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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

Thanks, everyone, for your comments.  Most of the thoughts you've raised went through my mind at one point or another.  The clincher for me was when he said that it would cause so much trouble if one or more of these women found out that we had plans to meet, he wouldn't be able to go through with the meeting.  But I do like to get others' opinions, just in case there's an angle I missed.  My money is on the "I'm lining up a bunch of dommes to meet and if you don't work out, I don't want to annoy the other ones" scenario.  Some of these women I know from corresponding privately with them, the others I know only from the boards, so it's hard to tell how some of them might react if they thought their supposedly faithful pet was sniffing around.

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

If you d-type women (and anyone else who wants to chime in) were in correspondence with a male sub, and you knew that the sub was in correspondence with other women, and the aforementioned sub told you that you couldn't let on to these other women (you know who they are) that the two of you had talked about meeting, that you "have to be discreet," what would your reaction be?

I told him that, to a woman, the words "we need to be discreet" are code for "I'm married and the old cow will take me to the cleaners if she finds out" or "I'm trying to line up a bunch of women to shag and I don't want you ruining my chances with the rest of them."  He insists I've got it wrong and that we need to be discreet for my "protection," because some of these women he's in contact with are trouble-makers.

Is my saying "thanks, but no thanks" a sign of prudent caution, or am I being a suspicious old bat?  Do I give the lad a second chance?  Or thank my lucky stars I didn't waste more time on him? 

I'm going to be quite busy for the next few days, so I might only be checking in occasionally, but I'd like to thank everyone in advance for his or her thoughts.  I'm hoping for a few good answers before the thread goes to hell in a leaky bucket. 

Edited for clarity

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

It's quite obvious that the man must be married, V.  Either that, or, as you say, he wants to line up a string of women to lay.  No doubt this is what he's been doing all along, in fact.  Without one shred of a doubt, a "player". 

IMO, you need to find someone as emotionally-balanced as you yourself are.  I very strongly recommend that you don't give the lad another chance. 

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ORIGINAL: Lockit
I think we are talking about being discreet right here... on the boards... Not mentioning a meeting to other's here.  That sounds like someone is trying to play a number of the dominant's here. 

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Venatrix
You know what curiosity did to the poor cat

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

If you d-type women (and anyone else who wants to chime in) were in correspondence with a male sub, and you knew that the sub was in correspondence with other women, and the aforementioned sub told you that you couldn't let on to these other women (you know who they are) that the two of you had talked about meeting, that you "have to be discreet," what would your reaction be?...