VvShadowspawnvV
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These types of questions are tough on here, since individual dynamics vary so much, not to mention getting answers from Master, Dom, and Top perspectives will probably run the entire spectrum anyway. So thank you for making distinctions. Personally, I think that sloppy labeling leads to a LOT of unnecessary pain and suffering (not the fun kind) in BDSM relationships. Personally, I do love my girl, although it certainly isn't a requirement in a M/s relationship, and I can see where in some cases it would make things easier not to. I could see how this could especially be a problem in S/m heavy relationships, or D/s ones heavily into objectification or humiliation. Of course "love" is a word I simply use to describe my feelings, and like any other label, could mean other things to other people. To me, it means she brings me happiness, and because of this, I try to do the same for her; I care about her well-being and try to help her grow in ways that are mutually beneficial for us; and I would miss her if she was gone. On the other hand, these feelings are based in her submission to me, and from my experience they can definitely change, sometimes very swiftly. Our personal dynamic is primarily focused on trust based D/s though, and I take extra care to make sure that my feelings don't interfere with things when it comes to my requirements or discipline of her. We have no contracts or limits because she simply trusts me not to take things too far. This level of trust on her part, and my exploration of it, causes a definite bond for us and I don't make any effort to lessen it. I do though, because of this, take extra care to make sure she doesn't forget her condition. Although we aren't really into roleplay, I tend to view her as a pet. If she is good and pleases me, I see no reason not to treat her well, and even admit that I love her. However, if she pees on the carpet and chews up my shoes, or refuses to sit when I tell her to, she will either be punished, or taken to the pound. I don't think the condition necessarily has to exclude the emotion. But that is just me.
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