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RE: Meeting people from CM - 5/14/2009 6:59:38 AM

Venatrix

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Yes, I see that. The main thing that one would need to know about the 'potential', I suppose, is that he or she can live in one's real-life world, assuming that the aim is a partnership with that particular person.

Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner! The problem is, of course, that a majority of people on sites like this can't live in one's real world. They're so full of obsessive fantasies that it makes them completely unsuitable for a permanent, committed relationship. Which takes us back to the original tenor of this thread: the people who are willing to meet you tend not to fall into this category. As you mentioned in another thread, you still meet kinky whackjobs in person, but they often seem to be a higher quality whackjob.

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RE: Meeting people from CM - 5/14/2009 8:13:59 AM

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Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner! The problem is, of course, that a majority of people on sites like this can't live in one's real world. They're so full of obsessive fantasies that it makes them completely unsuitable for a permanent, committed relationship. Which takes us back to the original tenor of this thread: the people who are willing to meet you tend not to fall into this category. As you mentioned in another thread, you still meet kinky whackjobs in person, but they often seem to be a higher quality whackjob.

I found that on both sides of the coin, dominants and subs often have such obsessive fantasies and are not prepared to move an inch, then each party blames the other party.

Dominants moaning that they don't find a slave to fulfill all of their (often pretty unreasonable) desires, submissives that are unhappy that most dominants aren't happy to be "fantasy makers", it's possibly down to human nature.

The whole thing often reminds me of this Harry Enfield clip... (you can replace the guy with a dominant or a submissive)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FNmBauXYzgc

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RE: Meeting people from CM - 5/25/2009 3:55:41 PM

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For the most part I've met some pretty cool guys from this site, lots of foreigner's surprisingly.

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RE: Meeting people from CM - 5/25/2009 11:09:27 PM

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I met several people from here...

One was a young woman from Tennessee that joined my household for a little over six months.

It does happen, but remember to be careful what you wish for...

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RE: Meeting people from CM - 5/25/2009 11:18:18 PM

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Well, so far I've only met one person from here in person, and she's been exactly as she describes in her profile. Lord knows whether she'd say the same for me, but I hope so. I am greatly enjoying the discourse here, and it sure seems like there are plenty of real people around.

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RE: Meeting people from CM - 5/26/2009 12:14:32 AM

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I wouldn't go out of my way to meet anybody, being stood up has happened a few times, but in case I am in their area or they are in mine, then I will do my best to make time for a cup of coffee and a quick hello.

Even for me?

Well I'd find the 'right' non-commercialized coffee shop for you...and I'd wait patiently for the woman with the accent I can't figure out. I swear I have no accent (don't we all?) but when I lived in England a few Brits thought I was Canadian.

Maybe you'll have to meet me and decide for yourself. A phone conversation just isn't sufficient.

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RE: Meeting people from CM - 5/26/2009 12:45:04 AM

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I suggest that you try to make it in the summer, the British summer will be that rare day of sunshine, make sure you are not too tired or jet-lagged, because you might take a nap and miss it. Since I live here, I mentally categorized the seasons on this island into 2 major seasons, the rainy season and the not so rainy season.

I grew up in SoFL, unfortunately college in TX but then off to England for a year and wow, what crazy historical figure said England has ideal weather? I couldn't believe there was one week - one week - where we had several sunny days in a row, not warm mind you - and then it was gone. And the locals told me that was the summer! And they were right. I love to visit, but that is just not right for humans. We need sunshine.

So when is the friendliest sadist I haven't met yet going to bask in the the endless glory that is sunny SoCal? I promise I'm the girl next door so even if I yelled it (which would never happen) no one would believe I'm hot for some sexy domme. Well, except those that really know me.

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RE: Meeting people from CM - 5/26/2009 3:06:49 AM

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I keep tellin' ya, hon. Some time between July and August.

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RE: Meeting people from CM - 5/26/2009 3:55:19 PM

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I keep tellin' ya, hon. Some time between July and August.

OK LP. I wasn't sure when in the summer. Hopefully I won't be traveling then (be ready for the heat - it's darn hot here in Valley then...100+)...but I'll look for you. Just email me when you're near.

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