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LuckyAlbatross -> Sacred Slut (1/3/2006 8:29:16 AM)
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So over my weekend in Dark Odyssey, I was able to attend a class on the discussion of “Sacred Whoredom.” Within this class they delineated “sacred slut” from “sacred whore.”
First let me clearly state that I don’t enjoy these terms and am not bringing them up to try and make being a slut some sort of elitist “special” thing for anyone. Enjoying fucking and sex and being a slut is awesome. You are not a better slut because you consider it a sacred act any more than you are a better Catholic because you become a bishop.
Secondly, for me “slut” is all about the attitude. When I first started asking how I would bring this topic up I started by thinking that it would obviously only apply to non-monogamous sluts. But when I reminded myself of my own definition of slut, I realized that wasn’t true at all.
For me, slut has nothing at all to with the ACT of sex, how MANY people you have sex with, what TYPE of sex you have with it, what CRITERIA you use with your partners. Being a slut for me is a personal attitude towards sex and sexuality. It is an attitude that hungers for sexual interactions, is unashamed of those hungers and actively seeks to satiate those hungers.
A woman who only has one partner she only ever kisses her whole life can be just as much a slut as I am.
This also helped me in that I realize so many people (women especially) find it hard to be “a slut.” They can embrace being “someone’s slut” or being a loved slut, but find it difficult to be bald-facedly an open slut. So by keeping things to a personal attitude level, it doesn’t matter HOW the person acts as a slut…simply that they embrace their slut attitude.
Enough of the caveats and pre-explanations.
Cultures in history have always held beliefs in a diety. Whether it was multiple deities with different aspects amongst them, or singular deities with everything encapsulated within them. Whatever system you use, the basis is that the Gods give life, energy, and everything therein. The breath you take, the love you feel, the pain you have…it is all sprung from the energy of the “divine spirit.”
By being a sacred slut, you embody and share that divine spirit in a sexual way. You use your energy through sexual channels and embrace the other person(s) with it. You allow yourself to be a conduit, to give and receive, of this energy. Sex as a sacred slut adds a dimension of it with a divine flow.
I can already feel the “OK you’re just trying to make being a slut cooler and niftier.” But I sincerely don’t think so. Divine sex doesn’t have to be soft, with rituals, or silks. It can be hard, rough, anonymous. Again, it’s not the ACT which embodies things, simply the attitude and the awareness. You are using your body as a sexual vessel to carry divine energy to the world. You do it on a fairly egalitarian way, even if you are a submissive. Energy simply flows and returns.
For ME at least, I realize this is why I so often have felt empty after a hot slut session. For awhile now, I’ve been enjoying hot sex, enjoying giving that of myself, and yet afterwards feeling like I’d lost something, like I wasn’t as fulfilled as I should have been. I began thinking I needed to find partners who were more into ME and would be more than just a fuck.
But I still wanted just a fuck. I still wanted that energy I received from it, and had in the past received from other people.
I realized the problem was that I was giving myself in that way and it was not being returned. The other person was not opening themselves and being a conduit and allowing the circuit to be completed. The sex was good, the act was good. But the fulfillment of the sacred energy was blocked. For me I think this means that I can have anonymous sex again more fulfilled, knowing not to EXPECT that sort of energy, and it means I can have sacred sex more often knowing I can find partners who can also become aware of what’s going on and complete the circuit.
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