RumpusParable
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This is another one where the only honest answer I can give is "it depends".
For me it depends on the relationship type itself and all the little details that defines one, the sub, the reason for the gift, what the gift is, how well and in what *way* it suits me, how expensive or inexpensive is it, how does it's expense fit with the thought involved, what does "expensive" mean in regards to this sub and all the other things mentioned so far, the sub's income, the reason for the amount of expense involved, and more.
Depending on all the variables that go into a relationship and into that particular gift, the expense of a gift *is* part of "the thought".
Generically speaking, sometimes the expense matters more, sometimes just getting something/anything matters more, most times it's a combination of the two and how fitting that specific mix is.
One of the sweetest gifts and memories I received from my spouse cost him nothing.
Another cost him very much, and the fact that he spent what he did is part of what made it as special as is.
In both cases, the mix of thought and cost were just right.
Answering this:
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is it important to you that your sub/slave be able to buy you expensive gifts/things you need/want or is it the thought behind it that counts when he/she gets you a gift.
Depends on what type of sub/slave they wish to be to me and what type I desire them to be. Some of my BDSM relationships (speaking on the personal side, not business) are those where gifting are important for one reason or another. In others it's not at all a focus.
Assuming I wanted someone for a relationship where gifts or such wouldn't bea focus then their ability to afford expensive things (or things at all, except themselves) wouldn't be a factor in choosing to be with them... it just wouldn't be a factor of compatibility to consider.
Oh! Also, another thought that plays into all this that is important: expensive for one person or one gift is inexpensive to another of either. A $5 gift can be a huge expression of caring and devotion for a sub who is just making ends meet at the time... it's expensive and out of their way *for them*, regardless of how small that amount may be in another person's life. There's more involved in cost and expense of a gift than the plain number on the tag.
< Message edited by RumpusParable -- 12/20/2008 2:20:03 PM >
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