CallaFirestormBW
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I still say that the biggest difference between the two is what the people who are in the relationship choose to call something. Intrinsically, though, and this is strictly my opinion, "submissive" is a state of mind. It is an adjective that describes how someone relates to either one person or to people in general. "Sally is so submissive". It's often -used- as a noun, but really, it's an adjective, meant to describe a way of relating to a person or the world. Slave, on the other hand, is a 'state of being' noun. It describes a specific -thing-... an individual who is kept/owned by another person or group of people. It doesn't specify what that slave does, or how xhe lives... all it specifies is that this is a person whose life is controlled by someone else. The person may or may not be submissive -- in slavery, it really doesn't matter, since if one does not submit voluntarily, one will be compelled to do so in accordance with the situation. What we have in the Western World in BDSM is more of a "voluntary servitude" kind of thing, in my opinion. It requires both someone willing to hold authority (the dominant party) and someone willing to yield up authority (the submissive party). What they call one another really only depends on individual preference, since it isn't possible to actually, legally -own- a person in the Western world. What is -vitally- important is that you ask the person or persons that you're thinking about spending time in a relationship with this question -- and find out whether hir ideas about what these words mean, and what role xhe has in mind for both of you, resonates with what you're looking for in your relationship, regardless of what -words- are tacked onto it. Dame Calla
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