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ORIGINAL: Lostkitten3
As to morals versus ethics http://www.philosophyblog.com.au/ethics-vs-morality-the-distinction-between-ethics-and-morals/ try there. The words are often used interchangeably. Morals seem to be the more personal version whereas ethics are more of the societal norm to be followed.

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

If you cannot trust him, how can  you call him "Master"? Relationships are based on trust, it is the foundation and once it crumbles what do you have left? Dust...I would suggest some inner reflection as to whether you want to be with someone who is dishonest, dishonest with you AND the people he is toying with online.

Sorry but I do not view this guy as a Dom or a Master, I see him as a player who uses the title to get what he wants for nothing.

Good luck,
~Lashra

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ORIGINAL: Lostkitten3

Sweetsub: Really? 14 years of not knowing he was a cheating lying dog? I am sorry. That is quite a waste of time. Perhaps reading his emails would have saved you some time and heartache.

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ORIGINAL: Goddess2002

Long story short: I spent last week with my Dom, and during my stay we shared his computer. He left his inbox on another kink site open on the screen,and yes, I read the messages. They were in plain view.

The messages were all initiated by him to sub females. He told them he was free (i.e., uninvolved), and each message seemed to be a sincere attempt to recruit them as potential slaves. He told them he was looking for long term...when he has been telling me he wants ME for life for the past six months! When I asked him about why he lied in the messages (and lied to me...he told me I was the only sub he wanted) he basically said "I was playing online and had no intention of following through."

I had told him before we began training that the only thing that would cause me to request being let go is dishonesty. I have to note that he never agreed to be honest...only that he would protect me and care for me. We had discussed play with others and had agreed that we would be open and mutually engage potential play partners. So,in my fury, I basically told him I wanted nothing more to do with him,and that I was releasing myself. His point was that he is a Dom, a KING, a Master, and has the right to do as he pleases without me questioning him. Of course now I am heartbroken.

So...I am confused. Did I have a right to question him? I believe trust is THE key element within a BDSM dynamic, and I could never see myself accepting a permanent collar and becoming a slave to a Master I don't trust. Does a Master have an absolute right to do as he pleases? Part of me believes that he left the messages open on purpose to prove the point that yes,he CAN do anything he wants, and as a sub, I have to like it.

Any input would be appreciated. Thanks.