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Scotch drinker Hib

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you're an addict by choice.

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Buy me gifts. Spoil me. You don't deserve me!

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

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ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

I wonder how much success they're actually having. It's hard for me to believe that they're having much at all.

Actually, if you read Akasha's post carefully, you might see some evidence to the contrary. She is not a financial domme, but she has been able to observe over a long period of time that a dominant woman is more likely to receive gifts from admirers if she states her desire for a gift forcefully, and even rudely. More men seem to get something "special" out of fulfilling a rude and selfish demand, than they do from fulfilling a politely phrased request.

To clarify, my sample size is small, but after being exposed to this kind of fetish a long time and seeing what those "successful" princess-spoiled bitches sites look like, I think my observation is true.  My site is different because it's all text, no photos and videos, and so my audience is smaller and not visually driven anyway.  In addition, my "voice" on my site is generally NOT condescending and I give a lot of very "real world" normalish POV on it.

But with even that said, in 13+ years of having it, I can say that on at least a couple of occasions, I have had the desire to have something sent to me, whether it's chocolate when I am having a craving or a shoe I can't locate in stock where I live -whatever.  If I post in "normal" voice, :"would love to receive x, please send it my way!" I generally MAY get a response from a guy who is sweet, kind of knows me as we've been "friends" online a long time, have exchanged emails, whatever.  It's the same 1 - 2 guys, 3 at the max, who tend to offer anything to help me out because they have been reading my site for several years.

If I take the same request and word it, "HUMILIATING TASK FOR USELESS TINY-DICKED LOSERS" for example, I will get about 50x the traffic to the request, and if I word the request in a very demanding, rude, bitchy, arrogant way and couple it with a task (ie, wear panties when you do it, etc,) I get 15 - 25 men offering to do it in the first 5 hours the request is up and at least 3 seem to indicate they will go through with it.  These are men I do not know, they just happened to read it when I posted it, and it's luck of the draw I guess.   I have never left such a request up for long enough than I need to get the task done (I have no desire to see 40 guys repeat a task so I get 40 pairs of the same shoes), so I can't guess how many would keep doing it - once I get someone to agree and I know they indeed will do it, I remove the request.

Since "getting gifts," isn't my thing, I don't have much more data beyond that.  I also know that around Valentines Day or my birthday I put a nice pointer to my wish list, I get the same handle of submissive "friends" who acknowledge me, with maybe 1 or 2 "new names."  If I put up a demanding, PRINCESS type post with a very haughty attitude and combine the birthday with a humiliating task, I get a much higher response.  The conclusion? If the request is presented as a demand and also gets them hard, it increases the liklihood that it is completed. 

The point is that some men ENJOY doing these tasks if they are written in that tone.  My tone on my web site is not demanding like that. I suppose I could change my 'voice' on my site for a few months and see if more people send me gifts but I really can't be bothered with that kind of thing.  I think it would leave my regular readers scratching their head. I feel much more comfortable asking for *transactional* exchanges if I want a gift certificate or something; ie, a half hour of phone training for a gift certificate.   The receiving of gifts, when "exploited" in some manner, to me makes me feel somewhat obligated to continue the exchange or fantasy. 



Akasha

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ORIGINAL: Sundowner

I'm not sure if anyone else has spotted this but I've realised that people are different! Which means you come across some very surprising kinks.

An escort friend of mine once had an extraordinary (but delightful) client. He mailed her that he was flying into London and would like to take her shopping for an afternoon (they'd never met, he'd simply chosen her website).

She was sceptical but agreed to the date and sure enough, he turned up, took her shopping in the West End for 3 hours, thanked her, paid her the normal fee too and went on his way. He spent around £1,500 on her during the trip. No sex, no scening, just shops. Never seen him again.

<sighs and wishes he was a sexy young domme>

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ORIGINAL: MistressRouge

I have a very dear friend who is a lifestyle Domme, and she actuallye explained indepth about her financial control over one of her slave's. It is alot more then milking and taking someone else's finances. Actually my friend had full control over her subs expenditure, thus getting him out of his debt, over a span of 2 years. She controlled all his finances, pay check, bills, and gave him a weekly allowance every week.

Now her slave is totally debt free, so that to me is REAL FINANCIAL control, an advantage to the slave/sub, not a take take situation.

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ORIGINAL: cloudboy


As an accounting professional, you can't help but have higher ethics.