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RE: Switches.... we've got it perfectly right - 8/19/2010 4:54:21 PM

Bloodreignn

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I'm not sure about the label I do have a very Dom personality and have loved being a sub at times. I look at myself at time and think I don't have a bone in my body thats sub. But I was introduced into S&M by being Dominated even though I didn't realize that was happening (very young at the time). It was unforunatly a very bad relationship forunatly I did get out of after 3 years. He did take the part of my soul that was unbroken as it never will be I did become more dominate after a pattern of picking the wrong guys and dealing with abuse in different forms. I find now as many years have passed I know who I am, what I want and how a healthy relantionship works. For my experinces make up who I am today. A very select few have earned my trust to become dominate over me and have the skills needed to truly pleasure me in a way that is a release from everything, for me that is what being a sub does. The control part of being a dom. in everyway flows through me I love it it gives me pleasure in many different ways. I feel a have a complex taste in sex in general, this is the icing on the cake. Many people I've encountered are not into this I'm just glad I am and have been introduced to this site and Fetlife by my DarK OnE enjoy life in what ever way u see fit. Bloodreignn/ Misstress Tabitha

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RE: Switches.... we've got it perfectly right - 8/30/2010 12:06:49 PM

Thattoychick

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I love switching, but after leaping feet-first into the scene again after a seven-year hiatus with a 98% vanilla ex, I'm finding it hard to find a center! I've been talking to Doms as equals, teasing them and giving them advice as a peer, and frankly admitting my desire to be tied up and flogged in the same conversation. On one hand, it's exhilarating to be calling the proverbial shots and standing on my own two feet, but on the other I feel like I'm being a sub-par sub (har!). I used to want to be totally dominated (I started in kink at 16 being taught sort-of gorean by a master five years my senior), but at this point in my life I'm proud of how far I've come and am not so quick to relinquish that.

I love layering things like a candy truffle, making a sensual tableau - the idea of topping a girl I'm being physically tied to while we both get flogged by someone else is a delicious prospect, newly proposed and hopefully about to be thoroughly enjoyed by yours truly shortly. I say fling open the doors of the erotic - dreams you never realized might come strolling in, swinging their hips.

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RE: Switches.... we've got it perfectly right - 9/4/2010 8:08:59 PM

ROPENHIGHHEELS

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RE: Switches.... we've got it perfectly right - 9/4/2010 8:12:52 PM

bondagenheelsman

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You're absolutely right. Being a switch is awesome! If you're able to enjoy both sides to this lifestyle then more power to us! I think that those that don't respect/understand/like us switches are just jealous of us because they can't appreciate both roles. Either that or they're just not as open minded as we are. Bottom line..."To each, their own." As long as you and your partner are cool with it and enjoy it with it other, those opinions are the only ones that matter. Those that don't agree with this will have to learn to deal with it because it's not something that'll ever go away. I hope one day to find my perfect switch. That'll take some time but all types of relationships take time to end up being perfect in each others eyes.

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ORIGINAL: ErosandPsycheNZ

It's only taken me a year to work this out... I guess some take much longer.

I wondered if all those purist Doms, Dommes, subs, slaves etc had it right... you had to pick one sexual orientation and stick with it.... I was told that apparently... switches are confused.

Wrong. I'm not confused. I think Doms, Dommes, subs and slaves are all welcome to their own reality and they are quite welcome to be happy with it.

Oh... but to be switch :-).... what a glorious life I have found. My partner is switch.... I am switch..... our sex life is sublime/divine..... in fact it's perfect. No apologies.... I've found Nirvana.

My message is this.... if you think you are switch... explore that possibility... and if you are happy with it, then embrace it and enjoy :-)

Eros and Psyche xx