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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 3:57:51 PM

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 5:04:23 PM

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Can dominants NOT be assertive?

I'd be curious to see how submissives score on this free personality test:

http://www.queendom.com/tests/minitests/assertiveness_abridged_access.html

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 5:25:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

This is an even more interesting test:

http://www.queendom.com/tests/relationships/social_skills_access.html

I consider social skills to be one of the most important factors in developing chemistry. Are kinky people more/less socially skilled than the mainstream?

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 5:44:37 PM

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On assertiveness I scored 37, but I know that in my case assertiveness is situational. When I teach or train I will move through my comfort zone to behave assertively. The students require this of me to feel comfortable with the instruction.

On social skills I scored 79.

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 5:45:28 PM

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I had 74 on social skills that was nice. I used to be such a gawk. :)

65 on Assertive.

I'm a Switch. It would be interesting to know personality types too. Though it's on my mind this week as I was at a workshop where we did Myers Brigg testing. I came out as ENTP. Supposedly we are great entreprenuers.

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 6:10:13 PM

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Well, personality types differe true... for mine. I'm absolutely owned, and submissive bordering on slave to my Master. However, outside of that relationship, I'm am usually thought to be a dominant person. I'm simply not one who submits to anyone, or even most.

..hope that kinda explains my scores...smiles...

Here's what they wehre, for reference:

On the assertive test, I got a 95.

edited to add: I forgot to paste the explanation for the assertive test here. But basically, I don't have any trouble sticking up for myself.... nor do I bully people or act inapropriately.

Social Skills score 87.

Your results show that your social skills are as sharp as a tack. People most likely feel comfortable with you because you know what it takes to put them at ease, and you willingly use this knowledge to do so. You are fortunate to have excellent social skills because this puts you at an advantage in many ways.

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 6:28:31 PM

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my assertive score was 58

and my social score was 67

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 6:52:23 PM

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Ohhh my...My score was 65

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 7:48:03 PM

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I scored only a 60 on assertive (I was hoping for better or that my shy/quiet days were behind me) and 75 on social skills which I believe because people usually are comfortable around me.

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 9:53:03 PM

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My social score is 76... hmm and here I thought I was anti-social *ss*

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/6/2006 6:03:38 AM

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assertiveness 55

social 69

hmmm....maybe I should be more assertive about being more social?

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/6/2006 6:20:22 AM

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/6/2006 8:04:22 AM

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quote:

I'd be curious to see how submissives score on this free personality test:

this slave scored as follows:

assertiveness test=93

social skills=81

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/6/2006 8:57:49 AM

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I scored 53 on the assertiveness test, 65 on the social skills test

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/6/2006 9:55:17 AM

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Submissive, I got a 80

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/6/2006 9:56:51 AM

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Mine are pretty close to each other on this shorter version of the tests -- note you have to pay for more detailed test and results.

Assertiveness test = 78
Social skill test = 75

Where I have less skills or assertiveness are pretty much the areas I know about based on the questions.

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/6/2006 10:07:11 AM

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Submissive and scored 23. not that suprized.

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/6/2006 10:09:57 AM

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Results of Your Assertiveness Test

Assertiveness
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Your score = 53 Your score

What does your score mean?

According to your results on the Assertiveness Test, you seem to be doing relatively well in standing up for yourself. In most day-to-day situations, you possess the necessary skills and inner-confidence to tell others what you need, think or want. There may be the occasional moment, however, when you find yourself hesitating to declare your view on things. Why not take some steps to improve your ability to stand up for yourself, since you've already mastered the basics? You have nothing to lose, but plenty to gain.

Social Skills Your score = 67

Interpretation

Your results showed that your social skills, although in the mid-range, could use some improvement. Although you are probably fairly easy to be around, you have a few weak areas in your social skills arsenal.

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/6/2006 12:05:59 PM

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I like doing these quiz things! I scored a 90! LOL

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/6/2006 12:13:50 PM

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Well on the first test i got a 50 i can stand up for myself when i have to. on the social i am a little upset i only got a 70 but it did say i am frendly and put others at ease so i guess it is ok.

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