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Personally, i think it sheds a bad light on bdsm and i'm sorry but can't help but wonder if new comers or outsiders wonder how far of a stretch it is to go from daddy/babygirl to child molestation. 

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ORIGINAL: sparkyRBF

Actually.. i think it's a GREAT idea to have the "daddy" thing have it's very own forum.   i wish they had their very own website outside of this one.  Anywhere i wouldn't have to see what i have a very hard time not calling sicko crap.   Yes, i know it's consensual and its 18+  but it's a mindset that grosses me out about as much as scat.   

Personally, i think it sheds a bad light on bdsm and i'm sorry but can't help but wonder if new comers or outsiders wonder how far of a stretch it is to go from daddy/babygirl to child molestation.  

Maybe i'm being close minded and ignorant about it but i have my reasons for not letting my mind be open to this particular idea. 

So i vote YES!! give them their own space.  I'd be happy to distance what Master and i enjoy from that particular mindset.

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ORIGINAL: sparkyRBF

I've been fighting posting all morning but my mind won't stay off this.   I usually try to stay with the approach of: "if you can't be helpful then just shut the hell up"  but this one is just knawing at me so i'm probably getting ready to be sacrificed here. 

Actually.. i think it's a GREAT idea to have the "daddy" thing have it's very own forum.   i wish they had their very own website outside of this one.  Anywhere i wouldn't have to see what i have a very hard time not calling sicko crap.   Yes, i know it's consensual and its 18+  but it's a mindset that grosses me out about as much as scat.   

Personally, i think it sheds a bad light on bdsm and i'm sorry but can't help but wonder if new comers or outsiders wonder how far of a stretch it is to go from daddy/babygirl to child molestation.  

Maybe i'm being close minded and ignorant about it but i have my reasons for not letting my mind be open to this particular idea. 

So i vote YES!! give them their own space.  I'd be happy to distance what Master and i enjoy from that particular mindset.

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ORIGINAL: respectyourowner

A Daddy Dom is the most tender of all Dominants. He loves His adult (18+) little one with an undying passion. He always has his submissive's best interest in mind, even when it conflicts with his personal desires. That doesn't mean that he gives into her every whim. There can be a huge difference in her desires and her real needs. He has to be able to make that sacrifice for her if needed. And yes, at times he does punish her. This usually hurts him just as much if not more than her, but he will always do what's best for her.
He helps her set and reach her goals in life, not just in the lifestyle. He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be, not for HIM but for her ! He's not just looking to make her a better submissive, but a better person in general.

He becomes many things in her life, a mentor, a teacher, a protector, a guide, AND a lover! He offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. He is consistent in his actions so that she knows what to expect from him, she knows she can depend on him!

He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing all along that he can't ! So it is up to him to prepare her for whatever life may bring her way, and be there to comfort her when things go wrong. Knowing she will run to him when she becomes overwhelmed or frighten by the harshness of life. The Daddy Dom listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to him, to her they are real and he will help her confront them. He slays her dragons so to speak and he is her "Knight in Shining Armor".

The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams, desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves him enough to open herself up so totally to him. He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little one, and he loves her unconditionally.

There is nothing more satisfying to him than to see her succeed, to watch as she grows as a person. He revels in her daily accomplishments almost as much as she does herself.

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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

What I would actually find more helpful was if there were check boxes in a Dom's profile showing whether he considered himself a Daddy, or sadistic, or both.  Then as I look for an appropriate Dom it would be much easier.  : )

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ORIGINAL: sparkyRBF

I've been fighting posting all morning but my mind won't stay off this.   I usually try to stay with the approach of: "if you can't be helpful then just shut the hell up"  but this one is just knawing at me so i'm probably getting ready to be sacrificed here. 

Actually.. i think it's a GREAT idea to have the "daddy" thing have it's very own forum.   i wish they had their very own website outside of this one.  Anywhere i wouldn't have to see what i have a very hard time not calling sicko crap.   Yes, i know it's consensual and its 18+  but it's a mindset that grosses me out about as much as scat.   

Personally, i think it sheds a bad light on bdsm and i'm sorry but can't help but wonder if new comers or outsiders wonder how far of a stretch it is to go from daddy/babygirl to child molestation.  

Maybe i'm being close minded and ignorant about it but i have my reasons for not letting my mind be open to this particular idea. 

So i vote YES!! give them their own space.  I'd be happy to distance what Master and i enjoy from that particular mindset.

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

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Which is cool, just surprised me when I first started posting and reading and found Mistresses answering questions on the Ask a Master, Masters answering on the Mistress forum.....

Don't forget us mouthy s types, we post all over the place [:D]

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ORIGINAL: respectyourowner

I am far from an elitist. This lifestyle is unique and different but more common then you might expect. I have not and will not criticize other lifestyles or call them elitist.

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ORIGINAL: sparkyRBF

Personally, i think it sheds a bad light on bdsm and i'm sorry but can't help but wonder if new comers or outsiders wonder how far of a stretch it is to go from daddy/babygirl to child molestation.

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ORIGINAL: LadyMerrisa

The difference is...you don't address to your Master per "Daddy"...>:) And it seems, like this is enough to apply for a new, separate forum [:D]

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ORIGINAL: MG4Apuppygirl

So, let's back to the OP. Just exactly how does a daddy dom manage to differentiate so significantly from a puppygirl trainer? I mean you both still need your arses wiped when you shit. You need to be bathed, fed, nurtured and disciplined. You need to be trained, have all your choices made for you, you need to led, controlled and remove yourself from the responsibility of reality.

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ORIGINAL: respectyourowner

A Daddy Dom is the most tender of all Dominants. He loves His adult (18+) little one with an undying passion. He always has his submissive's best interest in mind, even when it conflicts with his personal desires. That doesn't mean that he gives into her every whim. There can be a huge difference in her desires and her real needs. He has to be able to make that sacrifice for her if needed. And yes, at times he does punish her. This usually hurts him just as much if not more than her, but he will always do what's best for her.
He helps her set and reach her goals in life, not just in the lifestyle. He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be, not for HIM but for her ! He's not just looking to make her a better submissive, but a better person in general.

He becomes many things in her life, a mentor, a teacher, a protector, a guide, AND a lover! He offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. He is consistent in his actions so that she knows what to expect from him, she knows she can depend on him!

He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing all along that he can't ! So it is up to him to prepare her for whatever life may bring her way, and be there to comfort her when things go wrong. Knowing she will run to him when she becomes overwhelmed or frighten by the harshness of life. The Daddy Dom listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to him, to her they are real and he will help her confront them. He slays her dragons so to speak and he is her "Knight in Shining Armor".

The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams, desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves him enough to open herself up so totally to him. He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little one, and he loves her unconditionally.

There is nothing more satisfying to him than to see her succeed, to watch as she grows as a person. He revels in her daily accomplishments almost as much as she does herself.

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ORIGINAL: sparkyRBF

Personally, i think it sheds a bad light on bdsm and i'm sorry but can't help but wonder if new comers or outsiders wonder how far of a stretch it is to go from daddy/babygirl to child molestation.  
Do you wonder how newcomers or outsiders wonder how far of a stretch it is to go from flogging a sub to ripping her back open, the fact that some people don't have a clue why we like what do like does not make what we do bad. It just means they have no clue what it is we really do. Kinda like you have no clue what age play is about or else you would not bring up child molestation.


Maybe i'm being close minded and ignorant about it but i have my reasons for not letting my mind be open to this particular idea. 
Yes you are, but at least you are honest about it. My suggestion would be to learn about what it is before you start judging others on it. Until then you could do yourself a favor and stay away from any threads that have this as a subject. You are obviously too immature to handle the conversation and I wouldn't want you to get upset when others discuss it.

So i vote YES!! give them their own space.  I'd be happy to distance what Master and i enjoy from that particular mindset.
Or you could read the thread title and see the word daddy and just not go there. I am sure those who are participating in the threads won't miss posts like these. Then everyone is happy. See how wonderful personal responsibility can be.