barelynangel
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lol, i read the title of this thread and my first reaction was -- damn you live in a normal house? Damn forget everything else and sell tickets because i doubt people have ever seen such a thing as a normal house especially with kids lol. Sorry, i couldn't resist. My former MAster's home was simply our home, it didn't follow convention, but we also didn't have outrageousness wherein the kids school teacher couldn't come for dinner without us changing from yellow to code red. I think if you don't make a big deal of things -- no one else will. You will find the more you see what you are doing as simply your LIFE with each other and the kids instead of defining things as something not normal, it will seem less conspicuous and a couple years from now you will look at this thread wondering why you thought what you have begun living was seemingly like anything but normal. Take a deep breath and simply react naturally to him, set up the house rules -- not as something unusual but simply like you have NOW -- if you think about it you have established house rules you already follow that you either fell into doing or made a decision on. Now you are just refining them for your pleasure and enjoyment. Don't freak out because of kids or what others will think -- the more comfortable you two are with who you are to each other, the more it will simply be how you to interact versus things people make say OMG too. I was a slave to a Gorean man for 8 years in my past, my parents never even realized, people at work didn't realize, the only people knew how our lives were actualy defined were the people we choose to tell. The kids -- well hell they are adaptable lol. One time a couple girlfriends and i were dancing in the living room and Master's 2 year old twins were dancing too and Master and his friend came in and i danced over to him, knelt in fully obsedience and placed my lips on his boots. Suddenly above me i heard a oh HELL no and looked up startled -- the twins had followed me and had done the same exact thing i did!!! lol except kiss his boots as my hair hid that from view and Master scooped them up under his arms, stepped over me and said -- come on Boys we need to go do some manly stuff and took them out to the garage lol. So yes. your ums will see things sometimes, but it comes down to how you handle it and what you teach them. The twins are now 16 and while they can dance like the BOMB!! They are well on their way to being upstanding and admireable Free Men. The less inconspicuous you feel and he feels about what you do, the more accepting everyone else will be and comfortable they will be around you without you having to go code red so no one realizes. angel
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What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. R.W. Emerson
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