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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 6/30/2009 10:06:27 PM   
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Hi Steel,

In responding to someone who uses things like

*facepalm*

when telling others they are idiots or that their posts are invalid, i may tend to use harsher words than in other discussions. However, i do think i was being civil in saying that in discussions, there are differing opinions and that's all this is - a difference of opinions. I also agreed with Belittled that in using words like "equal", people may have different connotations and i am using it in it's very basic, "taoist' way. Equal meaning the same. Not as in more or less valuable, but not equal as in different/not the same. I've said that in multiple posts...i'm not chastising, i'm debating a concept. And i've never used terms lower, inferior etc.

I would argue that everyone does not serve an equal purpose either. A slave serves a very different purpose than a FC, doesn't she? I'm not saying more or less valuable - i'm just saying different....

~ epona

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 6/30/2009 10:08:16 PM   
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Again. For that FINAL time... I was not talking about specific individuals.

It was derived from someone saying that they believed that men were superior and thus were the dominant gender. The point that I am making is there is no dominant or superior gender or race. There are dominant people and submissive people but that resides within the individual, not the race or gender.

You took what I was saying completely out of the context of the topic I was on.

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 6/30/2009 10:10:43 PM   
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Since I can't delete, here is a happy face.

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 6/30/2009 10:12:25 PM   
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Referring back to the Original Post: I'm not a Gorean, but I have read at least 95% (missing several towards the end) of the Gor series, and believe that I can make at least an attempt to "validate" the philosophy, the ways of thought described in the books, and thus those held by those who sincerely (and knowledgeably) try to live according to them.

I first must refute the notion that if a piece of literature is written in the genre of science fiction, it somehow invalidates the ideas that are presented in it. By that logic, one should reject any ideas that are presented in fictional form, from the parables of Jesus or other religious teachers, to the word problems with which we learn and practice mathematics and logic. Actually, if any kind of fiction deserves to have its ideas taken seriously, it would have to be science-fiction, which is often written by actual scientists, or by (as is the case with the Gor books) others kinds of highly educated scholars.

When it comes to the Gor books, however, the fact that it is a science-fiction series has almost nothing to do with the ideas or their value. The various kinds of social ideas and philosophy that appear in that series are drawn from a mixture of scientific and sociological theories and of different real cultures from the history of this planet. The settings of the Gor books are a variety of different cultures said to have been transplanted from Earth to Gor, and adapted to the various different conditions to be found there. The author - as is obvious to those of us who have also studied them - researched these various cultures. So, a large part of what he wrote about has a significant factual basis behind it, although treated with speculation and fantasy as well.

There is nothing particularly outlandish about any of the ideas. There are certainly subjective ideas, and many things that are open for debate. I'm by no means suggesting that people should blindly follow what is written therein. For that matter, the author does not say that anyone should do that... there are quite a few places where the narrative voice says that it is simply describing how things are there, and not making value judgments on it.

So, just what are the ideas and philosophies that we are talking about? Several of the early responders summarized the main points clearly enough, but I'll repeat them. The one thing that most attracts attention is that Gorean societies are almost all dominated by the males. Some mistakenly think that Goreans keep all women as slaves; this is not true, although the books describe beliefs held by some men that all women have an inner slave girl yearning to be "freed" into bondage. As our Gorean "lifestyle" friends so often point out, that is just one aspect of Gorean thought, and not particularly noteworthy in itself (after all, male-dominance IS the way things are among most real human societies; it is mainly just the "PC" wing - and not even all "vanillas" - of modern Western culture that sees things differently, plus a few religions from other areas that have egalitarian beliefs, such as Sikhism and Bahai).

So, aside from male-dominance, the important aspects of Gorean thought that are upheld in the books and by our Goreans are the values and ethics of the various Gorean societies, and the different social classes ("castes") within them. Principle among them are the general values of honor and integrity as being necessary for free people. Within each caste there are particular values that are expressed in what are called their "codes." The main male characters in the books are usually warriors, so the books talk much more about the Warrior Codes than others, but others are mentioned. Just as in real Earth cultures, the values of different classes are different from each other, and sometimes contradict each other. For example, for merchants the pursuit of wealth is the most honorable thing; whereas, for warriors, pursuit of glory and of martial skill is honorable. So, we cannot assume that one Gorean's values are the same as others.

In any case, the value of values is not invalidated no matter where they are described, be it science fiction, ancient myth, or ethical textbooks.

Is there any justice to comparing Gorean ways with Scientology? I see none, aside from the given that both were expressed by science-fiction writers. There are crucial differences. First, Scientology is a religion, based on writings by someone who also wrote science-fiction books. The Gorean way is not a religion. And, although on one hand it is based on things written in a science-fiction series, its adherents are putting those ideas into practice here in the real world; and again, most of them do come from the real world, just not from the modern Western society. Even if the people sometimes dress in ways described in the books, or even bear swords or spears as do the warriors in the books, these are also from the real world, and are no more outlandish (this is a subjective thing!) than the various educational groups of historical reenactors, or creative anachronists (who base things on historical cultures, but play with them more freely and creatively than strict reenactors do).

In conclusion, we can all choose whether we find anything of value or not in the Gor series, but the mere fact that it is written in the form of science-fiction is or should be irrelevant to our choices. That has nothing to do with whether the ideas presented in it have value for us. We have to value ideas based on their truth or falsity and their relevance to us. Any values first have to be known and understood before they can be judged by us. To know and understand Gorean values, one has to either read the books (preferably with knowledge or research about the real world cultures which are relevant to whichever book one is reading!), or learn from those who are knowledgeably and sincerely "Gorean" here in this world. As a second best, I suppose one could talk to non-Goreans (such as me, for one) who are knowledgeable about and not prejudiced against (or for, for that matter) Gorean things. But talking to Goreans is certainly preferable.  

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 6/30/2009 10:16:41 PM   
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epona,

The fact that everyone serves a purpose to someone is where the equality lies.

Everyone serves a purpose, even if that purpose is to serve as a Bad Example.

That being said, and after reading the basis for where much of this came from in the e-mail from tazzy allow me to say the following.

epona, I am sorry, the reply was not necessarily to you you were just the last post when I posted next. The reply was basically to the idea that people in this lifestyle see gender basis as an Inferior/Superior Aspect.

To this I will say the following:

I am not responsible for any other belief system other than my own. If I choose to see the world with rose tinted glasses I will then need to find someone who does as well this way we will see the world as Equals, it does not mean that it is right ot wrong it just IS.

If a Man wants to think women are Inferior to him that is fine he is stuck with a breeding pool that agrees with this idea.

If a woman wants to see herself as Inferior then again that is her perogative.

If someone sees themselves or someone else as being Superior it is always a choice they themselves will make.

The Gorean made a choice and that is their perogative, it does however give them a limited breeding pool.

Who is anyone to play as the voice box for everyone else?

There is nothing more wrong with a Goreans Choice to be Gorean than there is the continued Attacks aginst those individuals personal choices.

Steel

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 6/30/2009 10:19:24 PM   
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Did it ever occur to you to find out WHY people choose to do things that way rather than chastizing them for doing something differently than you do?

Steel

I doubt that people who embrace the whole "rugged individualist" ideal that seems to be what most Goreans are into spend a lot of time putting themselves in the shoes of others.  Empathy is not a strong point for them.  I'll bet they are big Ayn Rand fans too.

I think perhaps the big intercommunication here is a confusion of individual equality of potential with equal rights under the law.  No, everyone does not have the same potential abilities or skills.. how boring would that be?  No competition?  No potential for growth?  Yuck.  However as the Founding Fathers of the U.S agreed, it is self-evident that all human beings are created equal.. and by this they did not mean to imply that everyone is equally strong, smart or anything of the like.. they mean that all people are equally entitled to the rights and privileges that the social contract was designed to protect.  Equally entitled to try their damnedest to achieve whatever goals they set for themselves without being unfairly hindered by others.

Now lets get this straight.  Being the best that you can be is not hindering someone else from being the best they can be.

It is true that greater potential generally means that more resources need to be expended for them to meet that potential.. this is why many of the great achievers in history were tutored privately.  Perhaps today we do not have the means to determine potential and allocate our resources accordingly and it is generally agreed that our entire approach to raising and educating children needs a great deal of work, but this agreement is also a very recent development.  But we are rapidly learning that this is a skill we need to develop; and I believe we will, given time and effort.  We simply have to focus on that goal and work toward it.  It is to our mutual benefit to do so, we simply need to stop being so short-sighted.

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 6/30/2009 10:24:36 PM   
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the very act of submission makes you not equal. equal would not be placing her wants before your own, or yours before hers. they would be mutually satisfied.


I absolutely disagree. You are conflating "equal" and "same." If I have fifteen apples and fifteen oranges, I have EQUAL numbers of apples and oranges; that doesn't suddenly transform the apples into oranges. My owner absolutely considers me his equal - if he didn't, I wouldn't have any interest in serving him. His wants come first because I choose to serve him, not because he is somehow superior to me.

Please stop insisting on speaking for all submissives. If you see yourself as less than equal, that's absolutely your prerogative, but you simply do not have the authority to declare that to be the one and only definition of how D/s relationships work.

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 6/30/2009 10:27:01 PM   
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I absolutely disagree. You are conflating "equal" and "same." If I have fifteen apples and fifteen oranges, I have EQUAL numbers of apples and oranges; that doesn't suddenly transform the apples into oranges. My owner absolutely considers me his equal - if he didn't, I wouldn't have any interest in serving him. His wants come first because I choose to serve him, not because he is somehow superior to me.

Please stop insisting on speaking for all submissives. If you see yourself as less than equal, that's absolutely your prerogative, but you simply do not have the authority to declare that to be the one and only definition of how D/s relationships work.



Thank you for articulating it better than I could.
Whew.

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 6/30/2009 10:29:08 PM   
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Exactly. If I were not my girlfriend's equal, she would not want to be with me. I would not deserve it.

As it is, we are equals. I deserve her. She deserves me. Our relationship has manifested itself in the manner that it has and we are transcendentally happy.

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 6/30/2009 10:29:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: eponavet
In responding to someone who uses things like

*facepalm*

when telling others they are idiots or that their posts are invalid, i may tend to use harsher words than in other discussions.
~ epona

Is this necessary, really?  English is still a living language.  We only started standardizing spelling a short time ago, really, and to be honest, we are fast learning that it was a futile effort.  We will be better off recognizing the hand of fate when we see it.  We will create new words like *facepalm* and standardization will be relegated to technical communications and works of scholarship which are designed to communicate ideas across the ages.  It is inevitable. Forums are conversational.  We cannot expect to set rules here and make them stick.  Give it up or you will be frustrated the rest of your life over this.

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 6/30/2009 10:31:23 PM   
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Good point alanswhore (hehe....that sounds funny coming from me ...)

As Belittled said, we are each using one word and giving it various meanings. I agree that there are varying degrees of equality, depending on the context in which we are using the terms.

~ epona

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 6/30/2009 10:32:58 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Maxwell67

quote:

ORIGINAL: eponavet
In responding to someone who uses things like

*facepalm*

when telling others they are idiots or that their posts are invalid, i may tend to use harsher words than in other discussions.
~ epona

Is this necessary, really?  English is still a living language.  We only started standardizing spelling a short time ago, really, and to be honest, we are fast learning that it was a futile effort.  We will be better off recognizing the hand of fate when we see it.  We will create new words like *facepalm* and standardization will be relegated to technical communications and works of scholarship which are designed to communicate ideas across the ages.  It is inevitable. Forums are conversational.  We cannot expect to set rules here and make them stick.  Give it up or you will be frustrated the rest of your life over this.
I think I might have to add you to my favorites list for this.

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 6/30/2009 10:34:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Maxwell67

quote:

ORIGINAL: eponavet
In responding to someone who uses things like

*facepalm*

when telling others they are idiots or that their posts are invalid, i may tend to use harsher words than in other discussions.
~ epona

Is this necessary, really?  English is still a living language.  We only started standardizing spelling a short time ago, really, and to be honest, we are fast learning that it was a futile effort.  We will be better off recognizing the hand of fate when we see it.  We will create new words like *facepalm* and standardization will be relegated to technical communications and works of scholarship which are designed to communicate ideas across the ages.  It is inevitable. Forums are conversational.  We cannot expect to set rules here and make them stick.  Give it up or you will be frustrated the rest of your life over this.


I was responding to a post from Steel, which i thought was directed at me, so i thought it might have been my choice of words that was the problem, even though i had attempted to be civil in all my posts. It wasn't. However, for me it can get difficult to try and have a debate with people who, rather than discuss the topic, resort to name calling and internet gestures, so i was trying to clarify why my words may have not been as courteous, if that were the case.

*however, now my choice of words might be the issue....

~ epona

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 6/30/2009 11:03:50 PM   
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quote:

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Is this necessary, really? 


I was responding to a post from Steel, which i thought was directed at me, so i thought it might have been my choice of words that was the problem, even though i had attempted to be civil in all my psots. It wasn't. However, it is difficult to try and have a debate with people who, rather than discuss the topic, resort to name calling and internet gestures.

*however, now my choice of words might be the issue....

~ epona

More like My choice of words.  That combination seems almost calculated to make you feel guilty.  As if you already knew better than to expect an unattainable level of decorum here.  It was maybe too harsh a way to call attention to this, just so I could get up on my soapbox yet again about something that has nothing to do with the thread.  Oops.


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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 7/1/2009 12:16:20 AM   
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Can we continue to call to mind the glory and honor of the facepalm?

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 7/1/2009 6:17:42 AM   
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quote:

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the very act of submission makes you not equal. equal would not be placing her wants before your own, or yours before hers. they would be mutually satisfied.


I absolutely disagree. You are conflating "equal" and "same." If I have fifteen apples and fifteen oranges, I have EQUAL numbers of apples and oranges; that doesn't suddenly transform the apples into oranges. My owner absolutely considers me his equal - if he didn't, I wouldn't have any interest in serving him. His wants come first because I choose to serve him, not because he is somehow superior to me.

Please stop insisting on speaking for all submissives. If you see yourself as less than equal, that's absolutely your prerogative, but you simply do not have the authority to declare that to be the one and only definition of how D/s relationships work.



having just took a look at the profiles

have a great day...

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 7/1/2009 6:57:33 AM   
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Greetings everybody,

I think the reason why this discussion is unresolvable from both side's view is because the begin principles of each group's starts off from such a fundamental difference when it comes to basic human rights.

Most people in Western society see human rights as something that is basically and fundamentally ours -a natural birthright.
Goreans have the view that NOBODY is born with fundamental NATURAL rights, instead, the rights we have our granted to us by society.

Because Goreans view that rights are something that are granted to us, instead of something that we are entitled to just by the virtue of being born, they tend to put a much higher emphasise on the duty to society that comes with those rights then our current culture does.
Goreans view that, yes everybody should have those rights, but only if they live up to certain social duties and earn them. To be considered an equal in rights to a Gorean, one has to show that one is responsible and accountable when it comes to living up to the duties connected to those rights.

Therefore, Goreans view the most basic human rights that Western society sees as naturally granted, as something that a person can loose when not living up to the responsibilities to their community. Citizenship for instance is not something Goreans see as something that is granted at birth, but as something that one acquires when coming to age by proving that one is worthy of that citizenship.
Also, Goreans view that citizenship is something that can be lost when one proof that one does not live up to the duties connected to the rights of citizenship, and thus with that, one can loose their most basic human rights.

This hasn't even anything to do with sex or male dominance. Males can loose their rights in the same manner as females can, simple by no living up to their duties. Both sexes when having lost their rights will be viewed equally unequal to people who have maintained their rights, there is nothing in the Gorean culture or philosophy that claims that females are fundamentally less equal then males (and thus nothing that says that females are less valuable then males).
While Goreans do put forward that males and females are not equal in the sense that they are not the same, this is not a judgment of value. The analogy of the apples versus oranges is a good one in this instance, while not the same, they are still equal in number/value as a group.

Females are thus NOT viewed as fundamentally inferior to males from the Gorean point of view. They are two halves to a whole, different, but each with value and function.

When it comes to decision who is superior and inferior, Goreans do not make a judgment based on sex, but instead make a judgment based on the accountability/responsibility/integrity of the individual. A male not upholding the duties that come with the rights to citizenship will be viewed EQUALLY inferior by Goreans a a female not upholding those duties.
 
However, from the beginning the fundamental difference in how Western society views the concepts of rights, versus how Goreans view the concepts of rights makes it nearly impossible to have a constructive conversation about the subject between both groups, because both fundamentally see the whole principle on which the other group bases its argument as flawed and wrong.
 
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The morality of Earth, from the Gorean point of view, is a morality which would be viewed as more appropriate to slaves than free men. It would be seen in terms of the envy and resentment of inferiors for their superiors. It lays great stress on equalities and being humble and being pleasant and avoiding friction and being ingratiating and small. It is a morality in the best interest of slaves, who would be only too eager to be regarded as the equals of others. We are all the same. That is the hope of slaves; that is what it is in their best interests to convince others of. The Gorean morality on the other hand is more one of inequalities, based on the assumption that individuals are not the same, but quite different in many ways. It might be said to be, though this is oversimple, a morality of masters. Guilt is almost unknown in Gorean morality, though shame and anger are not. Many Earth moralities encourage resignation and accommodation: Gorean morality is bent more towards conquest and defiance; many Earth moralities encourage tenderness, pity and gentleness, sweetness; Gorean morality encourages honor, courage, hardness and strength. To Gorean morality, many Earth moralities might ask.” Why so hard?’. To these Earth moralities, the Gorean ethos might ask, ”Why so soft?’

I have sometimes thought that the Goreans might do well to learn something of tenderness, and, perhaps, that those of Earth might do well to learn something of hardness. But I do not know how to live. I have sought the answers, but I have not found them. The morality of slaves says. ”You are equal to me; we are both the same”; the morality of masters says. “ We are not equal; we are not the same; become equal to me; then we will be the same.” The morality of slaves reduces all to bondage; the morality of masters encourages all to attain, if they can, the heights of freedom.



I wish you well,

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 7/1/2009 8:30:32 AM   
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I absolutely disagree. You are conflating "equal" and "same." If I have fifteen apples and fifteen oranges, I have EQUAL numbers of apples and oranges; that doesn't suddenly transform the apples into oranges. My owner absolutely considers me his equal - if he didn't, I wouldn't have any interest in serving him. His wants come first because I choose to serve him, not because he is somehow superior to me.

Please stop insisting on speaking for all submissives. If you see yourself as less than equal, that's absolutely your prerogative, but you simply do not have the authority to declare that to be the one and only definition of how D/s relationships work.



Good girl

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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 7/1/2009 8:35:12 AM   
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RE: Now... is it just me...? - 7/1/2009 8:39:21 AM   
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I absolutely disagree. You are conflating "equal" and "same." If I have fifteen apples and fifteen oranges, I have EQUAL numbers of apples and oranges; that doesn't suddenly transform the apples into oranges.



Yet there is an equal amount of fruit in that case. So take that analogy and apply it to a D/s dynamic and it is still valid.It's all a matter of perspective.


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