RE: What makes you stay here?

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ORIGINAL: Voodali

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I mean, if you are a single domme who seeks a relationship on this site and has been here for a long time, what stops you from being interested in all the male subs who contact you, which would be 100s or 1000s?

The reason I'm single is that I refuse to settle. I've decided to demand everything I want, not only an excellent slave, but a friend and confidant to whom I am attracted, who is attracted to me and who is compatible with me in the ways that matter. I don't know why fate, or god, or chance or my own shortcoming has made it that I have not found anyone near my geographical location who fits that profile, but that's just how it is. I've "met" several boys who live prohibitively far away who are absolutely charming, but I'm not in a position to travel, and I have yet to have one of them travel to me. I refuse to give up hope though.
As far as you boys doing anything wrong...well...some of you do things wrong, things that offend us, or have incompatible kinks, or see us not as people but as a means of fulfilling your kink, but the majority of you simply don't make us feel the necessary spark (through no fault of your own) or live too far away to do anything about it if we did feel a spark.
Thanks for asking though, it kind of makes me feel better.

First of all , I thought aussiesub07 had a really interesting question. It goes for many of Us out here.
I can relate very well to Voodali's answer really.

I've dated allot of subs, through here, or other Dutch sites,
and No one really did it for Me. I want to feel attracted to My sub.
I've had subs in the past, with whom I build up a relationship,
and I discovered that casual play isn't My cuppa T.
I found this out when I had My Italian sub, for over
3,5 years. Between Uus there was pure passion & Love,
which I want again, in My relationship.

And to be so intimate as with Bdsm I don't want that with just anyone,
Nor do I get anything, out of a casual play, since it cost Me allot of energy & time to do that, and the sub goes home happily,
and that's it. To Me that's so empty.

So I've been meeting more and more subs,
and spoke to thousands of them online, and through phone,
by now, and I've met pearls yes, and even there were
feelings back and forth, but then they lived in far
away places, and they had small children,
as I do, although My son is 14, I'm not
going to leave My country for anyone,
because he is and stays My number one.

So to be compatible isn't that simple.
It all has to fit, both has to look the same way,
and want the same things in D/s and in life.

Well aussieboy, that's a true needle in a haystack,
take that from Me. We Dominants aren't in a better position either, because the weed is thick, and as you could have read from other Domina's that there are so many guys out there just thinking with their clit, and hope by empty promisses and all that,
to get our attention, which is a tiring job
on it's own really.

I still believe and MissMorigan said that so very well:

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ORIGINAL: MissMorrigan

Because while people resign themselves to never finding their 'mate', they retain a semblance of optimism - even when they have tried to convince themselves otherwise.

See aussieboy?
I do hope this gives you a better insight to the why's..
How long have you been here looking?

I wish you enough.

GoddezzT`