DavanKael
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ORIGINAL: DavanKael This speaks of a sort of micromanagement that does not appeal to me. While I would certainly be supportive, I would not desire to take charge of every little detail. In fact, I would find it pivotal for the s-type to manage his or her own details in that regard: 'give a man a fish... vs teach a man to fish..." and such. Support and guidance, yep. Micromanagemet, no. Davan Wow! Would you really call trying to get someone to stop smoking, or to lose weight (assuming they really would benefit from it), micromanagement? I would encourage you to re-read my post as you appear to have had a knee-jerk reaction and missed some important facets. Davan Do tell??? Well, I re-read your post. It said, in part: "This speaks of a sort of micromanagement that does not appeal to me. While I would be supportive, I would not desire to take charge of every little detail." So, what, exactly, did I miss? And what, precisely, makes my reply "knee jerk"? The entirety of your reply appeared knee-jerk, starting with "Wow". You also have been sniping at people who don't say what you want on the thread (MarcEsadrian as an example...he says many well-thought-out things, you'd be well-advised to actually read what he writes). Anyway, I said that I would not wish to micromanage behaviors of someone on a task as you noted, however I would be supportive. As an example: if one in my serivce desired to quit smoking, I would be supportive of that (Because I hate most cigarette smoke, though I do indulge in a clove cigarette myself on occasion). Would I make positive comments to that person, be supportive of their endeavor. Of course. Might I even give them a plan for said reduction and cessation: ex, going from 10-7-4-2-1-0 cigarettes per day in a given timeframe. Sure. Am I going to micromanage them and ration out the cigarettes to them, am I going to follow them around to ensure that they're doing what they're 'supposed to be', etc. Nope. Quite frankly, these areas are matters of self-mastery that I think anyone on either side of the kneel should be able to implement for their own reasons. Note my 'give a man a fish... vs teach a man to fish..." statement. The micromanagement on a continual basis makes them too dependent and potentially needy for what I would be comfortable with. I want a grown-up, a partner...regardless of the side of the kneel. Davan
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