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ORIGINAL: Padriag
Perhaps because you haven't been paying attention? Or maybe because you've just got really low standards? Dumb luck on your part? Or maybe you're making things up?
Wait. Are we talking about people who sometimes don't get replies or who never get replies? If the former, suck it up. If the latter, possibly that's a sign they're doing something wrong.
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This sort of thread comes up repeatedly and there are common themes that emerge in all of them. One is, women, particularly if they have an attractive picture, get a lot of email. Another is that women frequently delete a lot of email unread. If it weren't against TOS I'd happily list the profiles of a dozen women who state in their profile that they've just deleted ALL their email unread out of frustration... and none of those journal entries would be more than 2 wks old. Or how about the several women who have commented in this thread alone that they don't read, much less respond, to all their email... and one or two that commented about just deleting everything.
That explains why some replies don't get written. Not why somebody gets very few or no replies at all.
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I'd say there's apparently a lot you aren't aware of. Like how arrogant your response sounded. Just because you've been fortunate to get as many replies as you have doesn't mean your singular experience is in any way exemplorary of anyone elses.
I'm aware of that, I merely don't care. Easy mistake to make. I don't feel the need to mollycoddle people who are oversensitive about their lack of responses. Although, actually, it would have been far more arrogant to assume this was because of some special quality on my part as opposed to asking why other people didn't have this experience.
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If you were paying attention to the number of threads that come up of men asking why they don't get responses... and that not all of them are jerks, assholes, trolls, etc. you might get a clue that simply writing a nice letter isn't guarantee of squat.
I didn't claim it was a "guarantee". If somebody thinks they're entiled to a reply because they write a "nice letter", then it's their own fault. These women are strangers. They don't owe you anything.
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Again, take a look at the large number of women's profiles insisting that if you don't sent a photo with your email, it will be deleted unread.
So send a photo. That was easy.Yes, you might get the occasional technical fault. So mention in your mail you sent a photo.
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I know several dominant men on here, in addition to myself, who have all had the same experience of writing letters to the profiles of women and finding them deleted unread or read but never acknowledged.
All of them? That suggests your approach needs looking at because it's not working.
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Only to find many of these supposed intelligent, thoughtful, polite ladies don't have the time to write even a simple thank you note to a letter that may have taken us a half hour or more to compose including the time spent reading their profile and any journal entries.
Yeah, they don't know you. They aren't your friends yet. And if writing mail seems like a chore stop doing it for a bit. You're taking the net too seriously if that's the case.
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Good for you you have such a high success rate. How about instead of making an snide remark you illuminate us all with your magic method. Assuming such exists.
As you asked so nicely.
- Don't write in the expectation of a reply. That way getting one is nice, as opposed to not getting one being the cause of emoness.
- Fire off a mail and then forget about it. If you have the willpower, don't even check if it's been read or not. It doesn't matter.
- Spellcheck, yo. (That wouldn't seem to be an issue for you, but I suspect it is for some).
- Have a damn good, specific reason for writing to anybody you choose to. Default to not writing to women unless given reason by their profile to do otherwise. I'm saying that, on average, if you're writing more than one mail a week you're probably writing too many. At least if you want to go for the targetted approach. Scattergun is fine if that's your thing, but accept it's likely to lead to a smaller percentage of replies.
- Don't make whiny journal posts about not getting replies, fakes or anything else that's going to make you look really unappealing.
- Don't take it so seriously. It's the Interwebs. It's not serious in any way unless you've actually started to have a proper conversation with someone.
- Be more like me. Because I'm obviously awesome, as you acknowledged earlier. Maybe dye your hair blue?
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