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Maya2001 -> RE: Low Income Dominants. (12/9/2007 12:34:34 PM)
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ORIGINAL: fetishnoob
i feel that there is in fact a minimum level not just for doms but for any man who would be in a serious relationship, and that leve is simply that you have a habitable place to live and are secure in the knowledge that the utilities won't be shut off or that you'll be on the street any time soon, if one can't meet this small requirment then how can one in good conscience take responsibility for another?
I had met one that was in the state were here was going to loose his home the house was in a inhabitable state and utilities were about to be shut off, him and his dog were starving and in arrears with his mortgage. He had lost his managerial position in charge of skilled trades a position that paid over , $80,000 a year 6 months prior an income almost double mine, his home was small nothing overly expensive maybe $20,000 less than my own, he had 2 old vehicles both paid off long before, he had no savings set aside despite having very little bills , would have recieved a severance pay that should have tie him over for a while and a job position that even if he chose to drop done to worker instead of management would have still earned him more I was making and there is a big demand for skilled trades workers so remaining unemployed was unfathomable, he did not even bother trying to take little side jobs under the table considering the skills he had. when I meant him seen his house and the way he was living I was in shock, there was absolutely no excuse for him to be at that level of poverty in such a short time, as well no excuse not to be doing something to improve his situation as he had no physical ailments that would prevent him from working. I walked out and away as there was no way I was going to put myself in his control if he could not look after control of his life.
So yes I can say I have my limits, I would consider someone making less than me but my experiences were with others I have dated is most have a problem with women that earn more than them which can be a PITA dealing with the jealousy, which has put me more in a mindset that I would prefer they make the same or more than me just so as not to have to keep going thru the same BS but more important than how big their paycheck is ,,,,, is whether they can manage their money they do have.
At the other end of the spectrum I tend to get a bit squeamish if I know they have a huge income, I realized if I find someone with a huge income it will cause a stumbling block as I do not want to quit my job, I don't enjoy it but it is my financial security if things do not work out, as well I have put 17 years into my job toward my pension with 13 more to go to earn the full pension which one I get those 30 years in guarantees me a decent income for as long as I live including benefits, an overly rich Dom may have some troubles trying to understand and may not want me continuing to work as a factory labourer so I shy away if I know they are making huge incomes and want to be globe travelling as I realize it may simply cause too many conflicts. I know many may see it as a dream come true but for me I view as a possible threat to my own financial independence and I don't have the faith/ fairytale notion that it will last a lifetime, I have learned the hard way that often shits happens, and I need to be responsible for myself and not expect others to do it for me..
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