follow on questions.

a) What is the most common method of discipline you use on you're slave when she misbehaves?
I tell her how she erred. That usually fixes things right up.

b) I am curious to learn the types of sadistic activities taken place from different parties.
Ahhh, the REAL question *laughs*. Too bad I can't answer this one. The closest we have is that sometimes I like to chain her wrists then make her serve coffee or whatnot. I like watching her overcome the adversity. Other than that, I seem to be more interested in control than sadism.

< Message edited by leadership527 -- 12/5/2008 3:01:58 PM >

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/5/2008 4:55:58 PM

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Haha that is an interesting one indeed! And exactly what I mean't. Not things I for instance would like to enjoy when I've done something wrong, not the kinky fun part of it all.

Even the catergories listed on the site each have a very broad insight depending on the person I've come to find out. Everyone here has different ideas on it all and I am just moseying on through and learning what I can.

Thanks again for replies.

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RE: What is your favorite punishment for your slave? - 12/5/2008 7:15:19 PM

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Fun for us is bondage and sex. He likes to get me to a place where I can't stop orgasming and I can't walk straight afterward. He's big on nipple torture but I can't take much.

And I can't tolerate clothespins at all.

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