Andalusite
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Noreen, the way you used switch to describe male submissives who don't meet your parameters as "switches" and saying that no Dommes will want them strikes me as a bit out of line. You also attacked me for being a switch, since I am a slave while having a female submissive who I tie up and thwack, and have had a submissive boyfriend in the past. You aren't a moderator, so it's not up to you to decide who gets to post where. Shakti, I have some opinions on why more women don't enter the fields of science and math. I just finished an engineering-related degree 3 years ago, and I was very close to a second degree in math, biology, or chemistry (about 3 classes away for any one of the above). A BS isn't enough to get more than a very poorly paid entry level job in either field. You really need a graduate degree as well as experience, and I think that fewer women have the financial resources to stay out of the work force that long while they are in school, especially if they have familyresponsibilities. Women often are expected (by themselves, their husband, other relatives, and society in general) to carry the bulk of childcare and housekeeping burdens, and working, going to school, and building a family or relationship is *tough*. Part of it may also simply be a lack of interest, for whatever reason, just as more men like hockey while more women like figureskating. Society plays a big part in developing those inclinations, but they rarely outright dictate them. From what I understand from talking with other women, many of them, even ones who are only 10-15 years older than I am, faced a lot of direct pressure away from those fields. I haven't experienced it myself, and used to tutor math through Calculus, Differential Equations, Linear Algebra, Stats, Physics, Chemistry, and Biology on the college and lower university levels. A lot of people who came to me for help had been so intimidated by teachers in Jr. High or High School that they were convinced they were bad at math. A few felt similarly about science, or other subjects, but it wasn't nearly as widespread. I usually was able to help them get to the root of those difficulties (not psychologically, but going back to the basic elements and building the foundation) and help them not only turn their grades around, but start *enjoying* the class. I think women tend to in general be less confrontational than men in a classroom environment, and it can be difficult for them to draw attention to themselves and say that they don't understand, especially if the teacher is condescending or rude about it. Most science and engineering degrees also require a lot of fairly high-level math, even if it isn't likely to be used much in the workplace. As to men having problems with women who suddenly bring up tribute or financial domination (after several e-mails or meeting in person), I can understand where they are coming from. I've had men act like they were interested in me romantically and emotionally, then tell me that they weren't looking for a girlfriend, or didn't have time for one. I was very up-front that I wasn't interested in casual interactions, so it felt a bit like a bait and switch. I felt like they wasted my time, and sucked in my emotions while knowing that they had no intention of offering what I wanted. I can understand *wanting* a relationship and being incompatible - it still can hurt a bit, but I didn't feel lied to. I think that a lot of men have a similar visceral reaction when they discovered that a woman just wanted their money, not *them*. If both people are hot for it and up-front in their desires, go for it!
< Message edited by Andalusite -- 9/9/2009 10:56:52 PM >
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