BKSir
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Joined: 4/8/2008 From: Salt Lake City, UT Status: offline
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The truth may hurt, but, it doesn't hurt nearly as bad or scar near as deep as uncertainty. I've been on both sides of this coin. I can say for certain that, at least for me, fessing up didn't alleviate the guilt at all. It's something I live with, something that eats at me every day. I know that I deeply hurt someone I loved very much by what I did, but, I wasn't going to compound it with another lie as well. That was many years ago now, and I still think about it. I probably always will. He wanted to make things work, to try and fix things, but I had to say no, because at that point in my life, I wasn't sure if I could honestly say I wouldn't do it again, and I refused to hurt him like that again. I've also been cheated on, and although it pissed me off and hurt me, I am glad I was told about it honestly. Otherwise I'd have been stewing in suspicion and worry as it chewed me up bit by bit. I guess that's just me though. I can deal with a LOT of things, I can forgive a lot of trespasses, but I can not and will not ever abide lying. Everyone fucks up sometimes, it's bound to happen. Don't make matters worse by screwing up and then lying about it too.
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