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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 2:32:10 AM

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God-damned weirdest one was a guy wanting to cannibalise himself.

Now that one I've never heard, but it sure is funny!

LOL! I'd reply actually. Asking for an address, so that I might send a hibachi and a fork. That would be one way to keep him from pestering anyone, with minimal effort on my part. ;)

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 7:14:35 AM

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One thing I haven't noticed on here is the "You're beautiful" complimentary statements dommes get.

I consider that under the 'how they demand to be done' and 'what I'm to wear' categories, where I will be precisely packaged to conform to their vanilla porn/leather pro-'domme' fantasy, then turn into a sub with a six-pack and pizza.

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 7:52:29 AM

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Futuresocks, 40 lashes with a wet noodle. I DID mention getting tired of being called beautiful because I never knew if it was sincere or just some horndog wanting to get lucky. Hope you read profiles better than posts - LOL.

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 10:55:55 AM

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One thing I haven't noticed on here is the "You're beautiful" complimentary statements dommes get. I've heard those are annoying.

I don't find it annoying because it is at least a positive statement, and may even be subjectively true to the one speaking. It isn't exactly a ticket to ride, however, so if it's being said insincerely to try and manipulate me, it's a waste of time.

I tell people of both sexes that they are beautiful, cute, sexy etc. quite a lot. This is a statement of my personal opinion, not an attempt to manipulate them into serving or servicing me. There are many dommes on these forums who are beautiful women; there are also a few beautiful men. I can see how they might find it annoying if the only time someone brought up the subject was when they wanted something.

"Hi, you're beautiful! Want to do my taxes?"

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 11:06:51 AM

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"Hi, you're beautiful! Want to do my taxes?"

Okay, no one ever asks me that, so I am sure they are sincere in their compliments!

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 12:48:01 PM

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I can see how they might find it annoying if the only time someone brought up the subject was when they wanted something.

Which is rather the default assumption when you don't have a pic, or only have a body pic on your profile. I only recently put up pics that show my face, but I was getting "You are SO beautiful!" even when I didn't have any pics up at all

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 12:57:09 PM

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I can see how they might find it annoying if the only time someone brought up the subject was when they wanted something.

Which is rather the default assumption when you don't have a pic, or only have a body pic on your profile. I only recently put up pics that show my face, but I was getting "You are SO beautiful!" even when I didn't have any pics up at all

Well, you do have a beautiful pair of, erm, curls there . . . yes, curls, that's the word I wanted.

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 1:04:33 PM

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LOL Why thank you, Ventatrix

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 1:27:28 PM

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Mostly it boils down to subs too damned lazy (stupid, illiterate, selfish) to read profiles.
Mine says poly, mine says no slaves, mine specifies assorted hates/dislikes…
and I get morons looking to be caged in my basement,
fools looking for their one-and-only Mistress Right,
and self-centered no-nothings who are all about heels and nylons.

Why have a profile at all?

Compliments are nice but I don't care how many guys like my long hair from the other side of the continent or the planet.
Which is why I finally took down every single photo. Not getting any mail these days. Result? I may just quit the damn site.
A picture may be worth a thousand words, but I'm not interested in illiterates.

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 7:08:35 PM

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The five traits that drive me crazy:

1. Not accepting no for any reason. When I say no, I mean no. To use the old saying, "What part of NO don't you understand???

2. Having the " I am a worm, and want to be treated like crap by you" mode. Sorry, not interested. When I get these in my mail, I send a "Thank you, but no thank you" response back to the sub/slave.

3. One liner messages. I wonder if this is something that afflicts you, or do you just don't have the time to sit down and write a decent introduction?? If you are looking for a Domme/Mistress, take the time to show what kind of person you are.

4. Possessing a "do me" attitude. If you need to act like this, then I suggest that you might want to procure the services of a Pro Domme. (Pros are great, I am just not one of them. ) It is my decision if I want to interact with you.

5. Asking for phone numbers after 2 emails. Sorry, I don't give out my phone number to anyone who asks....I will do that when I feel it is the right time.

Some may feel this is a bit nit-picky, but this is what I feel. As they say..."to each their own."

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 8:01:34 PM

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Futuresocks, 40 lashes with a wet noodle. I DID mention getting tired of being called beautiful because I never knew if it was sincere or just some horndog wanting to get lucky. Hope you read profiles better than posts - LOL.

My humblest apologies, maam.

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 8:15:58 PM

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While I am not a lady in demand out here , but I have friends who are Mistresses and they have given me the chance to read the actual introductions that guys have sent.

Okay ,, why do you think strangers want to chat with you if they don't even know you ?" Guys, don't offer chat request unless the ladies ask to talk to you"
"Laundry list are for your shorts and undies " -Don't list what you want when you weren't asked first .
"One liners are for responses , not introductions " Guys there are more of us than them, we need to try harder
Understand , not everyone lives on this site 24/7 like you do - I have seen some people get nasty emails because they her on line but no response to their email.. The lady you contacted may be speaking to more than one person or they enjoy playing Astroids here.

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 9:17:19 PM

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I may be repeating some pet peeves that others have but here goes:
**People using honorifics (To me, they're a very personal thing and a form of address that is earned, not presumed)
**Do-me sub requests
**Whining or pissy replies when I point out that the person has made a do-me sub request
**Supposed Doms who demand submission or tout their super-fabulousness without even having a rapport
**Anyone sending anything requesting or otherwise acting as if they know something about me and what I want when they've not even read my profile
**People who think that a single word or sentence is a great way to solidify a relationship
(Okay, so that is more than 5)
Oh, I will say that after checking out another 'vanilla' site recently, the manners of folks on CM are STELLAR compared with the general internet population on social sites. Gaaaaaaaaack!!!
Davan

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 9:31:12 PM

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Refer to the post: The same 10 questions always asked

I think you've just added number 11.

<edited to correct Thread name>

LOL...right, right...

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 10:29:58 PM

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Hi, ladies (& gentleman),

I gotta say, I'm lovin' these threads about basic CM-style 'netiquette . . .. Thank you all very much!

Personally, I'm gonna 'steal' everything that seems appropriate from these posts (& those 10 question threads & maybe some others), file off the serial numbers & otherwise dude the prose up in my usual style & start sending that cut-&-paste form-letter to every spammer, scammer, & . . . .. damn, er, I can't think of a good rhyme to complete that triplet, lol . . . . . (I've already started doin' somethin' similar on my profile. Perve away, I like it

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Other than understanding & / or agreeing with jus' about everything y'all are pointing out in these various threads, I do have one small contribution to everyone's brainpan.

I think of this whole 'dating' thing like I was 'marketing me', partly cuz I'm such a pervert that I like marketing & tend to kinda think in those terms anyways . ... .

&, in marketing, a 'decent' 'hit rate' is something on the order of one-in-a-thousand . . . . . . That is, out of a thousand eyeballs that look at any given 'marketing message', only maybe one is gonna react. Then there's also this whole thing that those 'eyeballs' typically have to look at that product's marketing message something on the order of two or three dozen times to actually take action . . . . . . & that paradigm's just for selling 'soap powder' -- what I'm marketing here is a lifetime prize of Me! & I'm a one-in-a-million custom entity, with a potential market-base of ~6,700 persons who could be my . . . . . .

Like I said, I have that floating in my cranium, sometimes as a happy cloud, sometimes a sad one, but it helps me to practice my patience & pragmatism . . . . . .

Okay, now I gotta go post some version of the above to those two 10 question threads; maybe I'll spot something to make those different enough to not bore anyone out there in the audio radiance . .. . . .

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 11:46:18 PM

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I'm almost ready to post my own list on domme emails/replies that might be worthy of a list...(I suppose I should go check the sub forum)...but I'd like to ask - these lists focus on the males that reply to you. How about when a female sub contacts you? What annoys you consistently with women?

I know I don't fit anything on the lists above, especially since as a writer, I write lengthy emails. I don't think I could send a one-liner ever. And since I'm not sure what my do-me list would be, it's unlikely I'm every going to just ask for that. Hum.

I'll go head over to the subs and see if there is a list there...but to the Dommes...why can't you - I mean seriously - just meet in person for a coffee before any sex talk/your laundry list of what you demand? Maybe I do need to start a list...

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/3/2009 11:52:26 PM

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Oh, LAgirlsub, when it's a pink or a red in my mailbox, it usually means there's a higher-than-average probability of it being pleasant . .. .. For me it is overwhelmingly guys that seem to be socially- & / or linguistically-impaired in approaching . . . . . . (& mind, I like the socially- & linguistically-impaired; especially nerds & geeks, but that's a whole other thread . . . .

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I think hearing from everyone's a good thing, & if you think of a topic that's un- or under-covered by previous threads, get on it, I'm sure there'll be good reading in there . . . . . . lol

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/4/2009 12:01:20 AM

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but to the Dommes...why can't you - I mean seriously - just meet in person for a coffee before any sex talk/your laundry list of what you demand? Maybe I do need to start a list...

Don't lump all of us female dominants together - many of us, I suspect, prefer to keep the sexual and such discussions in reserve while getting to know someone. Unless I'm specifically looking for a sex or play partner, I'm much more interested in getting to know the person and their vanilla interests/passions/drives/beliefs initially, and then exploring the sex/kink compatibility at a later point, and preferably in person. (If I'm looking for a sex or play partner, and the person I'm getting to know is seeking the same, then yes, there's lots of talk about sexual compatibility early on.)

I am prone to plenty of flirtation before a face-to-face meeting, of course

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/4/2009 12:07:10 AM

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I'm almost ready to post my own list on domme emails/replies that might be worthy of a list...(I suppose I should go check the sub forum)...but I'd like to ask - these lists focus on the males that reply to you. How about when a female sub contacts you? What annoys you consistently with women?

I know I don't fit anything on the lists above, especially since as a writer, I write lengthy emails. I don't think I could send a one-liner ever. And since I'm not sure what my do-me list would be, it's unlikely I'm every going to just ask for that. Hum.

I'll go head over to the subs and see if there is a list there...but to the Dommes...why can't you - I mean seriously - just meet in person for a coffee before any sex talk/your laundry list of what you demand? Maybe I do need to start a list...

Are you sure those are Dommes and not guys pretending to be one? I've never gotten overtly sexual emails from Dommes, unless they were trying to rope me into their scams or were obvious dudes.

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RE: 5 Most Annoying Traits - 5/4/2009 12:44:41 AM

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You know, that's a good question because I don't know. I think a few were males, but I hope for example there is one 'woman' on here and I would hope she is a she...but I guess I wouldn't really know if any were who they say they are since they won't meet me in person.

So 'real' domme women - we'll say in general - won't talk sexually right away?

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