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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 5:44:40 PM   
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I enjoy it every now and then when I'm in the mood...


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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 6:11:18 PM   
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I was working, too.  Have to make a living sometimes.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 6:37:48 PM   
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Well let's have some  stories, LP!  I want to hear how Mister is all deprived! 

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 7:01:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Sub4Goddess07

I am a sub, and I seem to be seeing more and more Dommes who enjoy the entire cuckolding process.  As a sub, I do my best to do everything a Domme would desire, but the thought of cuckolding honestly I find discusting.  I have never been asked or told to do it but I have given some thought to adding it to my hard limit list.  How would such a limit be viewed by Dommes?  Thank you.


It is not a big deal to have a limit for cuckolding; there are quite a few women who consider sex a private matter and would have no interest in indulging someone in their cuckolding fetish anyway.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 7:02:14 PM   
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It's a hot fantasy for me, but in practice it's a hard limit. Too much incendiary potential--I'd play with dynamite first.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 7:03:42 PM   
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One quick correction.  Hubby's not a cuck. 

Though, I thought you might be interested in something I wrote a while back.  It got some rather good reviews at the time.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Well let's have some  stories, LP!  I want to hear how Mister is all deprived! 

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I think you're confusing the players a bit, pinksugarsub.  Let's recap.

The Dominant woman is the central feature in this scenerio.

The cuckhold is usually her primary partner.

The bull, is generally another male the Dominant woman has sex with, in many cases to humiliate the cuck.

There are a lot of ways to play this little game.  As I said, many times, humiliation is used or emotional distress to the cuck.  A lot of verbal play can go into this.  Sometimes, the cuck can be forced to help the Domme dress for her "date" (the Bull), all the while thinking of what the Bull will be doing with her, as he helps her slip into her lingerie.  She will often talk about how the Bull drives her wild sexually, how she knows the Bull will make her orgasm over and over, how she's getting wet just thinking about it, etc., etc.  For fun, she may throw in how the Bull is so much better at pleasing her than the cuck.  (Mind you know.  This is still the getting ready for the date phase.  The cuck has to endure all of this.)

Not all cucks participate at the "dates" themselves.  Sometimes, they are left home to think about what the Domme is doing with the Bull, given chores, or some type of activity that has him focus on the sexual activity that he is not permitted to partake in.  Usually, it takes a while to build a cuck relationship enough to bring him along.  (Have to be careful with this, like many other types of humiliation.)

When the Domme comes home from the "date", the cuck is made to listen about the things the Bull did to her while she was away.  He listens to all of the details and might get some physical evidence.  He might have to do her laundry, take care of those nasty 'stains', or whatever else works for the people involved.

(Why do I suddenly feel like I'm writing porn?)

Anyway, other people's milage may vary.





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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 7:06:50 PM   
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Cuckolding can be fun but is not a necessity for me.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 7:12:32 PM   
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*shrug*  I'm still learning 'proper terms' over here.  I'll take Cuckold Mistress over Cheating Slutty Bitch  any day.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 8:12:24 PM   
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[Duplicate post--sorry.]



< Message edited by Reigna -- 1/8/2009 8:15:29 PM >

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 8:14:18 PM   
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quote:

It is not a big deal to have a limit for cuckolding; there are quite a few women who consider sex a private matter and would have no interest in indulging someone in their cuckolding fetish anyway.


True, that. Although it's really hot to ... erm ... think about, I know myself well enough to stay well clear of anything that smacks of polyandry; over the years I've ruled out  several subs because they wanted to be cuckolded. If cuckolding turns out to be a limit for you, OP, not to worry. There are plenty of us who will happily accept this limit.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 9:25:26 PM   
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You shouldn't call it disgusting just because you're not into it.
I'm not into it either, but no longer think it as foreign a subject as I used to years ago. M

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/9/2009 1:06:35 PM   
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My husband/slave and I practice cuckolding.
He came with this kink. And it was one of the reasons I left the vanilla lifestyle. I couldn't remain faithful to one man.  For us it just works. I explain it as I can sleep with whoever strikes my fancy and his only question would be "Can I watch?" or if I'm traveling "please take pictures."

What is most comfortable for us is my playing another sub, and if sex works into it....great and if it doesn't not an issue. But my husband is always there. We are slowly evolving more towards poly but that's more of because I'm not a one night stand kind of girl and I actually like to know my partners before sleeping with them.

While I don't practice personal humiliation...ie I won't tell a sub he's scum and not fit to lick my boots. I will do sexual humiliation. Small dick talk, replacing the dick with someone else. To me there is a huge difference.


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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/9/2009 5:11:50 PM   
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It doesn't appeal to me in any way, shape or form. 

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/9/2009 5:48:13 PM   
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Cuckoldry is a bit emotionally complex.  I don't find it "disgusting" or "depraved" per se, certainly no more so than any other kind of BDSM.  It's just a very specific form of emotional pain and sexual humiliation, really, and if you accept that ANY man can be submissive or masochistic in some way, then cuckoldry is not all that difficult to understand.

The question is whether you could find it arousing or fun with the right partners. *shrug*  I have never been involved with someone who had the fantasy or the emotional need.  The only obstacle for me would be the difficulty of enjoying casual partners; I really don't like having sex with people that I don't have a caring relationship with, so I might not make a good cuckoldress. 




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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/9/2009 6:02:41 PM   
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Okay, I just had myself a little mental excursion with two men that I know...  and it still turns into a regular thing for poly me.  It's the humilation that I can't get my head around.  For various reasons, I have an empty space in my mind when it comes to that. 

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/9/2009 11:19:36 PM   
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I don't play humiliation games with it. That said, right now I have a husband, a sub, a friend and his wife who I like to go to bed with on occasion in various combinations, and another friend who I also enjoy going to bed with every now and again. Now, if one of my friends happens to get a thrill off the notion of having sex with me with my sub in the corner watching tied to a chair, and my sub gets a thrill off it, and I get the fun of having sex with someone I like and making two people's fantasies happen.....I don't see the downside.

But I try to run win-win-win relationships anyway, and get the processing out of the way up front.


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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/10/2009 4:23:31 AM   
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Read Ms. Mlicious' (or my) blog to read all about her cuckolding adventures. earthacatslair.blogspot.com               slave2catwoman.blogspot.com

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/10/2009 8:12:58 AM   
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I have been the bull for a number of couples.  Technically, this practice is not cuckolding because the male KNOWS his wife is seeing other men and in the vast majority of cases, he is encouraging it.  The feedback I have gotten from the couples is that it makes their sex life much hotter for a few weeks after one of these sessions.  The women certainly enjoy the chance to have sex with another man in a safe environment, but I long wondered what the husbands got out of it.  Finally I decided that for the husbands, who are often emotionally insecure and not confident in their performance, that seeing their wives having sex with a skilled lover is highly therapeutic and love affirming because at the end of the night it is bull that goes home alone and hubby is the one who gets to curl up and go to sleep with the woman.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/10/2009 8:21:26 AM   
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I knew a dom who liked roleplay as a cuckold and said he was working out his pain of his ex cheating on him... twenty years ago.  I think there was a bit more to it... knowing him.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/10/2009 4:10:03 PM   
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Great post LadyPack! To me cuckolding would be the ultament in surender for the cuck in showing his Domme his devotion to Her. In BDSM it seems to me that such a scenario should not include allowing the cuck to be entertaindment by watching the hole afair. If the Domme has no other tasks  for Her cuck,.. he should be off performing other sevices for Her during that time. Or at list be sent to kneel in the corner with a hood or the like over his head, as he waits to be of further use to Her.
It would be a hard limit for me to be a cuckold but,... i do like the being devoted aspict Lou.

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