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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 5:52:32 PM

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Not only do I know of the Dead, I'm even willing to bastardize My anti fruit policy to eat the Cherry Garcia.

I have memories of rabbit ears, but I much prefer cable. I don't watch much tv, but it's so much better for the net.

My firm belief is that anyone who doesn't know who the Beatles are has been living under a rock all of their life. Anybody who can't spend seven minutes listening to "Hey Jude" probably doesn't know what they're missing. (And if it were up to Me, Hinkley would never get out, but Yoko would probably spend some time in.)

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 5:59:22 PM

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Yeah, well, I have this secret hate of skinny Asian chicks. (Especially ones who can't sing.)

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 5:59:46 PM

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I'm looking for someone with common interests and who I can take to social functions, so to echo a lot of Dommes here, I'm looking for mature. All of my pups have been under 40, and the youngest 24; younger men simply tend to be less sexist and agist, and have less baggage. You see a lot more 35-year old men with 50-year old women than 55-year old men with 70-year old women; boomers can't handle what they perceive as social censure for dating a much older woman; Generation 'X' and 'Y' don't care. I'm amused by the men in their 60's who pursue me with 'age is just a number', so I congratulate them at dating 80 year-old women.

To the OP: remember a lot of guys in your age group approach lifestyle Dommes for a sexual experience they can control, especially via their fetishes. They have nothing written in their profile, a username with '69' in it, [dude!] and send a one-line msg like 'let's hook up': I and other lifestyle Dommes wouldn't touch them with a 10-foot cockleash. So, you're off to a good start with a well-crafted profile; make sure your first msg to a Domme is brief but equally well-crafted, specifies how you meet her requirements and not how she meets yours, and is a bit sensual but not explicit.

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 6:00:15 PM

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LP, forget the Beatles. It's much worse than that. Seriously: I met a twenty-year-old recently who didn't even know what a record player was.

I was 27 (a few weeks ago....maybe it was a smidge longer), dating a cute little 18 year old (with extremely large tata's...and full lips that made me wonder where I was at any given moment)...and we were driving around, nice sunny day, Paul comes on the radio.....nice little "Wings" tune....I said "honey, do you know who that is?"....she said "of course I do....that's Paul McCartney"....I then stretched a little and said "you know which band he was in don't you?".....she said "well of course silly....everyone knows he was in Wings"....I said...."any other band?"....she said "he was in another band?".

Naturally I broke up with her a week later.

I had no choice of course...it was either that....or kill her.

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 6:07:38 PM

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Old joke from a movie. "Forget Paris" to be exact.

The character Billy Crystal plays is dating this young woman. While he is talking with his friend in the kitchen, they discuss the relationship.....

"I asked her where she was when Kennedy was shot. She asked if Ted Kennedy was shot."

The character that Bruno Kirby plays just shakes his head and says, "no."

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 6:13:23 PM

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Been there. Done that. Still have the scars to prove it. I opened that can of worms once, but it won't happen again. Sometimes, it is just life's experiences that cause age to be important. I have grown young ones. I don't need that in my relationships, especially, the bdsm ones.

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 6:44:34 PM

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I'd like to call out some of these people but it's probably not a great idea. I enjoyed spending a great deal of time today with people in that supposedly "no-no" age range (according to some here) bootblacking at the local gay rodeo. It was a much needed break from school work.

Now before someone goes..."hey you said school work that PROVES you're TOO young!" MsK (that lovely Ma'am I serve happily) is also in school (almost 40 now too). It's never too late to expand upon one's education AND...

from what I can tell it's also never too late to educate some closed minded old bats either.

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PS LadyPact it's not hard to hate skinny Asian chicks who make your ears hurt...oddly enough that was part of the talk today as well around the boot care booth.

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 6:55:17 PM

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Why must anyone call those that don't want a way younger spouse who wants to give us five years of service while young... closed minded old bats??? Some of us have had younger men/women. Why must anyone think they need to change our closed minds or be offended because of what we want, closed minded or not?

Please read my post on the second page.

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 6:55:28 PM

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subsubtle,

I'm 57. I generally confine my search to gentlemen older than 25, simply because my life experience has taught me that that's the approximate age of adulthood in the male of the species. I also do not hold that as a hard and fast rule! (My second husband was 12 years younger; and that had nothing to do with why I got divorced after a decade.)

I'm also not looking for my "one and only"—which makes it all the more likely that a young man will not be interested in this older, creakier domina. I like living alone, and I need my time out. 24/7? Not in this lifetime.

Beyond that? I live in a state with a population less than that of New York City, and am not only kinky but a witch and poly. Surprise…I have trouble finding fits. I wish you well in your search.

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 7:06:46 PM

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My dear, boijen, thank you for the laugh. My regards to MsK.

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 7:12:45 PM

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Good question, Lockit! Why ARE those of us who are secure in our needs and preferences so narrowminded, prejudiced, etc. ? (I fully embrace "old bat", though I won't speak for you in that regard!)

Remember the little flame festival in the other thread? There ya go. Those who are in successful relationships with the young, or the young in those relationships, take our preferences personally. Well guess what? Not only do I not date those under the age of 35, I have given up my old guys, too! After a lifetime of dating older men, now 55 is my upper level cutoff!

How about my other PREFERENCES?? I am a sadist. A person who doesn't like pain is going to have a hard time keeping me happy. Does that mean that I hate and revile those that are not masochists? Foot fetishists? Great for other folks. I could make this list fairly long. Why does this age issue hit such a hot button with you? You won't be young forever, yanno!

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 7:13:26 PM

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Yes i do have a cutoff age. It is 36. Why? Because i am 53, and have lived in more different ways than most. I have had money and been poor, with women and men and poly. I cannot have children. Nor do i want to start raising them now. Not theirs nor them. I have gotten through most of my emotional baggage, and can work around the rest. I want someone who has lived through at least a quarter of my life as an adult, so that we have some common *history* to discuss. By the time someone is 36, they have decided pretty much what kind of student of life they are/will be - will they be involved totally or just superficially.
I have only read some of the responses, but Peon makes a good point. I have also been different people in my life, very different. But since about 36, mostly the same, although i like a quote i read by anonymous: "As we get older, we become neither better nor worse, simply more like ourselves." But one must decide who and what that self is, first. I want someone who has explored a variety of selves, so they are sure of who they want to be, and won't be changing that after we have settled into what i believe to be *the* relationship, and i am in love with him and it.
Another responder (sorry can't remember your name, but i can see you in that cat suit ;;-)).) said that too young can mean anything, and for me it sometimes does mean something else. I would rather not tell someone their mind does not match mine, or that i don't find them physically attractive. I feel it hurts less to say they are too young. Perhaps in light of this OP it does not, but i won't tell someone their English or lack of ability in it is why they are unsuited to me. I see no need to be unnecessarily cruel. Now necessarily cruel is something else entirely

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 7:19:20 PM

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Well, being that I have my age listed as 98, I guess I have to consider younger men.

My age preference is between 40 and 60.

I will consider someone in their 30's and over 60 if they really impress me.
Women tend to mature quicker than men, and many men in their 30's are not on
my wave length.
Soon and very soon 39 will be my cutoff.

Having a relationship with a man , in his 20's is just a hard limit for me.

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 7:20:29 PM

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Yeah, well, I have this secret hate of skinny Asian chicks. (Especially ones who can't sing.)

Hey!

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 7:22:52 PM

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As I grow tired, slow down, ache, wrinkle and sag and allow what gray I may; will you find me sexy? Will you look at me with the same eye’s as you did when five years before there wasn’t so much of all that to look at and touch? Will you find me dignified and sexy like those handsome male super stars or will you be thinking of those healthy older stars with three thousand a month to continue to look young until they are stretched so tight you could bounce marbles off of their faces?

When the lil one’s of the family come to visit will you mind being called grandpa because you are with grandma? Will you introduce me to your family and will we find acceptance when you let them know you are plugging the old broad? What would you do when my same aged lil one’s wonder why you are with their mom and answer the questions of all our loved one’s and friends? Will you understand what the medical professionals describe as age robs me of my youth and will you bring me my walker… prepare all the meals that Meal’s on Wheels brings or make it for us? Will you look into my eyes when that adjustment bed has you all twisted like I need it and want to hold my hand?

What are you willing to give up and do when your lady is much older than you? Will you stand there with the same I love you’s or will you walk away fast, when youth has passed and learn the reasons some no longer seek five years of long term and want the rest of their lives; literally?

When I cannot meet you on the straight up mountain you wish to climb and I only wish to watch you… when I can no longer dance the night away to some metal band and am more ready for night’s of leisure… when life and time have taken their toll… will you still think I’m the sexy hot older mama and want some of that or will you think it is time to move on to someone who can play more, do more and has more life to offer you?

Sure I might be somewhat hot and enticing now… but how long will that last?

These are just a few of the reason’s I want and need an older man… do I need to go on?

If i had read this before i posted my first response, i could have let it go with ditto. TY Lockit x0

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 7:22:54 PM

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On the flip side, I don't suppose it's every sub's dream to be dumped for a younger model when he hits twenty-x years of age, either . . .

Funny...That is exactly what I keep threatening ever since he hit 25. My attention radically wanes for new boys the closer they get to 27 (so re the OP- yes, while I am not quite yet 35+ I personally am very interested in younger men). Lucky for my boy he still looks barely legal LOL

ok problem solved then....you can take all the young 'un's and if you can hold on to them to about 30 I'll take them off your hands.....lol

win win....lol

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 7:23:54 PM

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What?

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 7:25:18 PM

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LOL! Think of it this way Red, less competition for you!

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 7:26:06 PM

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Drk? I will give you all the men that approach me in their 30's also.

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RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. - 4/5/2009 7:26:28 PM

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I didn't know Red was in competition with thin, Asian females.

Shows what I know. <shrug>

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