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littlesarbonn -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/17/2009 9:16:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Quick, littlesarbonn! Look over there!!!!!! /steals littlesarbonn's microwave dinner/ [:D] I just don't get a break....

LadyPact -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/17/2009 9:20:45 PM)
I won't break ya, but I might want to bend ya a little. [8D]

littlesarbonn -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/17/2009 9:22:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I won't break ya, but I might want to bend ya a little. [8D] You're just saying that to be nice....

Andalusite -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/17/2009 9:22:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavekal I have seen so many so-called submissive men who are just looking for occasional free sessions. You either gotta give up some cash, or you gotta be willing to give up some manual labor, or some kind of service. If you just want an hour of play time when the mood strikes you, you have to hire a pro. Back when I did play casually, I didn't expect services, and would have been very offended by an offer of cash. I did get to know them on a friendly basis outside of the dungeon first. I mostly played with couples and switches, but also played with a couple of male submissives and male dominants. That was only for a couple of months at two different points though, when I was fairly recently out of a relationship and wanted a time out before getting back into dating. Once I started dating again, I only wanted to play with guys who were potential boyfriends. I know a few other women here who also play casually, at least some of the time/with some people, without expecting payment or services.

LadyPact -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/17/2009 9:23:27 PM)
These rumors that you hear about Me being nice can not be proven. Big, bad sadist....... remember?

sirsholly -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 1:18:32 AM)
the op has yet to return. I fear we have pissed him off

DarkSteven -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 5:20:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly the op has yet to return. I fear we have pissed him off Which makes me wonder what he had hoped for in posting initially. Probably validation. That or a phone number to the local International House of (Unpaid) Dominas.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 5:54:54 AM)
I have nor will i ever pay for a domme there are tons and mean tons of great dommes out there who are looking for a submissive just got to stay way from those that want a tribute or payment Pro dommes have their place to for those that do not want a relationship are looking to get their quick drive by kink on ok there ya go but if you want a relationship look else where they are out there just be a little picky

lilboycaught -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 6:09:31 AM)
I didn't think the post would get this many responses and I'm sorry if I upset so many people. zincpuppy had the most accurate analysis of my OP. I wasn't asking if female domination was a failure as a concept (it's clearly a fantastic success in my mind) but rather is it a failure as a sociological phenomenon. In the late '90s, it had seemed like femdom was going to be the next "gay." My disappointment was that it never attained that goal, and frankly I blame it on the money thing. I am not trying to be flame bait here. I wanted to have a friendly discussion among like-minded people here. It was basically just trying to ask, "hey, all of you femdom folks, male and female, where are we? Where do we go from here?" That's all. But people either didn't read the OP or read it with a bias because of the title. So we didn't have that discussion. I'd still like to.

GreedyTop -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 6:19:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact These rumors that you hear about Me being nice can not be proven. Big, bad sadist....... remember? fluffy ducks and runs

DarkSteven -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 6:22:19 AM)
OP, you have my respect for sticking around. I don't exactly understand your concept of femdom being the next "gay". Are you saying that you had expected lots of media exposure for it? If do, why would you care that it doesn't get media play? Do you get some kind of personal benefit if femdom becomes considered more mainstream?

Arillis -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 6:27:48 AM)
Your question received responses consistent with and predicated upon prompting and promoting hostility toward anyone voicing diverse opinion. Sarcasm was attempted but failed miserable even though cloaked in the shroud of gang like mentalities..

lilboycaught -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 6:32:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven OP, you have my respect for sticking around. I don't exactly understand your concept of femdom being the next "gay". Are you saying that you had expected lots of media exposure for it? If do, why would you care that it doesn't get media play? Do you get some kind of personal benefit if femdom becomes considered more mainstream? Kind of. It depends on what you mean by "media exposure," but yes, that was the direction I wanted it to take. Femdom in the news, femdom in movies, nearly everyone has a "femdom friend." And nobody feels weird about it. Society just accepting that "a lot of people are just wired that way." And it's no big deal. Nobody disrespects you because of it. I think this would obviously benefit both dominant females and submissive females. We're not freaks. We are perfectly normal people. We're just not perceived that way.

lilboycaught -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 6:34:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arillis Your question received responses consistent with and predicated upon prompting and promoting hostility toward anyone voicing diverse opinion. Sarcasm was attempted but failed miserable even though cloaked in the shroud of gang like mentalities.. Exactly. I won't say another word.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 6:52:16 AM)
There is wide acceptance of the notion of a sexystrong woman. Think Lara Croft. There is, however, not much societal acceptance of a submissive man. Being an occasional bedroom bottom, in order to nail Lara Croft -- that's ok. Being the "s" in D/s, not so much. Also, there is a tremendous change in poll results when hetero men are asked "What do you look for in a partner?" Younger men put the ability for women to make money at very high priority. Men over 40 tend not to mention this at all. Women of all ages do include this, as you might expect.

lilboycaught -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 7:21:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 There is wide acceptance of the notion of a sexystrong woman. Think Lara Croft. There is, however, not much societal acceptance of a submissive man. Being an occasional bedroom bottom, in order to nail Lara Croft -- that's ok. Being the "s" in D/s, not so much. Also, there is a tremendous change in poll results when hetero men are asked "What do you look for in a partner?" Younger men put the ability for women to make money at very high priority. Men over 40 tend not to mention this at all. Women of all ages do include this, as you might expect. Yes, you really kind of hit at the heart of the matter there. Women don't have any problem saying they're dominant. At least not any more. It's cool for a woman to be a "dominant" and has been for probably 20 years (there was a time when it would have been considered "un-ladylike"). On the other hand, to be a "submissive" male -- people still seem to kind of associate that with weakness. And they do this in spite of the fact the contemporary societal belief is that "submissive men are usually very powerful people in society." They would say those very words, yet still believe that a male being submissive to a female is weird, and probably a weakling That's one of the things femdom needs to get past, and the OP was exactly about these kind of issues. Thank god this discussion is finally turning half way intelligent. Yesterday it was idiotic, with all kinds of people reading the title of the post while seemingly never reading the post itself.

slavekal -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 7:27:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Andalusite quote: ORIGINAL: slavekal I have seen so many so-called submissive men who are just looking for occasional free sessions. You either gotta give up some cash, or you gotta be willing to give up some manual labor, or some kind of service. If you just want an hour of play time when the mood strikes you, you have to hire a pro. Back when I did play casually, I didn't expect services, and would have been very offended by an offer of cash. I did get to know them on a friendly basis outside of the dungeon first. I mostly played with couples and switches, but also played with a couple of male submissives and male dominants. That was only for a couple of months at two different points though, when I was fairly recently out of a relationship and wanted a time out before getting back into dating. Once I started dating again, I only wanted to play with guys who were potential boyfriends. I know a few other women here who also play casually, at least some of the time/with some people, without expecting payment or services. You are probably unique. Most women are not looking for this guy and that guy to drop in whenever they feel like it for a free session. I have found that many lifestyle dommes are looking to be served, not just to play. At parties and such, they might just want to play, but on a day to day, they have expectations of their subs.

sirsholly -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 7:27:52 AM)
quote: Thank god this discussion is finally turning half way intelligent. Yesterday it was idiotic, with all kinds of people reading the title of the post while seemingly never reading the post itself. yesterday you were whining...today you are sounding halfway intelligent. [:)]

CreativeDominant -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 7:35:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact These rumors that you hear about Me being nice can not be proven. Big, bad sadist....... remember? ~chokes...coughs...~

Michael3001 -> RE: Is the Female Domination Lifestyle a Failure? (8/18/2009 7:36:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven OP, you have my respect for sticking around. I don't exactly understand your concept of femdom being the next "gay". Are you saying that you had expected lots of media exposure for it? If do, why would you care that it doesn't get media play? Do you get some kind of personal benefit if femdom becomes considered more mainstream? Great question DS. Yeah ill say he does. I think it's pretty clear he has an agenda to water down female power. Must be afraid of it.

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