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lovingpet -> RE: New Forum required: Daddy Doms (3/16/2009 11:39:53 AM)
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LOL ThundersCry! So true and so yummy!!!
That is just the issue ShakiSama. It is rare that a Adult/little thread does not get ugly, similarly to how this one did. There are a lot of dynamic specific questions and issues that often require experience and insight to assist and such hostility gets in the way. One example of this is the interaction with little space. This is something that is often different than subspace, though both can be going on at the same time. There is a lot to discuss on this aspect alone that really needs the help of others to detangle. It also very quickly degenerate into talk of "immature, lazy, blah, blah, blah submissives" and "faker dom with a latent desire for child molestation or some such" which is none to helpful to the problem at hand. This is only one example of dynamic specific discussions that could be better addressed in such a forum. I will qualify this with the idea that some other D's and s's may deal with similar things and little space is obviously not exclusive to A/l play, but it is something they will be dealing with in higher frequency and with varying experiences and results.
Yes, it does not prevent people from posting things that are not poignant to the conversation and even bias, ignorant, and judgemental, but it can be reduced enough to allow more productive communication. I have never or rarely posted on some forums because they: didn't apply to me, I wasn't interested in the usual subject matters, I was reading to learn rather than to voice an opinion, or I had a tendancy to have an unfounded negative opinion. Being able to just forgo a whole catagory rather than running to a thread that may not be so obvious about its content might help reduce certain tensions and open needed communication. I think the number of active and interested users would be surprising. Like I said before, I don't think it's really going to fully solve anything, but a suggestion never hurt anyone and I would support such a suggestion if it were made formally and even be willing to help in the administrative aspects if asked. I just don't feel folks need to be attacked when seeking help and advice because of their particular kink (different from just being a little socially deficited LOL). If admin were more willing to stop such behavior on the other forums, then I doubt this conversation would have even come up. I like how we can freely exchange ideas, but sometimes things said are not conducive to the help and learning people are seeking.
If it takes a separate forum to allow people with certain kinks to be able to get the help and advice they are so wise for seeking without fear of such reprisal, then I am all for it. If we can manage to make the current forums a place where this can happen for them, then all the better. If we, as a community, make certain that ANYONE wise enough to seek the counsel of others has a safe and productive place to turn, then that reflects well on ALL of us. I don't care how it is acheived.
lovingpet
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