NihilusZero
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ORIGINAL: Afrodizzy
In the community we do not judge the methods or the preferences of others, to each their own joys, pleasures. desires, fetishes. We keep an open mind and we each have our own ways.
As much as I keep wanting to feel that this is the default nature of those of us who are part of a social/sexual minority, I keep getting slapped in the face by evidence quite to the contrary that this subset of humanity that we are a part of is any more tolerant than any other. But let's get back to your points.
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ORIGINAL: Afrodizzy
My question; No matter how Dominant or sub or switch or whatever we are, no matter how hard we play, if its sadism, humiliation, masochism or any of the different forms of lifestyles or schools of thought. In the end of the day, can we ask that in the same manner that we do not pass judgement, that we at least respect the general codes of decency and etiquette as we embrace this lifestyle?
Humans are perennially afraid. Even in the WIITWD world where surrender and power exchange is par for the course, everyone still has a line drawn in the sand beyond which something is so inherently and unforgivably wrong, that it must be crusaded against....and that's presuming just a relatively objective viewpoint. Most people, however, couple this crusading with personal traumatic experience and then project their crusading as an altruistic moral story for those who would undertake the same decisions yet actually like and understand them.
Getting into a psychological discussion of what constitutes consent (since psychology is such a soft science and so based on self-diagnosis) would be a long side tangent, but I suggest that if you, I or anyone else can imagine something that two other people would consensually and happily choose to do that is not directly harming and non-consensual person and/or their property and we would get some gut feeling that it's "wrong" and that it should be prevented or their ability to choose that path should be prevented, then you I or anyone else has a big problem with understanding the very nature of the realm we choose to be a part of.
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