Rainfire
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There have been a lot of good suggestions given already. Some decisions that will things a little easier are deciding how far do you want to go and the extremes because of your current situation with um's in the house. I am collared and married to my Master and Daddy, Lumus. We live a 24/7 D/s dynamic, complete with 4 yo Mr. Smarties in the house. However, our dynamic is at times so discreet and subtle that most people don't catch it, even though I wear my collar every day. (A black patent leather dog collar complete with crystal buckle and heart.) I do things around our place to make HIS life easier, to ease the LOAD off of Him, so that He doesn't have to worry about the little things. And I do my share with the big things too, we have a lot on our plates right now. An example of our day would be me getting up to turn off the alarms, snuggling back into bed to wake Him gently and nicely (a good blow job does wonders for waking a Man up) then while He gets ready for work, I pour His coffee and have it ready for Him, make His lunch and prepare His travel coffee mug so He has fresh homemade coffee to take into work. (He's particular about His coffee and likes it super-strong so I make it HIS way and send some in with Him.) During the day, I do the chores that need to be done, dishes, laundry, vacuuming, tidying, caring for the cats and making sure dinner is started so we eat at a decent time for the family, usually between 5-6 pm. I fix His favourite meals, cooked to His preference. I always serve the kidlet first so the meal can cool then serve Daddy and make sure He has anything He might need like salt, pepper, a drink, bread and butter, that sort of thing, before I start on my own dinner. Because of issues Daddy has had with previous partners, I make sure that we stay under budget, bills get paid, the house runs as smoothly as possible and that HIS pleasure and satisfaction come first. Many a day happens that all He has to do is perhaps take the heavier garbage out (I have a bad shoulder right now) or if anything heavy needs lifting, I can ask for His help. IN return, I am loved and cherished, when having a bad day, Daddy will ask me how the bank accounts are doing and if they're in good enough shape, will order in for us so that I don't have to cook or clean the kitchen that night. He cuddles me close all night and is there when I need Him. He understands me like no one else ever has - including my own family. When we are out and about, people just see that we have an "old-fashioned, traditional marriage", something like from the Victorian age or 50's. We have our looks and light touches that speak volumns to us but say not a word to other people. A discreet tug on my hair can tell me if Daddy is very pleased with me or if I should expect a spanking later on. While I choose my daily clothing, when I shop, I make sure it's something that Daddy will enjoy seeing. I do the same with my hair and makeup, because I wish to please Him. "Rules" are few and far between but there are some. He doesn't like it when I talk with other male dominants without Him around because He knows that I can be a bit on the trusting and naive side. I tend to believe in the good in people first, unless someone really shows their stupidity or assholiness. We're open in all communications so He knows who I am talking with and I know who He is talking with. (There was an issue with communication with a previous partner, hence it's critical for us.) I don't go spill our troubles all over the interwebz without talking with Him first. Really, if I have a problem with HIM, wouldn't it be logical to talk with HIM first? Rather than on a forum or bitch on Facebook about it? So it's talk with Him first, then the girlfriends..... So this is just a slice of our life here. As I said, we're more about D/s and subtlety. It's there, just most people never catch on. Though it's funny how many people comment that they wish they had a marriage like ours!
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"I have sold my soul to the devil for You, will You still love me when I am soiled, stained and souless in my love for You? Or is this the beginning of the end?" Proud member of the Clan Scarlett O'Hair
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