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Drifa -> RE: Fox News tells us why!! (6/19/2009 6:45:56 AM)
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I don't think it as anything at all to do with being spanked or not as children. I bet they could take the same studies and then figure out how many of the exact same study participants turned out to be gay and draw the conclusion "being spanked as a child makes you queer". I see I now have to track down the published paper so I can look at its methodology /sigh.
I am in a D/s relationship because I work in an extremely Type A job role and I desperately need structure, caring, and yes, sensation play when I get home. Having some ritual helps me shed the stressors and angers from the work day and lets me come into a safe haven. That's MY reason, and I got to this understanding after investing time in counseling. The flip side of it is that I do genually enjoy helping others (which appears in both my work and home lives), and that thread provides continuity between work/home, because it makes me good at what I do professionally and it means that I enjoy serving my Lady.
Asking why I am a masochist is a whole 'nother thing from the D/s. Some of my earliest memories are masturbation fantasies back as a really small UM before I was ever spanked, and these fantasies involved masochistic themes. I really just think it's about needing more intense physical sensations sometimes. I mean, sometimes you want a vanilla milkshake. And then sometimes you want habañero salsa! I couldn't live on a diet of habañero, but every so often, my Lady lets me indulge that masochistic side of my nature and it adds a bit of ZING! to the sex and the relationship.
But of course, I don't expect a nuanced understanding of the difference between sadomasochism and D/s from the researchers.
And now I have been given an actual assignment to find the research being cited in the news articles, as my honey leaned over my shoulder just now, so maybe I'll have more to say about the actual study later.
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