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ORIGINAL: hibiscusamira

I am going to the munch on my own.  I met with the person who puts it together and decided it'd be fun.  Thanks again for all of Y/your comments.

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

ehhh focus my "read" of your post is...ME TARZAN UBER DOM... you helpless sub jane .. you can't do anything for yourself without uber dom to guide you.  not my style.

More like Me "Daboss man" <yes she sometime actually call me that cracks me up to no end>... you competent jane....i have trained you well enuff to think, make decision for yourself  <kid analogy> so go ahead make a decision, make mistakes you will <as we all do>  And you can count on me to be there thru it all.

If you rasie/train someone to "have to count" on somebody else you are doing them a huge diservice. To be afraid to be to try something new without someone holding your hand is nutz.

Im not saying my way is better or worse than your way of rasing /training someone.  Im saying that is my way, and I dont agree with yours.

It's not cool of me to be possessive and controlling of *MY possessions*?  *gasp*
 
SailingBum, your reading of my posts says waaaay more about you than it does me.... <snort>
 
focus.

but of course Im the Idiot and subject to your rather childish attempt to belittle me.

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 As you can't add anything constructive to this discussion.

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That tactic may work in some fantasy uber dom world ...it doesn't work in mine.

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

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ORIGINAL: Focus50
And let's be clear, when I tell my girl (my possession) something is her choice, I'm not entirely off the hook if hindsight says she chose poorly or was unlucky.

Stop pissing Me off by saying things I can only agree with!

On the nail there focus. If I am giving My girl a choise, in effect I am approving all the choises that can be made regarding that issue. I Own her, her choises are either made by Me or accountable to Me... The only way I can be 'off the hook' is if she disabeys Me and then there is a bigger issue to deal with!

When My girl was asking about maybe going to a munch I couldn't go to.... a ladys munch.... I said fine so long as We arranged for her to go with one of a couple of people I know that attend, people who would keep an eye on her and also help her break the ice as well as be company themselves.

The first local munch after she moved in with Me.... if I had not been able to attend, she would have waited till the next month. That is MY home turf, whilst I have no qualms about her safety she gets nervious attending new things alone. she would have felt very odd going there for the first time without Me, people would have been more concerned in finding out where I was than about meeting her. Going with Me, I was breaking the ice for her Myself, introducing her around and yes proudly showing off My girl!

Plus, whilst I would have had no concerns about her well being whilst there.... like hell would I have her walk home alone around pub chucking out time. The area where the munch is is pretty quiet but the area where We live can be a little 'lively' if you know what I mean! she doesn't get to go to the corner shop alone after 10:30 let alone walk back from the munch.

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

I am not making universal statements Focus. I'm pointing out that, by my experience, your unviseral statements that it's a terrible idea are false.

If YOU do not want YOUR property to go without you that's fine. What I was questioning is your attitude that NO ONE should want differently. And clearly, I'm not the only one who doesn't think along the same lines since I'm not the only saying "Go if you feel comfortable".

Quite frankly, feminism doesn't have anything to do with this. It has to do with different styles of doing things and respecting dominants who do things differently.