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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 12/28/2008 12:42:42 PM

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I'm always a fake to those I refuse to go out with! I'm fat, as well!

Are you also ugly?

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 12/28/2008 12:55:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I'm always a fake to those I refuse to go out with! I'm fat, as well!

Are you also ugly?

Speaking from having met Lady Hib....I can vouch that she is one gorgeous and hawt looking Babe. And she ain't fat either!

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 12/28/2008 3:21:24 PM

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Wow, very thoughtful responses !! I really agree with the response re: having to be much like a Dom at work but at home being the sub...I know many women who live in this world including myself. It took me a long time to understand, relate and admit to this.

Just know too that perception is reality and it may not link up to what you know as reality!!

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 12/28/2008 3:24:08 PM

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Yes and a person's reality is formed out of their perceptions of the world around them which is both alike and different from every other human!

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 12/28/2008 3:26:53 PM

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Simply hide and block them and move on.

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 12/28/2008 3:34:01 PM

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Ever heard when you point fingers there's 3 pointing back? That person is actually saying more about themselves than anybody!

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 12/28/2008 7:06:09 PM

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I do not put up with any crap from Dominants unless they are my Dominant.Respect is earned and given only when deserved.I have been on this site for 3 years under one profile or another and have talked to a ton of Dominants..some are fake or role players..so the caution goes both ways.Some Dom's get over eager or desperate,some have been on here as long as I have and still have not found 'the one'. Some are on here just to harass women and get their rocks off by getting a sub to do things by proving she is not fake.I do not play the manipulation game but some subs are easily manipulated.
Do not do anything you are not comfortable with and if a Dom makes you feel uncomfortable stop communication with him at once.I have also seen Doms slamming subs in their profile and that is childish and very unmanly .
Once you have met a Dom you want to proceed with getting to know and you are comforable,go on web cam for him.Do not give out your phone number as this is always asked for too until you are comfortable.

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 12/28/2008 11:27:40 PM

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The point I'd like to make here though Barbie is, if you read the thread name, "Why you call a sub/slave a fake ?" I fail to understand your point in posting what you would or wouldn’t do with a new Master. The thread has nothing to do with you and Masters but rather why the call some sub/slaves fakes. May I suggest that if you feel so strongly about a sub/slave dealing with and choosing to or not to have a BDSM relationship/dynamic with him, you could consider opening a new thread in the appropriate forum?

Just a thought in an effort to lower the thread hijack efforts.

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 12/28/2008 11:54:41 PM

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She said why do some Dominants call some subs fake and from my experience on here and RL it is usually from the type of Dominant I mentioned.The over eager,desperate,fake that uses CM to intimidate and harass newbie subs who do not have the courage to stand up to these types because they think a good sub should respect any man that trows the title 'dom' in front of thier name.That is utter bull shit.
That has nothing to do with what I would do with a new Master but what I avoid when talking to and screening prospective Dominants.
Try reading it again .

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 12/29/2008 12:08:32 AM

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hmmmm...I was called a fake yesterday. I was contacted by a dom in the US who made some ridiculous suggestions about what I could do for him (clearly hadn't read my profile OR left mommy's basement in a while), and when I said 'ok - but you have to pay my airfare and I travel first class only' suddenly I'm a fake!

Sheesh, and here was me all willing and everything...

But seriously, I've only ever been called a fake by people who didn't read my profile and were therefore disappointed by my reaction to their demands for instant obedience/webcam play. Do I care? Nah....

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 12/30/2008 7:24:17 AM

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It occurs to me that those people, who call sub/slaves "Fake" without proof of their accusations, are probably the same type of people who label others liars because of their lack of life experience in many strange situations where truth is indeed stranger and less believable than fiction. This I have seen on many occasions and take some small pleasure when those people (who yell LIAR), end up with egg on their faces after being proven wrong. They also tend to loose credibility too..

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 1/2/2009 10:16:29 AM

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I have met some "fakes", even met one in real life several years ago. Even his picture was not him...a lesson learned there! A long drive to meet someone that could have ended much worse than it did, but still, I keep trying. My last Dom was from Colorado, a long way from Alabama...but He visited and I fell in love with Him. It turns out He really was Dom, but a really bad liar, so it ended. My point is that life is full of "fakes", I am honest about my looks and such because sometimes I talk with a Dom and I would like to someday meet him~~I don't want to disappoint Him or misrepresent myself. I am not super skinny or super fat...somewhere in the middle...so if I were to tell a potential Dom I have body like a model, how far would that go?? Just be who you are and send the ones that discourage you to the rubbage pile...oh..and block is a nice feature too! Best of luck.

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 1/2/2009 1:54:07 PM

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Because the advent of the WEB has diluted much of the Life, the scene, as the main stream is want to do so things become more “acceptable”.

Therefore there is now a huge area of vanilla Ds, Sm and Some prefer to not deal with that level, simple really. Just addressing the various “levels” that exist now which didn’t just a few years ago.

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 1/2/2009 2:37:15 PM

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mind you this one does post this with the most respect she can.
alot of Dominants this one has found personaly feels as if any submissive they come across should be the one to bow before them with their silver platter.
this girl's beliefs as well as her Owner's is-
if you are not collared or owned or under any consideration of such a Dominant, then by all rights you owe them not a thing.
they need to just grow up.
a true Dominant would understand and know this by living the lifestyle. just as They would not want their girl to fallow orders from another Dom that did not own them such as They.
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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 1/2/2009 2:38:41 PM

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although this one is required to show the required respect for the position

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 1/3/2009 11:53:48 PM

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Of course one cannot "say" why people call others "fake." However, I can hazard a few guesses.

When someone posts photos that come from an adult magazine one might assume them to be "fake."
When a person posts a picture that one has seen before or was taken by themselves then one might consider them to be "fake."
When all a person wants are "hot" letters one might consider them "fake" unless of course that is what their profile states.
When the profile sounds as if it was taken from a bdsm novel, one might suspect "fake."

These of course are just a few of the reasons that one might "think" that a person was a "fake.:

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 1/4/2009 7:51:48 AM

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There's a lot of good info on this post.

For the record, I've been called "fake" because I refuse to post my picture (been there, did that, lots of fallout, isn't worth it, won't do it, don't like it? Buh bye). I've been called a fake for not writing, in pornographic detail, what I'd like to "do" for a dom who's just contacted me. I've been called a fake for not agreeing to meet someone who just contacted me right away. I've been called a fake because I've had a failed relationship and don't "disclaim" that in my profile (y'know, 'cuz it's EVERYONE'S business what my prior relationships were like and, really, who HASN'T had a failed relationship?). I thank the ones that call me a "fake" because I know it's due to one of two things. They, themselves are laboring under the delusion that all "real and twue" subs should fall to their knees in the awesome presence of a "twue dom" (or, simpler: they're disillusioned) or, they're just here to get a nut off. Either way, *hide, block*...they've saved me a ton of wasted time by outing themselves through action.

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 1/4/2009 8:05:27 AM

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I have come across a few profiles that say no FAKES and yet .. have Chatted in Collar me that if i don't do something they want .. THey would call me fake " and yet when i ask a question .. about how do i know .. if a Dom is a fake people get offended.
Lauren0221 wrote back to me .. saying :" Just because someone is not right for us does not make them a fake. It makes them not right for us, and they could very well be someone else's ideal Dominant.
" ~ In which I do agree with her .. ~ "
Can someone tell me why most men Don't look at it that way .. and calls us fakes when they are mad or they don't get their way or even post it in their profiles ?
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No idea.

Seems a waste of time, but I guess some people have to fire off that shot, even if it serves no purpose.

Better to just move on.

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 1/4/2009 11:01:51 AM

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My fast answer to those being called fakes, would be to reply to that person telling that seeing they are so rude and ignorant they must be the fake. Then ignore and move on..

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RE: Why you call a sub/slave a fake ? - 1/4/2009 11:16:11 AM

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It's always funny to me, among all the preaching of acceptance, how quickly human nature takes us over and we begin attacking one another. Not only those who call others fake or posers, but the way those who have been attacked are just as petty. I'm just as guilty as the rest.

More than likely, if you are called fake, its because you were not matches or did not talk about expectations enough. So one or more of the parties perception of the other is one thing while reality is something else.

Are there immature people who will call you names just because they didn't get their way? Of course. You just have to realise the only one who can give their words meaning is you. If its not true shrug it off and move on.

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